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Old 10-17-2017, 03:27 PM
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Just needed to vent a sec. My mom needs surgery soon then later. She helps a lot with my kids. Im afraid she wont wake up from the surgery. She is very sick.

The running like crazy between different jobs, her, my kids and my love finally settling in.

Sometimes I want to go into hiding! I'm tired, but life just likes to keep hitting you. I'll be ok. A good nights sleep will make a difference.

Breathing, but sometimes it is not enough. Something good and positive needs to happen and soon.
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Old 10-17-2017, 03:43 PM
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I feel like you just posted one of my recent letters to my husband. Mom needing surgery and all!!

Boy, do I wish I had the magic words. Typically I'd give the advice to "make sure you take care of you" but realistically, I know how we slide to the bottom of the list in times like this. My husband told me to go do something nice for yourself! a few weeks ago and I almost came through the phone at him.

With what money? what time? and not to be catty, but you do realize you just told me, who's overwhelmed because of what I need to do for others to do something for myself. Great. That sounds really relaxing. I'll add it to the list. Lol

I know his intentions were good, but sometimes all we really need is for things to just stop for a minute. An afternoon of no new demands and no bad news. I hope some space of peace finds you, friend.
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All I can do is offer a hug, so, wrap yourself and feel it!

It is not much but sometimes knowing that others understand too helps. It can feel crushing and daunting when so much faces us but please take care and prayers that things will get better. Hugs again...
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(((HUGS))) One day at a time and you'll get through this. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! I know it's hard especially with kids and worrying about taking care of everyone. I won't tell you to do something for you...because like Miamac said, I know it can be impossible....but a hot bath and a good nights sleep can make a huge difference. Just remember that you can only do what you can...nobody can do everything. So just take it day by day...or minute by minute when it's really hard.
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Thank you all! I wish I had a magic wand and make everything better for all, but alas life does not work that way. This too shall pass. It is just emotionally exhausting.

Plus I'm PMSing, so that doesn't help!

I appreciate all the hugs! Sometimes we just need to say it and get it out of our system. I'm actually going to go clean because I have too much pent up energy that will become anxiety if I don't get it out. Figured something productive and physically exhausting will help. Plus when it is done I'll feel like I did something.

My control issues are whacking out. I can't fix anything. I'm a fixer. Being in the supportive role for everyone is not my forte. I do things and they support. Lol

My love to all!
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I wish I had very wise words but I don’t..... when it seems like everything is closing in— Let go and Let God. Praying for you to find peace.
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Have you enlisted the kids in your efforts? Depending on their ages, you can get quite a sense of community from having them take responsibility for helping. Won't help you working two jobs, doing scheduling, etc., but it will give them some self-regard and you some partners.

Other than that, many hugs; I've been there and done that and felt it, too.
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They do help and help take care of my mom, but they are still young. Sometimes I feel like a taxi service for them. I don't want them to miss out on opportunities either.

Today is better. I was asleep by 930. My coworker just surprised me with a cup of coffee. Haven't had Starbucks in forever.

Before I listened to a few podcasts on gratitude and it helps shift my head.

I want to do everything at once and I can't. I stopped a lot of volunteering and such because I can't do it anymore. I don't have the time. For years, I ran ragged and learning to say no was hard. I'm still learning. Patience and admitting I can't do everything are difficult for me.
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Many of us can relate to where you are in life. The 'sandwich generation'. Taking care of our parents and our own family can wear you out. Getting a good night's sleep is a great start. Remember you can't be good for anyone if you yourself aren't well. So as hard as it may be, 'take good care of yourself'. Prayers have worked wonders for me. I truly believe in the power or prayer and that God has all power. So when I pray I feel like I off load it to the Master and I feel some relief. I'll be praying with you, for a successful surgery and for your strength to endure all that He's put in your capable hands.
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Oneday...I would certainly offer my hiding spot to you if I could. I go to it often and even 10 minutes makes a difference.

Hang in there.
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Thank you all! Five days makes a difference. I am teaching myself yo stay in the moment and focus on having fun in that moment. Break it up into pieces.

I'm sleeping now without any help. In bed by 9 and up at 6. When it gets overwhelming I take a nap when possible. I also have chronic fatigue, so when it hits I'm done. It hit and I had to take care of myself. Slow down because this is not a race.

I'm food. My kids are good. My mom has another test, then surgery. My guy is calmer and settling in.

Everything is hurry up and wait, which can drive you crazy!
I won't allow all this to consume me. Life is meant to be lived.

Your love and prayers are appreciated, received, and returned. Thank you
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When I really need a break I read books, I play with my dog, I walk and just clear my mind of all my problems even if its for a few minutes. I just have to have my down time or I'd be even more nuts then I already am.
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Thank you. I have been much better. This week was insane for me and a lot of people. Everyone was whacking out around me, but was able to find a happy spot in my mind and stay calm.
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Mom just went to the ER. Can't breathe. Please pray
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Oh, no.
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Thank you for the prayer. She is fighting, but we don't know.

I'm trying to hold it together for everyone and it's hard. This year sucks all around. 2018 needs to be better!
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I am sorry... I will be praying for you all! Be sure and take time for yourself. Even if just 10 minutes in the bathroom or your closet to breathe, calm your mind, and say a prayer!
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I am sorry... I will be praying for you all! Be sure and take time for yourself. Even if just 10 minutes in the bathroom or your closet to breathe, calm your mind, and say a prayer!
Thank you. I have been taking it easy. My kids need me to be strong for them, but they also needed to see me break down yesterday as well. It allowed them to release too.

We missed a six car pile up on the waybhome from the hospital, but a second. I almost loved lanes and chose not too. I would have been the first car hit. We talked about gratitude and appreciation the whole way home.
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She came home today! Procedure was done, but it was very close. She is recovering slowly.

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Thank you. Recovery will be slow and she has a lot going on in that body. She is so young too! Tomorrow is the follow up, so hopefully that goes well
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