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Old 08-21-2019, 11:22 PM
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We dont get our family visits for a few years . Any ideas on how to get pregnant?
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Any way you go about doing it can lead to serious issues that will keep you from getting them, too. He'll be written up, you'll be denied visitation.
If it were me, I would look at how long he has to go to FV and how long until he gets home and ask myself if it's worth risking either of those dates.
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Honestly, wait until he's home again to start a family. It's not worth risking to get yourself pregnant. The both of you need to really think really hard about this, it's consequences to everything. It's not worth risking and making thing's more complicated for the both of you.
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Idk how the facilities are set up where you’re at but how tf would you be able to get away with live sperm getting inside you? I can barely get a tongue in my mouth....
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All I can think of is Orange is the New Black.. Lol.
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Why would you want to get pregnant right now? Isn't life challenging enough at this point. I guess you could try to get a pee cup into the prison. And have him drop in There and then hope they stay alive and try to get it inside you once you get home. But my question is why go through all the trouble?
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Easy, find another guy to get pregnant with if you're that desperate to have a baby and hope he can forgive you for sleeping around.


You're not going to be able to find a feasible way to make it happen in visitation without him getting in trouble and you losing visits. In essence....if you don't get it done in one shot, you're screwed, and not in the way you want to be.


Better idea: don't have a baby right now.
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Here is some law about that from 2007

However,in 2003 it was not a right to procreate.

In 2001, it was a civil right issue and more than likely it remains that way today, if the prison facility does not allow conjugal visits..
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Hi there if issue around age and fertility maybe look look into options for having your eggs frozen. It can be expensive but would buy you more time if he has a long sentence.
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Damn everybody is so judgmental ... we have 2 kids already and I don’t want to have kids past 31, so that is our reason for wanting one now ... plus we always wanted all our kids close in age ... you guys are rude AF
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I dont think anyone is being rude AF , however you asked for advice about trying to do something that could potentially lose you your visits and cause you not to get family visits in the future.
The advice is there take it or leave it, its your choice but no one is going to cheer you on to do something that could have serious consequences. You cannot perform sex acts in any visiting room so I am not sure what advice you were hoping for.
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Damn everybody is so judgmental ... we have 2 kids already and I dont want to have kids past 31, so that is our reason for wanting one now ... plus we always wanted all our kids close in age ... you guys are rude AF

Judgemental? I see no judgment; I see realistic, practical and logical comments.


They might not be the comments you wanted to see, but they aren't judgemental.
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Damn everybody is so judgmental ... we have 2 kids already and I dont want to have kids past 31, so that is our reason for wanting one now ... plus we always wanted all our kids close in age ... you guys are rude AF
Uhh... yeah. Were judgmental. Proudly so. Unless your ultimate goal with your kids is how can make sure this kid has the highest possible number of roadblocks to his long term success in life, you need to re-evaluate your family plans. Your husband got sent to prison. That changed things. It HAS to change things. Maybe 3 kids isnt on the table anymore. Maybe your arbitrary cutoff of 31 needs to be amended. Maybe the kids are a little further apart in age than you planned.

Im guessing the felony and trip to prison wasnt planned either. If this is his first trip to prison, youre going to be unpleasantly surprised at your new life circumstances after his release, particularly in the arena of future earning potential. If its not his first trip... then you ought to know better. The statistics are out there for kids with parents in prison. Check them out. Its too late for the older ones but you can at least make the right decisions from here on out, armed with the facts.

Come on now. Its childish to think you can do whatever you want without looking at the consequences. Its cruel and unthinkably selfish to deliberately bring another kid into this situation. And yeah, Im judging you for it.
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Damn everybody is so judgmental ... we have 2 kids already and I don’t want to have kids past 31, so that is our reason for wanting one now ... plus we always wanted all our kids close in age ... you guys are rude AF

No, I was responding with no idea. Now that you've given me details? NOW I'll be judgmental.



I'm sorry, I'm not going to advocate that you breach institutional security for the sake of having a child on an arbitrary timeline that you created with an incarcerated man.



If that's rude, then I have no problem being rude.


I prefer to think of it as common sense.


If you wanted to have a perfect life, that went out the window as soon as he did whatever caused him to be locked up. THERE is your judgment. You've opted to stay with him, which is fine that's your right. But it comes with certain realities and you can't deny what those realities are.


Either change your timeline for having that last kid, find a man who is not incarcerated if you're that hell bent on that timeline, or give up on the idea of child number 3. Those are your choices. Again, if that's rude, I have no problem being rude. Reality is rude. Life is rude. It was rude of you to come here basically asking people how you can break the rules to get pregnant with a man in prison when you can't have conjugal visits, there is no direct legal avenue to artificial insemination, and any insemination method that would be possible would either involve introducing contraband into a correctional facility or performing a sex act in a visiting room.
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I guess you could try to get a pee cup into the prison. And have him drop in There and then hope they stay alive and try to get it inside you once you get home.
Squicky. *shudder*

My kids are all but grown so maybe I am not the one to ask but I NEED my visits with my husband and I would never do anything to cause them to be taken away. I get nervous if our kiss gets a little overt, if you know what I mean.

Also, I know there are a lot of wives/GFs/SO on here that went through a pregnancy alone while their man was down but, wow, I would not want to go it alone on purpose. Too many things can go wrong and it sounds like you have other children depending on you.
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...and any insemination method that would be possible would either involve introducing contraband into a correctional facility or performing a sex act in a visiting room.
...which in turn makes it harder on everyone else trying to visit their LO. Breaking the rules is what put him in prison and took away your option to procreate 'traditionally'. Why would you want to encourage him to keep breaking rules?

Per PTO guidelines we cannot advise you how to get around institutional regulations. We have that policy because we want people to be successful during their incarceration, avoid any disciplinary action and get back home as soon as they are ready and able. If we encouraged you to take those risks, that wouldn't be supporting you, him or your family.
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Damn everybody is so judgmental ... we have 2 kids already and I dont want to have kids past 31, so that is our reason for wanting one now ... plus we always wanted all our kids close in age ... you guys are rude AF
This is the most amazing thread in the history of every single forum I've ever had a chance to read. I'm not being judgmental, I'm being entertained, so thank you for that!
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Nobody being rude AF! You can't say that people are on here being judgmental. By the advice of opinion that's given to you, when you asked a question. The given answers in return aren't going to be sugar coated for you. Take what you need and leave the rest behind. Why would you want to find ways to break prison rules just to get pregnant for the 3rd time? 1)You didn't mention how long he had on his sentence. 2)All you said was y'all don't get FV for a few years. Which again you didn't say how long y'all would be without FV. If you can't wait until y'all get FV or until he's released. It's nothing else you can do butWAIT!! Why break the rules of the prison just to find a way to sneak to get pregnant? Just because you don't want to have your 3rd past the age of 31, and you want all the kids to be close in age. It's not worth losing visitation forever or him getting into a lot of trouble behind it. You rather lose privileges in the future with your husband over a risk to get pregnant by trying to be sneaky? I get y'all had goals on how y'all wanted to have kids. But them goals change once he got incarcerated! Whatever plans y'all had far as growing y'all family, has to be put on hold. All you can do once again is WAIT! Until y'all get FV or when he's released.
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Seriously. No ones trying to be rude or make you feel any negative way. Just being realistic.

Taking that risk can lead to many things. Do you want to get conjugal visits taken away before you even get them? Take a risk that will keep your children from seeing the father? Hurt the children you have now just to *try* for another?
That's crazy.

Obviously your ok with the idea going through pregnancy, delivery and raising it alone. But I would never chose that. Even with me liking my kids close in age. If I knew my man was going back in I wouldn't have got pregnant. It was so/is hard doing it alone. He misses everything and its possible when she sees him again she wont even know who he is. How heartbreaking is that.
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Huh ? Whos angry lol .. Im just saying ... people jumped to their own conclusions & made it a big ass deal .... it was just a question . If you dont agree you dont agree I aint mad tho
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You also run the risk of a sex charge if you do anything on the visit floor. You both could be charged, lose visits, he wont be able to parole to you and your children.
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Not exactly in line with everyone but I have a situation kinda in this spirit. I am 44, shes 42, and I never wanted to have a child but in the last year I have some instinct that sorta kicked in and I have now a desperate feeling that I want to have a child with my girl I know my plan is to wait till she gets home, but of course at one point when we were fighting the case it got really serious because the times we were looking at were disheartening.

Now in my life I have an ex which has two kids from a previous that I pretty much raised and they are perfect and I do everything for them. But the situation happened that I had this thought came over me that I want to have a child with MY girl and I want to "make" a child. Like in my logical mind I would adopt, or do so many other things but its like something natural and instinctual or something....

So maybe in another world, I could say that in a maternal sense, some kind of time where you have a passion to make a child despite the odds. Human basic desperate need to procreate kinda thing... You would suffer whatever disciplinary ramification to achieve the opportunity to make a child. I mean in my case being that I never had a child of "my own" and unfortunately my blood line for my family stops at me as well. It becomes a "higher stakes" situation?

Now that being said, merely a preference would not be enough for me to contemplate all the drama.

Just another way to look at it I guess.
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