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Old 04-20-2017, 12:19 PM
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Default Just found out I'm pregnant

Idk what to do. I just found out I'm pregnant and my boyfriend has only been locked up for two weeks, in for two years, but we're hoping he can get out in a halfway house in 6 months. Still not 100% likely. I can't afford a baby on my own, I have no one, and what happens if I have to go on bedrest, or after the baby is born, I can't not work for 6 weeks, I have no one else to pay my rent. Idk what to do, I'm freaking out. Any advice?
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Old 04-20-2017, 12:45 PM
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I'm sure you're scared and overwhelmed, you also might be drowning in what-ifs. Are you generally healthy? If so, try not to jump too far ahead on medical complications. It's responsible of you to be aware of those things, but borrowing worries isn't going to help.

If there is a Planned Parenthood near you, I would suggest making an appointment and talking to them. They can present you with information and help you find resources.

There are also faith-based services available if you want to pursue that route. A Google search for your area can direct you toward those.

If you're not quite ready to talk to someone in person, I'm a big fan of CrisisChat.org. I've used their services. They are very helpful.

Find out how far along you are, talk to a crisis counselor and try to breathe. Then you can start making a plan.
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Yes I'm pretty healthy. Thank you for the kind words. I will try the crisis councelor and I'm actually currently at planned parenthood haha.
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I can imagine how scared you are. Sometimes the things we least expect can turn out to be our biggest blessings. Try to focus on the positive. Things may not be easy, but they will work themselves out. It may be scary right now, but you have been given a true gift. Hang in there.
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It must all seem very overwhelming.It seems like you are seeking support and that is a good thing for you and your baby.
Take all the help available and your health and your babys health a priority.
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echoing the others:


Little bitty steps forward, one at a time.
Figure today out first and try not to "what if."

There's a tremendous amount of experience and support here, don't be a stranger!
One Day at a Time
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Congratulations!! How wonderful that this blessing is coming! My son had a brief fling just before he went off to prison for nearly two years. A child was conceived. My son really didn't know the gal and I knew her not at all. She lives 4 hours from me. He was in prison when the little boy was born. She had help from her family. My son met the child just before he turned two. Meanwhile I had kept in touch w the mom. My son and she didn't stay together but I never stayed out of touch. My grandson is now almost nine. What a cool little man. Such a loved and loving child. We talk and text and he comes to stay when he has school breaks. I'm so happy he's in the world!! All will be well. Don't worry in advance. Hugs!!
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I was 8 mths pregnant when he violated. I delivered alone. She's now 14 weeks old and so precious. He'll be out this summer. I take her to county 2x a week so he can see her
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