Welcome to the Prison Talk Online Community! Take a Minute and Sign Up Today!






Go Back   Prison Talk > FOR FAMILY & FRIENDS > Husbands & Boyfriends in Prison
Register Entertainment FAQ Calendar Mark Forums Read

Husbands & Boyfriends in Prison For everyone who has a husband, boyfriend or male partner incarcerated.

Reply
 
Thread Tools Display Modes
  #1  
Old 03-31-2010, 02:40 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Default Help! Just found out I am pregnant & I need to tell him!

Hello all, I am very new to this. I just found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant with a man who has 2 years. I am very confused and emotional about all of this. He is currently being processed, so I have no idea how to get in touch with him.. I HAVE to tell him. And SOON! I want him to know that he is going to be a dad. Any thoughts??
Reply With Quote
Sponsored Links
  #2  
Old 03-31-2010, 02:44 PM
cik607's Avatar
cik607 cik607 is offline
II SOOPA STAR
Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: Gardena, CA
Posts: 467
Thanks: 527
Thanked 533 Times in 194 Posts
Default

If you know where he's being processed you may want to send him a letter and have him call you.
__________________

Reply With Quote
  #3  
Old 03-31-2010, 02:47 PM
Csmcgrl23's Avatar
Csmcgrl23 Csmcgrl23 is offline
Fairy Fed Mother
 

Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 7,134
Thanks: 5,077
Thanked 3,224 Times in 1,393 Posts
Default

Write a letter or wait for him to call...probably both.
__________________
We are what we do, not what we did. Now if we continue doing what we used to do, we can't be upset that we are still what we were.


GO BULLS!!!
Reply With Quote
  #4  
Old 03-31-2010, 02:50 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Default

Well they said he was going to go somewhere to be processed, but is that where he is going to end up? Does anyone know how long until I can see him or call him?
Reply With Quote
  #5  
Old 03-31-2010, 03:01 PM
NewHorizon's Avatar
NewHorizon NewHorizon is offline
A fresh start
 

Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: PA, USA
Posts: 1,941
Thanks: 2,015
Thanked 1,418 Times in 841 Posts
Default

Unfortunately, it varies on the time frame. Some prisons are quicker than others. Do you have any idea where he went? Can you look him up on an imate locator? If you can get his address, I would atleast send him a letter informing him; it should lift his spirits if he would be excited about it. I know it is a scary thing. I was 8 weeks pregnant when my husband got sentenced, so I have done this journey alone. Remember, that you are not alone, PTO is always here for you. Having a child is a miracleous thing, and a gift from God. You can PM me anytime if you have any questions. Good luck!!!
__________________

-Formerly known as Dennisgirl-

A fresh start for my kids and I because we are worth it!!
Reply With Quote
  #6  
Old 03-31-2010, 03:13 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Default

Well today is a holiday so I will not be able to find out until tomorrow...I want to see him face to face, but i know that is not possible. I hope he will be excited. I am not sure, we were not actually together, giving space at the moment. I just need to talk to him, i am soooo frustrated!!
Reply With Quote
  #7  
Old 03-31-2010, 03:22 PM
Csmcgrl23's Avatar
Csmcgrl23 Csmcgrl23 is offline
Fairy Fed Mother
 

Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 7,134
Thanks: 5,077
Thanked 3,224 Times in 1,393 Posts
Default

Holiday today? CA doesn't have an inmate locator as far as I know, it's really hard actually to find inmates in California if you don't know where they are or you don't have a lot of information on them. You can try Vinelink but IDK...I put in information of a friend that I know is in CA...I know where he is but he doesn't come up on Vinelink. Time frame for processing depends...it could be a couple of weeks, it could be months. So you don't know where he went at all?
__________________
We are what we do, not what we did. Now if we continue doing what we used to do, we can't be upset that we are still what we were.


GO BULLS!!!
Reply With Quote
  #8  
Old 03-31-2010, 03:27 PM
scorpnqn scorpnqn is offline
"One Love"
 

Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: West Coast
Posts: 1,282
Thanks: 258
Thanked 349 Times in 270 Posts
Default

I would just write him a letter to his last known mailing address, although by the time he received the letter he might had already called you.

Congratulations!
__________________
LOVING MY HUSBAND!!!



Reply With Quote
  #9  
Old 03-31-2010, 03:33 PM
RoddasMaMa's Avatar
RoddasMaMa RoddasMaMa is offline
TIL THA CASKET DROPS!!!
 

Join Date: Sep 2009
Location: MAMA~VEGAS PAPA~CALI
Posts: 425
Thanks: 558
Thanked 126 Times in 98 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by flygirl1198 View Post
Hello all, I am very new to this. I just found out that I am 6 weeks pregnant with a man who has 2 years. I am very confused and emotional about all of this. He is currently being processed, so I have no idea how to get in touch with him.. I HAVE to tell him. And SOON! I want him to know that he is going to be a dad. Any thoughts??


well 4 one...CONGRATS ON THE NEW BABY!!!!
im sure as soon as hes done being processed you will be able to find out where to contact him hopefully it wont be too long!!!!

the love of my life went in when i was 2 months pregnant and he has 85% of 4 years!!!this is both of our first child so believe me its scary!!!ive only saw my love once since he has been in and he hasnt gotten the chance to meet our gorgeous son yet!!i was new to all of this too but im getting by even though its the hardest thing to be without him throughout this i couldnt be happier and my son brings so much joy to my life i just gotta keep on pushin try not to get too down about all of this.........i usually cry a lil everyday but 4 the most part i feel pretty damn strong!!!!

good luck hun hopefully you get to contact daddy soon and you can ease your mind a lil not good stressin so early in the pregnancy!!!
__________________

MISSIN HIM MORE THEN A BLINDMAN MISSES SIGHT!!!!

Last edited by RoddasMaMa; 03-31-2010 at 03:34 PM..
Reply With Quote
  #10  
Old 03-31-2010, 03:48 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Csmcgrl23 View Post
Holiday today? CA doesn't have an inmate locator as far as I know, it's really hard actually to find inmates in California if you don't know where they are or you don't have a lot of information on them. You can try Vinelink but IDK...I put in information of a friend that I know is in CA...I know where he is but he doesn't come up on Vinelink. Time frame for processing depends...it could be a couple of weeks, it could be months. So you don't know where he went at all?

Today is Ceasar chavez day, believe I did not know either!! We do have an inmate locator but since he has been transferred from where he was for the last couple weeks, they will not tell me what prison he went to. I hope that it does not take months!!!!
Reply With Quote
  #11  
Old 03-31-2010, 03:51 PM
ALWAYS HERE 4 M's Avatar
ALWAYS HERE 4 M ALWAYS HERE 4 M is offline
Still loving my hubby...
 

Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: California, USA
Posts: 4,737
Thanks: 1,920
Thanked 1,621 Times in 1,178 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by flygirl1198 View Post
Today is Ceasar chavez day, believe I did not know either!! We do have an inmate locator but since he has been transferred from where he was for the last couple weeks, they will not tell me what prison he went to. I hope that it does not take months!!!!

Today is not a county holiday. You should be able to call. If he is in LA County or was in LA County and on his way to reception you can go to www.lasd.org. Search inmate information and at the bottom of the page it will show custody release to whatever prison he was sent to. Hope this helps. Good luck!
__________________







Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to ALWAYS HERE 4 M For This Useful Post:
Csmcgrl23 (03-31-2010)
  #12  
Old 03-31-2010, 04:04 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by RoddasMaMa View Post
well 4 one...CONGRATS ON THE NEW BABY!!!!
im sure as soon as hes done being processed you will be able to find out where to contact him hopefully it wont be too long!!!!

the love of my life went in when i was 2 months pregnant and he has 85% of 4 years!!!this is both of our first child so believe me its scary!!!ive only saw my love once since he has been in and he hasnt gotten the chance to meet our gorgeous son yet!!i was new to all of this too but im getting by even though its the hardest thing to be without him throughout this i couldnt be happier and my son brings so much joy to my life i just gotta keep on pushin try not to get too down about all of this.........i usually cry a lil everyday but 4 the most part i feel pretty damn strong!!!!

good luck hun hopefully you get to contact daddy soon and you can ease your mind a lil not good stressin so early in the pregnancy!!!

Exactly what you said! I am stressing!!!! I am glad that there are people out there that have gone through what I am going through....Yea, my BFF says just wait til your baby is born and your baby will bring sooo much happiness to your life. but the bottom line is I need to tell him. I guess I just wish it was alot easier you know!!
Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to flygirl1198 For This Useful Post:
RoddasMaMa (03-31-2010)
  #13  
Old 03-31-2010, 04:40 PM
Csmcgrl23's Avatar
Csmcgrl23 Csmcgrl23 is offline
Fairy Fed Mother
 

Join Date: Sep 2004
Location: Los Angeles, CA
Posts: 7,134
Thanks: 5,077
Thanked 3,224 Times in 1,393 Posts
Default

The courts are closed today. Yes LA County has an inmate locator but once they are moved to prison there really isn't a locator in that sense. I'm not understanding if you know where he went or not? How long has he been locked up? Obviously 6 weeks or less...but did you know he was about to do 2 years? Did he call you from county? Did you visit him there?
__________________
We are what we do, not what we did. Now if we continue doing what we used to do, we can't be upset that we are still what we were.


GO BULLS!!!
Reply With Quote
  #14  
Old 03-31-2010, 04:54 PM
davivi's Avatar
davivi davivi is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: Philadelphia,PA
Posts: 276
Thanks: 341
Thanked 118 Times in 92 Posts
Default

Congrats on the baby I'm sure you can write him a letter or wait until he calls you because he's probably going to call you really soon
__________________


Reply With Quote
  #15  
Old 04-01-2010, 02:14 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Unhappy

Quote:
Originally Posted by Csmcgrl23 View Post
The courts are closed today. Yes LA County has an inmate locator but once they are moved to prison there really isn't a locator in that sense. I'm not understanding if you know where he went or not? How long has he been locked up? Obviously 6 weeks or less...but did you know he was about to do 2 years? Did he call you from county? Did you visit him there?

I heard that he got 2 years from a friend of his...He has only been locked up for 2 weeks. He did not call? I do not think he would know my # by heart. I tried calling the 916# but it has been busy all day..I really do not know what else to do??
Reply With Quote
  #16  
Old 04-01-2010, 02:29 PM
truelove1 truelove1 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Dallas Texas
Posts: 33
Thanks: 1
Thanked 9 Times in 7 Posts
Default

First, congratulations, but don't be stressing too hard. Not good, especially since you just got pregnant. Take it easy, you're excited and want him to know, but just slow it down some. May not be anything you can do for a few days since it is a Holiday weekend. If it was me, I'd be calling the courts / units (I don't know how things work there, I'm sure a lot different than Texas) anyways, I would think if you were able to contact the right offices, they'd be of some assistance for you! Have you tried posting something on the CA. forum to see if someone could be more help to you?
Reply With Quote
  #17  
Old 04-01-2010, 02:31 PM
ALWAYS HERE 4 M's Avatar
ALWAYS HERE 4 M ALWAYS HERE 4 M is offline
Still loving my hubby...
 

Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: California, USA
Posts: 4,737
Thanks: 1,920
Thanked 1,621 Times in 1,178 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by flygirl1198 View Post
I heard that he got 2 years from a friend of his...He has only been locked up for 2 weeks. He did not call? I do not think he would know my # by heart. I tried calling the 916# but it has been busy all day..I really do not know what else to do??
Does the inmate locator show a custody release?? It should show his SP status too. He won't be transferred until he hits SP4. If he is still in county calling the 916 # won't help you. Good luck!
__________________







Reply With Quote
  #18  
Old 04-01-2010, 02:44 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Default

Yes. It does show, it said 3/29. What is SP status?
Reply With Quote
  #19  
Old 04-01-2010, 02:59 PM
PTO-110524 PTO-110524 is offline
-----------------------
Donation Award 
 

Join Date: Apr 2007
Posts: 17,041
Thanks: 9,979
Thanked 18,160 Times in 7,204 Posts
Default

In California, inmates transfer from County, post sentencing, to a "reception" prison. There are about 8 of them or so.

He will be there for a few months while he's processed and classified (minimum, medium or maximum security, etc) and then he'll be shipped to his mainline prison.

The best advice I can give is to be on the phone to the Inmate Locator at 7:55am and just keep hitting redial. I can tell you that the Inmate Locator won't have his info for 5-7 days after he leaves County. Looks like he might have shipped to state on Monday (3-29), so you can try calling again tomorrow morning and hopefully get through.

CA Inmate Locator = 916.445.6713 You will need his full name and DOB.
Reply With Quote
  #20  
Old 04-01-2010, 03:21 PM
ALWAYS HERE 4 M's Avatar
ALWAYS HERE 4 M ALWAYS HERE 4 M is offline
Still loving my hubby...
 

Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: California, USA
Posts: 4,737
Thanks: 1,920
Thanked 1,621 Times in 1,178 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by flygirl1198 View Post
Yes. It does show, it said 3/29. What is SP status?

If it shows custody release it will say where he went, If you want to PM me his info I will look it up and help you out. Let me know!
__________________







Reply With Quote
The Following User Says Thank You to ALWAYS HERE 4 M For This Useful Post:
PTO-110524 (04-01-2010)
  #21  
Old 04-01-2010, 04:32 PM
directedpaths's Avatar
directedpaths directedpaths is offline
REUNITING LOVED ONES
 

Join Date: Apr 2010
Location: ca/usa
Posts: 5
Thanks: 0
Thanked 10 Times in 2 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by flygirl1198 View Post
hello all, i am very new to this. I just found out that i am 6 weeks pregnant with a man who has 2 years. I am very confused and emotional about all of this. He is currently being processed, so i have no idea how to get in touch with him.. I have to tell him. And soon! I want him to know that he is going to be a dad. Any thoughts??
hes being processed in prison..so if hes in reception it could be 2-3months before u hear frm him..if he just left county to go up state...he will contact u when the process is done..soon as he does via mail or letter inform him. Until thentake care of urself and enjoy being a mommie
Reply With Quote
  #22  
Old 04-01-2010, 04:41 PM
mommy86 mommy86 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: With my babe and baby, CA
Posts: 222
Thanks: 166
Thanked 35 Times in 31 Posts
Default

Congrats on the baby...Well dear, the 916 number is always busy but try first thing in the morning and try for as long as possible. I had to do that myself. They also accept faxed request I believe. I was 5 months preggo when my fiance was being processed. It took a little over 1 month forhim to get mainlined, but while he was in reception I couldnt talk to him, only through letters, until our 1st visit (when I finally got approved). Once mainlined, I went to see him even the day before I was about to be induced..hehe..It can be lonesome, but if you love him and you want this baby, then it is priceless and worth the effort and wait. God Bless you
__________________



Reply With Quote
  #23  
Old 04-01-2010, 05:26 PM
flygirl1198 flygirl1198 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Los angeles, CA
Posts: 12
Thanks: 0
Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by mommy86 View Post
Congrats on the baby...Well dear, the 916 number is always busy but try first thing in the morning and try for as long as possible. I had to do that myself. They also accept faxed request I believe. I was 5 months preggo when my fiance was being processed. It took a little over 1 month forhim to get mainlined, but while he was in reception I couldnt talk to him, only through letters, until our 1st visit (when I finally got approved). Once mainlined, I went to see him even the day before I was about to be induced..hehe..It can be lonesome, but if you love him and you want this baby, then it is priceless and worth the effort and wait. God Bless you
See that's the thing, we were not actually together BF and GF. We just hung out alot and were there for each other, but not necessarily dating. It just seems like it is going to be a WHILE until I am able to tell him that he is going to be a dad. Which totally sucks. I definitely want this baby, but I just want to make sure that he is onboard with it. But that does not look like its going to happen for a while.....
Reply With Quote
  #24  
Old 04-19-2010, 12:22 AM
mommy86 mommy86 is offline
Registered User
 

Join Date: Oct 2009
Location: With my babe and baby, CA
Posts: 222
Thanks: 166
Thanked 35 Times in 31 Posts
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by flygirl1198 View Post
See that's the thing, we were not actually together BF and GF. We just hung out alot and were there for each other, but not necessarily dating. It just seems like it is going to be a WHILE until I am able to tell him that he is going to be a dad. Which totally sucks. I definitely want this baby, but I just want to make sure that he is onboard with it. But that does not look like its going to happen for a while.....
well girl, God gave us the burden of child birth 'cuz he knew we'd be strong. As long as you know you can handle this by yourself, cuz you'll probably be doing this by yourself sicne he is in, and I always say that children are mommy's babies, daddy's maybes. But Good Luck and if u need someone to talk to just pm. I've been through all the emotional rollercoasters you can ever imagine. xoxo
__________________



Reply With Quote
Reply

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump


All times are GMT -6. The time now is 03:20 AM.
Copyright © 2001- 2017 Prison Talk Online
Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.7.4
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Website Design & Custom vBulletin Skins by: Relivo Media
Message Board Statistics