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Old 08-27-2016, 08:26 AM
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I'm sorry this happened to you. My boyfriend, well ex-boyfriend now, just broke up with me after 6 years of supporting him. Of course he has less than 90 days of being released. I can honestly say that I saw it coming though. It just seems like he's been looking for a reason to break it off. Constantly accusing me of this or that, when I've been totally faithful and celibate for all these years. Part of me is sad, however, a bigger part of me is relieved. Trying to be in a prison relationship is hard on you both emotionally and financially. So after talking to him 2-3 times a day for the last 6 years without missing a beat, this joker breaks up with me on Jpay over something that happened a year ago! I'm thinking this mofo is so obvious. Some days I feel played, BUT, overall I'm good. I think because I know that everything I did for him was from my heart. At the end of the day, I know I'll be blessed and he'll have to pay one way or another. When I start feeling bad I read Psalm 37 and it helps me through that moment. Reading posts from you all helps too, so thank you all for sharing. I'm getting stronger everyday.

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I'm very sorry your going through this but it seems like you're handling it very well.
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So sorry and dont feel bad that he used you. He will learn one day when life doesnt seem all cheery and perfect on the outside that you are the good one that got away. He will know what he lost soon enough. And, let it ride.
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I am sorry to hear to that you are going through this. All I can say is it sounds like you are better off without him. Not much comfort right now but if he can do this to you after you stood by him for 6 years he cares nothing for you and you deserve so much better.
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Part of me is sad, however, a bigger part of me is relieved.
Very sorry for what happened I think your above statement is telling though: your heart knows you will be fine...and free to move on with your life to better things
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Sorry he used you like this.. karma is real.. I would change my number if I were you. He will 1000% try to contact you at some point after he gets out. Whenever his plan A unravels he will try to get ahold of you.
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I'm sorry this happened to you. My boyfriend, well ex-boyfriend now, just broke up with me after 6 years of supporting him. Of course he has less than 90 days of being released. I can honestly say that I saw it coming though. It just seems like he's been looking for a reason to break it off. Constantly accusing me of this or that, when I've been totally faithful and celibate for all these years.


"This too shall pass."
"Fret not yourself because of evildoers..."

Yep. that is how it starts it seem.(Right before he get out.)But you're going to be fine.You're a great lady. Celibate like me, and loyal to the bone. Don't let it define your life. He will get his bad karma one day. You're going to get over this,but it take time. PM me anytime. Just keep moving on. This might be a blessing in disguise. Sometimes it just take time to realize that Pink. I see now why "some"ladies astute imo leave prior to him getting out. Or remain just a friend, best friend til he out. i see it more now...
Hang in there pm me anytime. This is his loss. Not yours. Hugs prayers your way tonight
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You'll be fine. What don't break you makes you a stronger person. In my book that I am currently writing, I will talk about my friendship and relationship with my ex who happens to be one of the world's biggest pop stars.

We got married while I was serving out fifteen years on a murder charge. I thought the world was coming down on me after our divorce. But to be truthful it made me into the man that I am today.

The first law of nature is to love thyself. So build a relationship with yourself. Try doing something that's challenging.

I'm glad to have become a part of this network to connect with some brave hearts. Peace Love and Happiness. Tony Chill Mitchell
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I have also been going through a very similar situation and even though it hurts, find comfort in the fact that your love and support were not spent in vein. What goes around will come around and people do reap what they sow, not to wish bad for him but only more abundant blessings for your future. Keep your head up boo!
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Karma cafe is going to serve when it needs to. You are better than that and it appears you are handling this all very well. Be strong and know that you did your best to love him and are now healing and moving on.
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MY mwi, divorced me for his high school sweetheart after 9 years... so dont feel bad , it happens to the best of us, you will be alright
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