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View Poll Results: Would you take his last name once married ?
Dont have to ask me twice.....wheres the closest DMV ! 1,582 77.59%
Maybe if he really pushes it.... 30 1.47%
hypnate it, keep mines and add his.... 264 12.95%
I might once he gets out...... 98 4.81%
Probably not ........... 65 3.19%
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Old 12-18-2010, 09:35 PM
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I want to take his last name...I so look forward to it.

However, I get told (frequently) by my Muslim sisters that as a Muslim woman I don't have to take my husband's last name (actually, we're advised against it) since the purpose originally for a woman taking the last name was because she was then considered her husband's property, and in Islam, we are NOT our husband's property.

BUT....my last name has no meaning to me at all. It's not my biological dad's last name and it's not my mom's last name (it's that of a previous step-dad). I'd much rather my name have significance...so, I want to take his last name.
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Old 12-26-2010, 01:23 PM
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We have not set our date for our wedding yet, but it will be 2011. As soon as I have my marriage cert. I will be changing my name. I have waited more than 20 years to have his name! He already sends his letters to me with his last name and I do the same (the mailman must be like who the heck is this LOL).
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Old 12-26-2010, 02:37 PM
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I hyphenated and you know what... My original last name is pretty long and so my whole name doesn't fit on anything... People still call me by my last name. So I'm thinking of changing it to my last initial and then add my husbands... If not most of my mail will have his name cut off and I would have to keep correcting EVERYONE on saying my FULL name and not just the first part...

So moral of the story, if you both have kinda long names maybe keep only your last names initial and then add hubbys name...

My name 10 letters, his name is 8 so with the actual hyphen my name is 19 characters long... lol
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Old 12-26-2010, 02:46 PM
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Wait I just read something on here... When you get married in jail/prison you don't have the part on the application for the license that says what is your name now and what will your name be after you are married? Cause mine did, and from when we got married my certificate had my new last name which means my name is officially that now... All I had to do was show it at the dmv and social security. So is it different if your married in prison?
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i will love to take his last name.. our daughter has his last name so id be like odd man out if i didnt. lol.. to me, havin his last name would make it a little more official haha.
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Old 01-09-2011, 06:25 PM
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Im going to take his as soon as it is over. He already calls me by his last name so might as well get it crackin!
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Old 01-10-2011, 06:23 AM
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I already did and I couldn't be happier.
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Odd girl out....didn't take the name. I figured that since he married m.t. he might want to actually wake up to m.t. I am who I am and I guess I figure that's who he wants to be married to; why would he want to marry me and find I was someone else the next day; someone else new name and all.
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Yes I would definitely be honored to have his last name to cherish into infinity.....
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Old 02-10-2011, 09:09 AM
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We are not married yet but soon if we can get the darn packet in our hands lol. But I am not taking his name he is taking mine lol. I dont wanna change mine cause family reasons so he made the decision to change his last name. Even though in my heart I am a Martinez legally I aint. Me and my love are proud to be the non-traditional couple. lol He says jokingly its cause he is WHOOPED lol
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Old 02-22-2011, 06:34 AM
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I'd take his name in a heartbeat. It has a ring to it. I also would consider hyphenating it, but once it comes down to it, I just wanna be with him (no matter what last name i choose).

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Old 02-25-2011, 05:58 AM
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Of course Im gonna take his name faster than you can blink your eye lol! he already calls me Mrs.Diaz so it wont feel any different cant wait for it to be official though May 2012!!!!
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I will hyphenate my last name. We discussed it and since my Dad has passed he told me " He was the first man you ever loved and I am the last so you add my name onto his." He and my Dad were close and of course I was Daddy's Little Girl so this choice is right for us.
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This one's hard, not because I wouldn't love having his last name, but it depends on if I get married before I graduate or not. All my professional identification is in my current name. I may end up being Dr. M. in public and just Mrs. F. to the rest of the world. :-) But he and I have talked about that, he's good with whatever I decide, he just wants me to be his for ever and always.
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Old 02-27-2011, 08:15 PM
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hell yea im taking his last name!!!!!!!!!!!!!! ill do it within 24 hours!!!!!!! our mail box has always had his last name on there as both of ours and my mail has his last name as mine too!
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I have thought about voting for awhile, now. I always thought I'd click "Don't have to ask me twice!" ~ That isn't the case, anymore. Now that marriage is almost 100% in our future (he hasn't asked, yet, but he wanted to. i asked him to wait until we were a little bit better off in the financial department), he and I have seriously talked about it. For his/our personal reasons, he really wasn't comfortable with me taking his last name, until (if) he gets out. He said he'd support me if I did, but it would worry him constantly. So, I agreed to add his to mine. Although, he did say when he gets out, he'll gladly drive me wherever to help me change it to just his, asap.
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Would've thought that was the tradition of getting married?? I've joked w/ my fiance bout it & he was like ur gonna have my name no matter wat lol but of course I got no problems w/ that. Its only form of respect 4 my fiance hehehe. My dad doesn't seem 2 happy bout me getting rid of my maiden name cuz I kno most people usually make their maiden name a middle name & then change the last name. I chose 2 keep my 1st & middle name & get rid of my maiden name cuz wen I had my 1st name legally changed wen I became 18 my parents didn't want me 2 get rid of my old name so it became my middle name. I thought they cherish my old name which is the reason I'm keepin it. LOL hope that didn't confuse u all!
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I am leaning towards Hyphenate, but we would need to discuss it. I discourage the Mrs thing until the wedding I don't want to live in fantasy land We have a lot to work on before the wedding...
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I can't wait to take his last name ,
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Why would you not get his name? I would be offended if a woman didn't want to take my last name... Is that a new feminist thing? Hyphinated, I would be PISSED! That's all I'm sayin

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I can't wait to offically change my last name. We already call each other husband and wife and he already calls me Kendrea Douglas and is always saying how that last name really fits me {which i must admit it does}. However I was gonna hyphenate but when I signed my name that way in an email today he didn't like it and wasted no time telling me that my last name is Douglas. LOL
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i wouldnt even hesitate in changeing ma name to his,,.. so xited cant wait to be his wife......
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We already refer to each other as husband and wife and all of the letters that I send to him, I sign with his last name and the return address has his last name as well. I wish I would use my maiden name. I too would be corrected promptly. lol I love being a Coleman, espically his wife.
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