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View Poll Results: Would you take his last name once married ?
Dont have to ask me twice.....wheres the closest DMV ! 1,581 77.58%
Maybe if he really pushes it.... 30 1.47%
hypnate it, keep mines and add his.... 264 12.95%
I might once he gets out...... 98 4.81%
Probably not ........... 65 3.19%
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Old 03-19-2015, 09:50 AM
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Yes I would without a doubt.
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Never. I have academic records and professional licenses that are a total bitch to change, let alone change back (in the case of divorce) or change again (in the event of outliving him and wanting to marry again).

I have a reputation under my own name. I've worked hard for that reputation. I don't want to lose business or become unavailable to some former client because that client didn't have a clue that I got married.

Yes, it's all rather fun to think about, but when you get down to brass tacks, if you're going to be out in the world in a professional manner, going to have transcripts or the like, then changing your name can cause more problems that good. Any background check will take extra time since they will have to look up all of the names you've used.
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I will be hyphenating my name. I LOVE my maiden name, It's a BIG part of the woman Ive worked hard to become. That being said, I love my husband too! I'm very much part of who he is and definitely want to be identified as his Family. Boom.
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I am not a fan of marriage and have escaped over 40 years . However, in the event of an unlikely wedding, yes, I would take his name. I never liked my maiden name and have considered a couple of times changing it by deed poll, just never got around to doing it.
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Funny story I already have his last name from a previous marriage thats how we became friends then a couple now engaged .
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Maybe I'm old fashioned or something but I think if you're going to get married then you should take his last name. I like my guys last name and it would go well with my first name
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Yes I will take his name. Thought about hyphenating it but it sounds silly.
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Well i don't wanna give up my name he tell me im going to give it up but i have a home in my name an plus my mom home is under her name an my name he told me wat ever we gets it belongs to me an him but will never try to take wat not belong to him im just scared not to give it up
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I would be supportive of whatever name she decided on! Doesn't matter to me!
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Well i don't wanna give up my name he tell me im going to give it up but i have a home in my name an plus my mom home is under her name an my name he told me wat ever we gets it belongs to me an him but will never try to take wat not belong to him im just scared not to give it up
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I guess I'm old school. I WANT his name - soooo bad! Just seems like it really ties two people together, IMHO. Never could quite come to grips with coming together as one, but having 2 names - as in 2 identities sort of. But first like I said, I'm just old school (and a tad old! LOL) plus for some women I totally understand it helps them for business purposes.
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I like my name just the way it is! He'll just have to deal with it.
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Discuss this with him weeks ago, and like 'Yourself' my qualifications are many. So it was suggested that he takes my name. He seems to be happy with that.
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I changed it to his name. No questions asked. I married him and I changed it. I own two homes and much more and they are under my maiden name, but hey my social is the same so they know its good ole ME!!! lmao
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Yes! I can't wait to take his name . I have a really cool last name, and I considered using both. I didn't even bring it up to him, though. He would NOT agree. Lol. I think we will just use it as a middle name for one of our little ones.
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I did take his name...and am very proud of it. We are married and where I come from...that's just what we do.
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I definitely would ! Never liked my last name anyway
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Right now I'm torn between two options.

I'm in a polyamorous relationship with my man currently, but my legal husband is in the final stages of his fight with lupus and will most likely die within a couple of months. I already know that should this happen, I will be marrying my prisoner. I knew him before my husband, but we weren't allowed to be together and his family decided to tell me he was dead rather than telling me he was in prison. That's the only reason I moved on to meet my husband to begin with.

So I'm torn between hyphenating between my current last name and his in order to honor the person who would be my late husband, or changing my middle name to my current last name and taking his as my last name. This would be the name I was scribbling next to mine when I was 12 years old.
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I already use his name and we aren't married yet, but it's happening. I adore this man and it's killing us not being together. All I did was cry for a long time, I said this is not helping us, so I write him as much as I can, so does he, I'm setting up the calls, working on the marriage certificate. It's on!
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I've changed my mind and if our relationship continues on the path we are I'll definitely take his name. I made him promise me that if I'll retire to his state in the US when I'm 70 he's got to marry me and he said he loves the idea. So we have a goal :-)
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Right now I'm torn between two options.

I'm in a polyamorous relationship with my man currently, but my legal husband is in the final stages of his fight with lupus and will most likely die within a couple of months. I already know that should this happen, I will be marrying my prisoner. I knew him before my husband, but we weren't allowed to be together and his family decided to tell me he was dead rather than telling me he was in prison. That's the only reason I moved on to meet my husband to begin with.

So I'm torn between hyphenating between my current last name and his in order to honor the person who would be my late husband, or changing my middle name to my current last name and taking his as my last name. This would be the name I was scribbling next to mine when I was 12 years old.
So yeah I know I'm quoting my own message.

My husband passed away on April 1st, and I know it's really soon to have done this, but on June 24th I saw my guy and he proposed to me. I accepted. We visited for 5 hours that day, and I came back for four hours the next day. By the end of my first visit, I had made my decision.

I will be taking his name in full, and not hyphenating it. When I told him on the 25th of my decision he actually got teary eyed, and told me he would have been accepting of my decision either way.

I have wanted to be with this man since I was 12 years old, but his mother decided to tell me that he was dead rather than that he went to prison. I would never have met my late husband if she hadn't done that. I would have been ride-or-die as long as it took or him to get out.
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I want to hyphenate mine because it sounds better and my son has my last name... Boyfriend was not feeling that, but regardless if it is Hutchinson-Ward or just Ward I'll be happy
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Well, he's an old fashion guy and I wouldn't mind changing it to his. I like it, it has a nice ring to it.
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Speaking as a man, if you won't have my name, then you won't have me for a husband. That's just the way that I feel. I understand that some folks don't feel that way, but I do. To me, it's like a woman isn't completely invested in the marriage and is keeping one foot out of it in case she decides to bolt.
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