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Old 04-11-2016, 01:37 PM
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I can comment mostly from the immigration standpoint. I'm not aware of any exceptions for people who are incarcerated, but there are lots of other hoops. If you get a fiance visa, you have to marry within 90 days of arrival. Your USC (United States Citizen) has to sponsor you, so either he has to have significant assets (since he obviously has no income) or his family will have to sponsor you (form I-864). You will have to show that the marriage is in good faith. If you apply for your green card within two years of being married, then after two years you will have to apply for Removal of Conditions (form I-751) where you have to show that you have a legitimate marriage. The two principal factual tests are cohabitation and comingling of finances. You will of course not be able to cohabitate but showing you visited him as often as possible would probably be persuasive. While in the USA, you should probably have as many of your financial accounts in joint names as possible, and also show that you are supporting him to the maximum extent possible. Other indicative facts would be regular correspondence, acknowledging to your family and friends (both sides of the family) that you are married, demonstrating that you are planning for a life together after his release. At the same time, be very cautious about creating the impression that you are compensating him for his marrying you and enabling you to apply for residency. Marrying someone for compensation is an absolute guarantee to denial of immigration benefits (and possibly to a cell in the women's facility, although criminal prosecution is rare).
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Old 05-03-2016, 08:16 AM
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Hi, I am new here, I am from Germany and my fiance is inmate at Five Points. It would be nice to hear what country you are from. We want to get married in fall, my fiance is 32 yrs in prison, release date next summer. May be we can be of help to each other.
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my fiancé is an american inmate (illinois), we have contact since almost 10 years (through mail, phone, visits) and want to get married. i first thought it is not possible to marry while he's in custody, since i'm from abroad. but people told me different.

prison / county clerk / USCIS - all three of them gave us green light !
(well - you'll read more about USCIS later....)

this would be awesome - when i could live and work in the states already before his release - will make time run so much faster, since so i could go visit him every week.

but now - after starting to read the forms and documentations of the huuuuge amount of paperwork we have to go through.... i am no more sure if this really is possible.... but since i read here in the forum that people made it (and since also prison / county clerk / USCIS confirmed me) - it HAS to be possible !

but then - i had further questions to the instructions to the fiancée visa form I-129F - so talked again to the USCIS. and on this conversation the lady (in opposite to other people from USCIS before) told me:

"oh - murder it was ? so when he did comit murder - then he NEVER EVER will be able to apply for his wife to immigrate to the states! not even when he's released - and not even in 20 years!"

of course i had a huge shock then - she literally told me i would never ever be able to live in the same country as my husband (wedding is no problem - but the visa is)....... at least could i never live in the country through him.

well then after this huge shock - me and the family tried again to call USCIS - and they told us they have no clue why the lady said this - they never heard of that !

i also called other places like ice and state department.

from what i now know is - it is always a case-to-case desicion - it can not be said that since it was murder he never will be able to apply to bring his wife into his country.

he had enough punishment yet - he comit murder in gang-banging, when he was 17 - not even an adult. half of his life he was in prison - he is 34 now. he will come home in 3 years - after 20 years in prison.

how could they punish him even longer - for the rest of his life - not letting him be together with his love !

well i know - we just have to do step by step now and not give up - but what this lady told me - still so bad is in my bones - haven't got rid from the shock yet

what i want to know - did someone ever hear something like this ? that murderer never would be able to apply for immigration of his fiancée / wife ?

ah but once i read about a woman who got the greencard after marrying a lifer! (which quite sure must be a murderer also - what do you think?) so it definitely CAN be possible..... but maybe it depends from state to state......

i can at least be very glad that prison and county clerk do approve.......
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Old 07-15-2016, 02:57 AM
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I personally never heard about it, I think you should get in touch with a counsellor so that he will be able to help you out with this.
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I didn't even consider that some weren't allowed, I was more preoccupied eith obtaining the right sizing for him.... also interested in 'fingerprint' engraving on the inside of band. How the hell im supposed to get his print, I'm also stuck on. Any feedback would be appreciated as far as the material, I was looking at 'tungsten'. It's some kind of crazy scratch resistant thing that seems unique.
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I didn't even consider that some weren't allowed, I was more preoccupied eith obtaining the right sizing for him.... also interested in 'fingerprint' engraving on the inside of band. How the hell im supposed to get his print, I'm also stuck on. Any feedback would be appreciated as far as the material, I was looking at 'tungsten'. It's some kind of crazy scratch resistant thing that seems unique.
I've seen some nice tungsten rings on Amazon for men. They're cheap, but durable. I say save your money up for the nicer fingerprint-engraved ring for when he gets out.
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Ladies who may come here for info here is my best after a rigorous search myself for rings. Google men's wedding bands under the shopping label. You can be as specific as you like, I search for rose gold $100 or less. My engagement ring came from Ice.com (double check details for clarity, quality, and stone type) where they also offer some financing. Wedding band from jewelryexchange.com. good luck ladies and gents!
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Does anyone know where to order wedding bands for Ohio? I know Access, Walkinghorst and Union Supply have them but they count as part of the yearly box and we don't want to use it up for a ring but if that's the only route we can do that.
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I am curious about all the ring talk. My husband and I are each on our second marriage. He wore a ring in his first marriage and my first husband wore a ring for the most part, but I think as he gained weight it started to bother him so he took it off at some point. My first husband is remarried however, and wears a ring now. When my husband and I got married (5+years ago) I didn't care if he wore a ring. When he went to prison in December, we talked about whether or not we should now get him a ring, and we thought about it, but honestly, it wasn't a big deal to me. I thought if I didn't care before he was in prison, why do I care once he's in prison. Also, I thought why spend the $ even if it was only a few bucks. So we did nothing.

So my question is, I get all the excitement for the women wanting to have engagement rings and wedding bands. Trust me, both times, that was and is important to me. Although when I go to visit him (I'm about to visit him for the first time this weekend) I am not wearing either my wedding band or engagement ring, I want to know why it is so important to you that the man have a ring? The marriage act is what is important and on the inside, it doesn't matter. Once he gets out, that's another story, and he can then participate in the picking out of his ring and take care of things properly, but I'm just wondering. I admit maybe I would feel differently if this were my first marriage but I don't know. It just doesn't matter to me if my husband is wearing a ring or not.

Not trying to offend anyone, so I apologize if I did.
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Rockchalk1.... why aren’t you wearing your rings to visit? Just curious.
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I think it was important for my hub to have a ring. Since he couldnt have his real ring...he wanted one to have in there.
Sort of like a security blanket or something.

Me? Ive always worn my ring. Thru both marriages.
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I am curious about all the ring talk. My husband and I are each on our second marriage. He wore a ring in his first marriage and my first husband wore a ring for the most part, but I think as he gained weight it started to bother him so he took it off at some point. My first husband is remarried however, and wears a ring now. When my husband and I got married (5+years ago) I didn't care if he wore a ring. When he went to prison in December, we talked about whether or not we should now get him a ring, and we thought about it, but honestly, it wasn't a big deal to me. I thought if I didn't care before he was in prison, why do I care once he's in prison. Also, I thought why spend the $ even if it was only a few bucks. So we did nothing.

So my question is, I get all the excitement for the women wanting to have engagement rings and wedding bands. Trust me, both times, that was and is important to me. Although when I go to visit him (I'm about to visit him for the first time this weekend) I am not wearing either my wedding band or engagement ring, I want to know why it is so important to you that the man have a ring? The marriage act is what is important and on the inside, it doesn't matter. Once he gets out, that's another story, and he can then participate in the picking out of his ring and take care of things properly, but I'm just wondering. I admit maybe I would feel differently if this were my first marriage but I don't know. It just doesn't matter to me if my husband is wearing a ring or not.

Not trying to offend anyone, so I apologize if I did.
For me the ring was a part of the ceremony. I wouldnt have gotten married on the outside without one so why do so on the inside? The ceremony performed by my pastor was the same in there as our here..what else would we have done for the ring part? He wears his most days as do I. It couldn't cost more than $100 so we got simple rings for the wedding. Would I die if he lost it or didn't wear it. No. But for me it is a symbol of our love, just as the wedding certificate is and the pictures from that day. The difference is he can wear it and think of me whenever and vice versa.
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I think it was important for my hub to have a ring. Since he couldnt have his real ring...he wanted one to have in there.
Sort of like a security blanket or something.

Me? Ive always worn my ring. Thru both marriages.
I can understand that and I like the idea of him wearing a substitute ring if he couldn't wear his real ring!
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For me the ring was a part of the ceremony. I wouldnt have gotten married on the outside without one so why do so on the inside? The ceremony performed by my pastor was the same in there as our here..what else would we have done for the ring part? He wears his most days as do I. It couldn't cost more than $100 so we got simple rings for the wedding. Would I die if he lost it or didn't wear it. No. But for me it is a symbol of our love, just as the wedding certificate is and the pictures from that day. The difference is he can wear it and think of me whenever and vice versa.
Got it! When we got married it wasn't a double ring ceremony. In our religion the significance is actually the man putting on a solid band on the woman's pointer finger while the woman wears no other rings with stones during the ceremony (so no engagement rings, or other rings that may have diamonds or other gems). I actually got married both times using the same gold ring that my mother was married in to my father. She doesn't wear the ring and neither do I (it doesn't even go an inch down my pointer finger) but it is more the symbolism of it. Then after the ceremony it is customary to then switch to the engagement ring and wedding band if it has stones in it. My first wedding since my then husband wore a ring we had a double ring ceremony. Amazing how they adapt so easily to the single or double ring ceremonies. I actually still go by my first husband's last name, but sometimes think that after this experience with my now husband, that this will be the thing that makes me take his name! It is just such a hassle to do all the paperwork of changing one's name!!!
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