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Old 09-13-2017, 07:51 AM
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I thought of this thread while watching that A&E special about Scott Petersen. The detective said that on the night his wife went missing one of the officers set a drink on the table and Scott immediately put a coaster under it. The detective said that it was a strange thing for him to think about under the circumstances.

For me, it would be so automatic and would not require any thought. I would be really uneasy until the coaster was there. I do this all day every day. Things make me uncomfortable and I fix them. There is no thought involved. Rationally, I know that these little things don't bother other people so if I want things a certain way I do it myself. Not expressing any opinion about Petersen, but I realized that the detective taking that coaster thing as a sign of his guilt showed a lack of understanding of people with OCD.
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I don't find anything about Peterson that describes him as OCD. I do have an alternate possibility - it's a way to manifest control in a situation - correcting someone gives you the upper hand.

Possible?
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I don't find anything about Peterson that describes him as OCD. I do have an alternate possibility - it's a way to manifest control in a situation - correcting someone gives you the upper hand.

Possible?
Maybe, but OCD isn't necessarily extreme in everyone. Some have just a few things that really need to be a certain way and others are like that about everything. I don't know if Scott Petersen is OCD or not, but the detective considering him using a coaster as a sign of guilt is a little scary. Everybody, clinically OCD or not, has certain automatic habits that don't just turn off because there is a crisis. He either just killed his wife or he just found out that she was missing and could be in danger. Either way using a coaster should not be a priority. The fact that he did shouldn't be seen as evidence one way or the other. It was unlikely a deliberate act.
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I understand your point of view, but having spent a great deal more time with narcissists than I wish I had, I see it as a potential "how uncouth you are - any civilized person would use this coaster; see, I fixed it for you". It's as automatic for a narcissist to try for the upper hand as it is for an OCD to fix the order of things. In which case, it's definitely a clue to his narcissism.
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I am starting to wonder why it is some of my favorite PTO friends are the main posters on an OCD thread.

What does this say about non OCD me? ;-)
I'm laughing, because I'm finding out that there's a lot of OCD around, but I (almost) never run into that! Narcissists, yes, OCD, no.
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I like my drawers organized and my clothes hung up facing same way. I need my pantry to be organized. Thats my ocd stuff. Mild. I can live if its not perfect.
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Ok I just realized while buying things so I don't run out, I am really ocd about all kinds of cleaning supplies. I now have 10 bottles of laundry detergent, 10 gallons bleach, enough dish liquid for years, comet sponges and a million other things one can clean with. I used to have a cleaning business and I hated shopping for supplies!!! Now its like I can't stop myself I can't even walk down the cleaning supply isle without buying something.
OMG I do this too! When they're on sale I try to keep 4-5 bottles of everything in stock. I can go months without having to buy detergent or cleaning products because I don't like it being "dirty". I feel so normal now
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OMG my pillows in bed. They have to be just in the right position or I can really not sleep and no one else can lie on them. I've already told my husband that when he gets out my pillows are a no go area ha ha¬
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I sort my M&Ms by color before I eat them. Cracks my co-worker up every time. All lined up on my desk. Then I eat the color with the most till I get even numbered piles and then eat one color at a time till they are gone.
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I sort my M&Ms by color before I eat them. Cracks my co-worker up every time. All lined up on my desk. Then I eat the color with the most till I get even numbered piles and then eat one color at a time till they are gone.


I separate skittles and eat them by color....yellow or purple are last as they are my favorite.
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I didn't even realize this is weird but my friend thinks it is. I sanitize my clothes hangers!
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Your friend is right.


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I never even thought of what I was doing until she was like WTF are you doing? When I told she was like girl you need some serious medication!!! LOL now I just won't do laundry in front of anyone again!!!
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Do you sanitize the washer and dryer too?

Do your guests ever risk using your bathroom when they visit or do they just wait?

I am reading book V of the Dragon Tattoo series and there is an MD that is OCD on cleaning. She cleans her apartment after the professional cleaning crew leaves. Made me never want to go visit her and since it is a novel, she lives in Sweden & she is a murdering shrew I think I am safe.
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Yes I sanitize the washer! I don't have a dryer, I hang everything to dry after I wash it twice!!!LOL I let people use my bathroom I clean it everyday so it never gets a chance to get dirty. But I change guest towels after someone uses them. I can't use a towel after someone else. Can't change my clean ways now.
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My god! My life would get so complicated if I had to follow these routines that y'all deal with.

Can any of you remember when you started them, or why they give such calm?
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My god! My life would get so complicated if I had to follow these routines that y'all deal with.

Can any of you remember when you started them, or why they give such calm?
Honestly I don't know why I do some stuff, but if I don't I'm a lunatic and have to do what I feel I must. I didn't realize washing hangers was odd. I've been doing it as long as I've done laundry. I just put most in dish washer. I know when I say it it sounds crazy but I can't help doing it or I will rewash the clothes again washing hangers is easier.
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I live alone. Before bed I always fold the blanket up on my chair I use to cover up when I’m up. There is NO reason to do so because I’ll just take it down in the morning. I could just throw it over the chair but I take the time to nicely fold it up. There are a lot of things I do that don’t really need to be done because no one ever comes over. Waste of time.
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Honestly I don't know why I do some stuff, but if I don't I'm a lunatic and have to do what I feel I must. I didn't realize washing hangers was odd. I've been doing it as long as I've done laundry. I just put most in dish washer. I know when I say it it sounds crazy but I can't help doing it or I will rewash the clothes again washing hangers is easier.
What kind of "crazy"? Anger, fear, general anxiety, intrusive thoughts, something else?
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What kind of "crazy"? Anger, fear, general anxiety, intrusive thoughts, something else?
More like anxiety and I just can't even use a cup out of my own cabinet with out washing it even if I just put it away. I have been like this for years, been on meds as long as I not hurting anyone I just do what I do. Most of my friends are used to my cleaning stuff over and over. My grandmother was really bad ocd and I think I inherited some of her crazier traits. Mine are mainly cleaning stuff. yet my mail is sitting in a pile in front of my computer once a week I get rid of it. I make my bed everytime I get up. When I am sick all night my bed get made 10 or more times. I can't lay down again until its perfect.
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Come visit and clean my houze. You'll be busy and exhausted by the time you are done.

Might need to stay at least a a week.
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All my friend say the same they love when I start cleaning their kitchens!!! I don't walk into a strangers house and do it!! I used to do this at my parents house and my mother would get insulted. I really felt bad but I just can't make my self drink out of a cup I don't wash. I worked in lots of resturants and wouldn't eat in any that I didn't wash the stuff my self.
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I could keep you busy at my house for a few months. LOL>!

I went thru a stage where I would have to have my room perfectly in order.
Keys would have to be hung up on the key hook. Everything hung up, or folded and put away.

I got over it. lol.
Im a slob now. Unless you count my car. I hate having anything laying around in it that is not needed. I even hate having to keep a grocery bag in there (but in my state you have to bring your own, buy just what you can carry, or pay for a bag.....)
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Okay found a bad new one SPIDERS, if I see a spider and kill it I am searching everything before I can even think about calming down.
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Oh, what a shame! You know, you can always trap them under glass and then slide a sheet of paper under the rim and take the beastie outside....
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