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View Poll Results: Does he ask for too much money?
No, not at all 344 58.60%
Sometime he does 163 27.77%
Way to much money 55 9.37%
He sends money instead 40 6.81%
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Old 03-22-2018, 05:20 PM
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When yall talk of sending food , packages - how is that done. I thought you could only send packages through like Amazon etc ?
That's whoever his prison goes thru for food packages. There is certain doc vendors for that. Amazon would never be one of them. Amazon is good for books, notebooks, and magazines too. Non food.
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Old 03-22-2018, 07:01 PM
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I don’t think my bf asks for too much...but sometimes his reaction to the answer pisses me and his sister off. We usually send food packages once a week,in addition to the load of money needed on our phones, about $40-50. But when he talks about the “small” packages it really gets irritating because I know there are ppl in there that get NO packages. Today he was disappointed I didn’t drop money on his books at visiting...and I found out he owed someone soda tokens. Smh. Once a hustler, always a hustler. Slowly “retraining” him and setting some firm boundaries. Hopefully, he’ll leave a little more appreciative and less demanding.
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Old 03-22-2018, 07:51 PM
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He's never asked me for money. I am the one that offered to help him. I can only send $30 a month. The only thing he asks me to do is to make sure I keep $ on our phone and because our calls are under a $1 each I'm happy to do that. He has asked me to please get him puzzle books or to look for free magazines.
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Old 03-22-2018, 09:09 PM
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I send him money for our phone calls, too much really (tee-hee) but we talk sometimes 4 times a day. He never asks for money though. He just tells me when we only have like 2 calls left, etc. He takes care of all his other needs as he has a job outside of prison (they call it private sector jobs when they work off the prison grounds) making $10 per/hr. (a lot for prison). His family sends him money occasionally too.
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Mine hardly ever asks for money, like ItsMe81 says, he only asks to keep some money on phone time, because he tells me talking to me and the kids are more important. I will throw $30-40 on on his books if I have it, otherwise phones I throw about $10-20 a week, whatever I have. His grandmother is the one who puts about $40-$50 a month on his books, but then he'll buy some ramen and his fave candy and then the rest on phone lol!
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Old 03-23-2018, 02:57 AM
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He don't care if she has bills and kids to support, all he cares about is HIM! When the money is gone will he still be there?? She betta wake up!
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Old 03-23-2018, 04:36 AM
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That's whoever his prison goes thru for food packages. There is certain doc vendors for that. Amazon would never be one of them. Amazon is good for books, notebooks, and magazines too. Non food.


Thank you! Ive been feeling really bad, just laying down after work. I need to text you!
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Old 03-23-2018, 12:09 PM
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He don't care if she has bills and kids to support, all he cares about is HIM! When the money is gone will he still be there?? She betta wake up!
Not all people are like that. Sorry if you had a bad experience.
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No he doesn't ask for anything, and when I do send him something he fusses at me because he doesn't want me to support him. He tells me he got himself into the mess he's in and he will take care of himself, for me to just worry about things out here.
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My man doesn't ask me for money, he knows if I have it I will help him out. Do small things to make his time a bit easier... I buy him coffee and snacks here and there. Hygiene products when needed... But those are basics. If your friend is able to do these things financially and he treats her good, then I don't see an issue. If she is struggling to get by because he wants these things, then that's a different story. I know if I could do more for my guy then I would. But he understands life, he's been through the struggle.
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I WISH he would ask!! I wish he would let me know what he needs...i send him packages every now and then and sometimes money and he has MAJOR beef with it...always grateful, but insistent that i SHOULD NOT be spending my money on him.
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I don't have a boyfriend / husband in jail... I have a baby daddy. I do not send him money nor fund his phone calls to our daughter. He doesnt ask BUT he does always ask to ask his family for money , hes always talking about how they don't send enough , or the last 2 phone calls he has high key hinted hes using his own money for the phone calls and it's running low.

turns out his sister is putting $100 a month! If he were to ask i would say no. that seems a lot to me, since its $3 for 15 minutes and he only get 4 phone calls a week. either he only eating commissary food or he owes money.
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The only time my boyfriend asked for money was to help him get a tv, his grandma normally sends money but something happened and he didn’t want to ask her so he asked me instead. I love him and I want him to be comfortable and happy but I told him that was it but knowing me and how much I care for him I’ll be probably send him money if needed.
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My husband doesn't ask for money, period, except for phone time and tablet messages.
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Sometimes mine will ask but than will turn around and tell me I don't need to put any in his account. But the thing that gets me is when he starts talking about the thing he's doing without. I'll tell him his not the only one doing without and then he gets upset and tells me "well just don't put anything on the phone or my account, just make sure I have stamp to write you." Sometimes I just want to scream at him and tell him to stop being an a* *. I'm the only income we have and I have my bills first and he knows this. I know it's hard in there for them, but they have to remember it hard for us too.
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I'm gonna brag on my man for a second here. He's never asked for money, but was transferred to a different facility a month ago. He had to trade a bunch of stuff for stamps so he could write to me. I sent him some money the next week (we've been in contact for a year and it's the first time I've ever sent him anything). He told me that he didn't want me to send him money and that I didn't need to ever feel like I should. When I went to visit him on Sunday, he said he spent it all on stamps
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just a question, maybe wrong place to ask this BUT do the inmates know who sent them money? Like if you put $20 on their books, does it show you did it? Or they just have $20 on their books?
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Has anyone had their family member ask for large sums of money? like $300 extra (in addition to a monthly amount we already send for toiletries). Last month our son asked for $500 and said he owed it to someone that he had gotten stuff from when he was out of commissary. Federal system. We are thinking he is getting bullied or pressured in some way. He will call family members for whom he doesn't have a phone plan(which costs a lot more)and sound as if he really needs money. What could be going on?
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Either extortion or really big debt! maybe drugs?
I've seen some other posts like your question, and ive seen them get two different types of answers. 1 is DONT send the money, it will continue. 2. send the money or it could end badly. i'm sorry I have never dealt with that, but that is the advice I have seen when asked a question similar like that. I hope everything is okay and turns out for the best.
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Has anyone had their family member ask for large sums of money? like $300 extra (in addition to a monthly amount we already send for toiletries). Last month our son asked for $500 and said he owed it to someone that he had gotten stuff from when he was out of commissary. Federal system. We are thinking he is getting bullied or pressured in some way. He will call family members for whom he doesn't have a phone plan(which costs a lot more)and sound as if he really needs money. What could be going on?
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