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Old 05-04-2018, 08:56 AM
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How long? You can continue to support her in any/every way you can. Let her know that you love her and will wait for her. Also, be sure to take care of yourself so you can be a positive influence for her during her time in jail/prison.
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Hang in there Ben. How long does she have? Write all the time and visit when you can.
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Hi, I have a question my gf is in prison. Might you have a loved one incarcerated and you feel the relationship changing?
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Old 07-15-2018, 01:37 AM
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I know it just seems so difficult
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Can I ask a female some questions concerning some doubts I am having?
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Hi Ben - I've merged your multiple threads into one; this way you will find your replies in one place & it is easier for people to respond to you in one thread
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Not trying to scare you but it will change. Prison changes people and being apart will be hard. You should take it one day at a time and keep the lines of communication open.

How long will she be away? Can you go and visit on a regular basis? Does she have family and friends that support her?

There are quite a few guys on here with incarcerated girlfriends/wives. They’ll be able to tell you more.

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Prison will change any relationship.


Surviving her doing a prison term will bring you closer but will also present challenges both when she is in and once she gets out.


I don't think that any two cases are the same, though we all have some similarities in terms of what we go through on our end and what they go through. But there isn't really a set guidebook or playbook beyond the things you'll read on the site (maintain contact as best you can, be patient, write a lot, answer phone calls, visit when you can, etc.)



How exactly do you feel like your relationship is changing?


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Hang in there Ben. How long does she have? Write all the time and visit when you can.
She has three more years
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In prison terms 3 years is short timer. My gf has 16 years if she has manitories lifted 5 years or less.
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Prison will change any relationship. Surviving her doing a prison term will bring you closer but will also present challenges both when she is in and once she gets out.


Relationships have to be negotiated to take new restrictions into account. They'll be different but that doesn't mean they can't work if each partner understands and respects the other's needs and does his/her best to accommodate them.
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