Do I ask for my MWI's phone and visitor records?

[BrandonsBabe]

Originally Posted by MarriedSince08

They should send it to us without us having to ask, and not just for us to know,because we do trust our man,but because the haters,the ones who tell us they are playing us....those people need to see the proof rite there that what we have is true and they are wrong about it.

Do those people actually matter enough for our men to waste their time and money getting their records so "haters" can't say anything? Personally, I think that is ridiculous.

[BrandonsBabe]

Absolutely not. My man can talk to whomever he wants. He actually calls his ex wife once a month to talk to her about how she's doing and to ask about old friends. He puts about two dollars on the phone (Eight or nine minutes.). I'd rather he didn't talk to her, but the fact that he told me on his own speaks volumes. I trust him completely.

[Just Jen]

Originally Posted by Tela

If the day EVER comes where I feel the need to ask him for phone OR visiting list...welp thas the day I will know its the DEMISE of our relationship...PERSONALLY I feel thas ABSURD.

Agreed.

He is the one who volunteered that there is no one else who he calls or writes, no one else who visits him other than his mom and aunt. It never even crossed my mind that I needed to verify what he had to say... I just take him at his word. If at any time, I feel I can no longer take him at his word, there is something broken and that would be the end of our relationship.

[nicenjazzy]

I would not ask for such. Like the other ladies said, if you have to check on your man like that then you have trust issues. That would be the like checking your mans cellphone if he were out in the free world.

[WJD]

I'm just responding to the title of this thread and I say that if you have to ask your MWI , then he ain't the one for you. Either there's something wrong with him that you'd need to ask or there's something wrong with you for even wanting to.... Either way, NOT healthy.

[all4bourne]

Absolutely NOT! He would offer up information about people that were on his lists, but I would not ask. I know he cleared off his visiting list a few years back and I know the only people that are on it now. Only be cause I had to call up and check on his list cuz he recently got moved. I trust him.....and there has never been a time that he has said I couldn't come up....(indicating someone else that I don't know might be there) As far as calling anyone else or in our state, emailing....go for it. I know who takes care of him directly and has been his support (emotional) for the last 8 years.....I can't be the only person in his life, he is not personal property, but I can be the number ONE person in his life....there's a big difference.

[Valkyrie2011]

I would never ask, besides he tells about his visits!

[Rachel C]

I personally haven't asked b/c he hasn't given me a reason to not trust him but I don't see the problem with it when you have hundreds of miles b/w you, sometimes you just need that little bit of reassurance. if he doesn't have anything to hide that he won't hesitate to handover what you ask.

[Amelie_]

I am not born yesterday, so I asked before we really got involved. He sent them and told of course I can see them, he has nothing to hide. It's one thing to trust when you already know him and another to trust blindly before you really know him. If you don't protect yourself, who is gonna do it for you?

[Mzkelley09]

we never had any trust issues if some other girl writes him he tells me bout it but we been in each others life for 4 years and so i never questioned it

[a&jalways]

Nooooopee ..... I trust him completely

but when you start digging and all that , you may not be happy what you find in the end....

you should TRUST your man , right there demanding and asking for him to show you stuff , just says you dont TRUST him...