Wow i cant believe it, he got another girl pregnant!

[La Divina]

So ladies u know my story with my babydad ...now that im feeling a bit better with my broken heart i wake up to a hidden news that my baby dad has another girl pregnant and no is not his current disrespectful GF ..in december he went to dominican republic to handle some business with his mom and he slept around with some girl..i did not know he was sleeping around and like a dummy i was sending him money!! Immmm soooooo hurtt because even though were not together at that time things werent completely over and i was 2 mnths pregnant already...how can a man who dosnt work and his mom maintains him be so inresponsible to be bringing innocent children to this world without a care...everytime im slowly moving on i swearrr they throw a new one at me ..how can i ever heal"! I hate him for using me and for taking all my love and using it as a toy!! When i think i have stopped crying here comes something new that breaks my heart again ..so much betrayal from a person whom i loved soooo much who i gave my all to and whos child im carrying!!! I Pray to God that he helps me cuse this is tooo much!!!

[chili]

I'm really sorry this is happening to you. And please don't be offended by what I'm going to say next but... I am really shocked by how trusting many women posting here
are and who don't practice safe sex. It breaks my heart that you are risking your health and ultimately your life with men who have a huge possibility of being Hep C or HIV positive.
Once again I am so sorry he is making you feel like this.

[breathing_beau]

Amen to what chilli said and may I also add a quote from mother Theresa;
"I know God won't give me anything I can't handle I just wish he didn't trust me so much"
Your heart will heal.
The sooner you move on and gain your strength back the sooner you'll attract a man you truly deserve and who deserves you.

[SetHimFree]

My ex husband is that way...he has a total of 5 kids by 4 women...kids are ages 7,5,4,3,2...he left them all. My kids are the youngest...they dont remember him and its better that way. Some men only care about sex and how many women they can get. Cut the guy loose...raise ur baby to not know that disrectful behavior.

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by La Divina

So ladies u know my story with my babydad ...now that im feeling a bit better with my broken heart i wake up to a hidden news that my baby dad has another girl pregnant and no is not his current disrespectful GF ..in december he went to dominican republic to handle some business with his mom and he slept around with some girl..i did not know he was sleeping around and like a dummy i was sending him money!! Immmm soooooo hurtt because even though were not together at that time things werent completely over and i was 2 mnths pregnant already...how can a man who dosnt work and his mom maintains him be so inresponsible to be bringing innocent children to this world without a care...everytime im slowly moving on i swearrr they throw a new one at me ..how can i ever heal"! I hate him for using me and for taking all my love and using it as a toy!! When i think i have stopped crying here comes something new that breaks my heart again ..so much betrayal from a person whom i loved soooo much who i gave my all to and whos child im carrying!!! I Pray to God that he helps me cuse this is tooo much!!!

It is not only him that is responsible for the pregnancies, so putting all the blame on him is not cool, in my opinion. Sorry if this sounds bitchy, but I get irritated at women/girls who try to put the blame on these guys for getting them pregnant, HELLO, you have a part in it as well....he cannot make babies without you participating in it.

I know you are hurt, but hun, count your blessings. He is not someone you want to give anymore of your time or energy to.

I hope that you are taking care of yourself and the baby you are carrying. That should be your priority, not how much of an ass he is. I know it is hard, because you are carrying a part of him with you every single day, but you can have a healthy life, with a healthy man, that will love that baby/child as his own.

Please be good to yourself and if you need to, get some counseling. That way, when you have started your healing, you will find someone special to share your time with.

Peace~

[FastCarGirl]

God doesn't give us anything we can't handle. Lean on Him. He is showing you exactly what a child he is....he cares for no one but himself and considers no one but himself. He is out here showing his true colors now. Not what you want to hear, but you dodged a bullet. Block him completely from your life, file for child support and let it be that. He sounds less like a baby daddy and more like a sperm donor at this point.

[hisbabygurl2014]

I am sorry your going through this. But i agree with the other ladies dont blame everything on him. Shoot i would never have a child with guy without putting a ring on my left finger and saying 'i do" thats just me though. As for ur bd he reallys to get his balls cut off or something because thats not cool that he would up and leave the mother ofd childern. But you know at this point he is just a sperm donor nothing more. It takes a man to raise child and he isnt it, So move on with your life and do your thing.

[La Divina]

And im going to keep going with my life it just that one thing is to keep moving on and one thing is to forget bout him that quickly is not possible yet but i will forget him no matter what it takes ..it just hurts to see how not once he didnt consider me is kind of crazy how hes my first love and my first heartbreak..so much for love huh!!! And i never mentioned it but im married to him so i didnt get pregnant without a commitment it just that not even that made him respect me ...but with Gods grace i will hopefully be better once i have my son in my arms

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by La Divina

And im going to keep going with my life it just that one thing is to keep moving on and one thing is to forget bout him that quickly is not possible yet but i will forget him no matter what it takes ..it just hurts to see how not once he didnt consider me is kind of crazy how hes my first love and my first heartbreak..so much for love huh!!! And i never mentioned it but im married to him so i didnt get pregnant without a commitment it just that not even that made him respect me ...but with Gods grace i will hopefully be better once i have my son in my arms

Hun, you have a lot of living to do, if this guy is/was your first love.

Pick yourself up and know that you will probably experience more hurt in the future. It is part of living and learning.

Peace~

[La Divina]

Originally Posted by InmateLover67

Hun, you have a lot of living to do, if this guy is/was your first love.

Pick yourself up and know that you will probably experience more hurt in the future. It is part of living and learning.

Peace~

I def will thank you for taking ur time to help me out...soon ill be back letting u guys know im doing better...

[Webbelayne]

I know what I said but when I saw your post and your name my mouth dropped open and I said oh hell naw.. girl lemme tell you like this.... you are responsible for ensuring your child has the best possible life you nor that child needs to deal with someone who has a total lack of concern to just sleep around and to get other people pregnant WHILE HIS GIRL EX GIRL BABY MAMA whatever you are at the time whatever that's scan! I hope you can get past it but if not pick ur head and live for that child. End of story you will find someone who can appreciate you

[La Divina]

Originally Posted by Webbelayne

I know what I said but when I saw your post and your name my mouth dropped open and I said oh hell naw.. girl lemme tell you like this.... you are responsible for ensuring your child has the best possible life you nor that child needs to deal with someone who has a total lack of concern to just sleep around and to get other people pregnant WHILE HIS GIRL EX GIRL BABY MAMA whatever you are at the time whatever that's scan! I hope you can get past it but if not pick ur head and live for that child. End of story you will find someone who can appreciate you

I will def get through it i just hate how all falls at the same time u know but in some way i guess is good cuse when i do heal is going to be completely !! i know that i have to live for my child only and i will i just wish i wouldnt think at all about nothing

[Patty]

I would say that I'm not in the least bit surprised by this from what you have told us about him. The fact that it was a surprise to you, just goes to show how those of us who are removed from the situation can often see what those who are intimately involved are blinded to and blindsided by.

This is why I keep telling you that you need to just keep moving forward on your own as though you are running for your life and to look back to see if the back guys are catching up to you would surely put you in further jeopardy. Maybe that sounds over the top but I only want you to recognize your own worth in this world free from him and all that mess. I also want to see the day when someone posts a question to you asking about him and you say, "Huh, who are you talking about?" because your life is somewhere so much better than you're allowing it to be currently. You can get there, trust me - if you focus on your future, keep your eyes on your own paper, set goals and follow through, none of this will even matter at all to you anymore. Can you smell it? Tis a little thing I like to call SWEET FREEDOM! Go for it.

[Manteconsgrl]

We make choices in life and n ur case it was one that's making you suffer. Hurt and humility is worse suffering than not breathing so to speak. You didn't know the type of man he was when you got with him(I'm assuming) so don't be too hard on yourself. Be the best mom possible for that baby BC your gonna play daddy also. I have four kids that I am momma and daddy to BC they have p.o.s dad. He as my world to start with then made sum1 else his. Luckily at 29 I met My Joshua no kids himself but fell in love with mine. My 4 year old the baby of the four started calling him daddy. If sum1 didn't know different they would assume we were the all American family. He (josh)recently got sentenced to 3 years doc, my kids have confusion but accept things as they are. Again keep ur head up and things have a funny way of working out. Good luck with ur pregnancy and delivery.

[La Divina]

Originally Posted by Patty

I would say that I'm not in the least bit surprised by this from what you have told us about him. The fact that it was a surprise to you, just goes to show how those of us who are removed from the situation can often see what those who are intimately involved are blinded to and blindsided by.

This is why I keep telling you that you need to just keep moving forward on your own as though you are running for your life and to look back to see if the back guys are catching up to you would surely put you in further jeopardy. Maybe that sounds over the top but I only want you to recognize your own worth in this world free from him and all that mess. I also want to see the day when someone posts a question to you asking about him and you say, "Huh, who are you talking about?" because your life is somewhere so much better than you're allowing it to be currently. You can get there, trust me - if you focus on your future, keep your eyes on your own paper, set goals and follow through, none of this will even matter at all to you anymore. Can you smell it? Tis a little thing I like to call SWEET FREEDOM! Go for it.

Thank u so so much for this words i love pto because with u ladies im not scared to speak my heart out...and i.can def smell that happiness that is coming my way..And i cant wait till the time comes when i can come here an update that im happy when this completely happens u guys will be one of the first to know..God has great things for me i know it! i guess i just had to hit a very strong patch of suffering to realize and appreciate many things in my life..the road isnt easy but i have faith in myself

[La Divina]

Originally Posted by Manteconsgrl

We make choices in life and n ur case it was one that's making you suffer. Hurt and humility is worse suffering than not breathing so to speak. You didn't know the type of man he was when you got with him(I'm assuming) so don't be too hard on yourself. Be the best mom possible for that baby BC your gonna play daddy also. I have four kids that I am momma and daddy to BC they have p.o.s dad. He as my world to start with then made sum1 else his. Luckily at 29 I met My Joshua no kids himself but fell in love with mine. My 4 year old the baby of the four started calling him daddy. If sum1 didn't know different they would assume we were the all American family. He (josh)recently got sentenced to 3 years doc, my kids have confusion but accept things as they are. Again keep ur head up and things have a funny way of working out. Good luck with ur pregnancy and delivery.

I will most def try to be the best mommy ever and now i have realized that is not my fault like i once thought so it helps me to understand i did my part n now is my turn to keep moving

[hisbabyny]

Originally Posted by La Divina

And im going to keep going with my life it just that one thing is to keep moving on and one thing is to forget bout him that quickly is not possible yet but i will forget him no matter what it takes ..it just hurts to see how not once he didnt consider me is kind of crazy how hes my first love and my first heartbreak..so much for love huh!!! And i never mentioned it but im married to him so i didnt get pregnant without a commitment it just that not even that made him respect me ...but with Gods grace i will hopefully be better once i have my son in my arms

La Divina i just wanted to tell you that my 1st love was even worse than what you described' way worse! and trust me he became 10X worse after i was no longer with him. not just the way he treated woman but with drugs, gang leader and major crimes. im embarrassed to have people know i was with him from 13-21 years old. but i didnt know any better. i dont know if you had a good relationship with your father or any other male role model but i know why i had chose someone like him. because i was in a very abusive situation as i grew up and didnt know what a decent man was like. i know without a doubt how lucky i am that i did not get pregnant cause i wouldnt have had the strength like you to walk away. i hate to say that the cheating was the least of the issue's with him. i know some men grew up with their fathers constantly cheating on their mother and it became acceptable but you sound like a wonderful woman and you dont deserve this. this is not love. some of these guys dont know how to love' just like my so called "1st love" but i never was in quite as bad situation after getting past him' so this experience will make you wiser. and hopefully you'll just know there is nothing wrong with you. its him. some of these men(i use that term loosely) are not good husbands or fathers, some are just young and stupid
just take it day by day' and you will get thru it'

[La Divina]

Originally Posted by hisbabyny

La Divina i just wanted to tell you that my 1st love was even worse than what you described' way worse! and trust me he became 10X worse after i was no longer with him. not just the way he treated woman but with drugs, gang leader and major crimes. im embarrassed to have people know i was with him from 13-21 years old. but i didnt know any better. i dont know if you had a good relationship with your father or any other male role model but i know why i had chose someone like him. because i was in a very abusive situation as i grew up and didnt know what a decent man was like. i know without a doubt how lucky i am that i did not get pregnant cause i wouldnt have had the strength like you to walk away. i hate to say that the cheating was the least of the issue's with him. i know some men grew up with their fathers constantly cheating on their mother and it became acceptable but you sound like a wonderful woman and you dont deserve this. this is not love. some of these guys dont know how to love' just like my so called "1st love" but i never was in quite as bad situation after getting past him' so this experience will make you wiser. and hopefully you'll just know there is nothing wrong with you. its him. some of these men(i use that term loosely) are not good husbands or fathers, some are just young and stupid
just take it day by day' and you will get thru it'

I did thankfully have a good role model when it came to parenting but my father after getting cheated on by his first which i found out later on in life always treated his wife aka my stepmom as just anybody he loved her but there relationship was whatever he said goes n i guess i learned that...is crazy when i think about it that i stood there and stood alot of the same things, i swear cheating and all i learned to accept from my ex .now i think and i feel embarrassed how low i stood but then i think i was naive and in love..but not once did he treat me with love everything was just him never me . I know i could of had moved on but when i got pregnant i guess it made me hold on more to that false hope that maybe he would change.But now i learned the hard way to just move on and i will ! thank u for ur words u ladies bring peace to me because u actually understand me..most people say how did u fall in love if even though ya knew each other he got locked up so long ..they dont understand the emotional attachment u have with them as u do a bid with them and then finally having physical attachment adds the bang.. I think u hold on more cuse of all the dreams u had with the person that never came true! But now is my turn to live

[discoball]

so sorry to hear about what hes done to you. make sure you focus on your health for the baby and let him go so you can find someone to treat you the way you deserve. your little precious one will be the greatest gift he gave to you and that is something worthy of your time. good luck {{hugs}}

[hisbabyny]

Originally Posted by La Divina

I did thankfully have a good role model when it came to parenting but my father after getting cheated on by his first which i found out later on in life always treated his wife aka my stepmom as just anybody he loved her but there relationship was whatever he said goes n i guess i learned that...is crazy when i think about it that i stood there and stood alot of the same things, i swear cheating and all i learned to accept from my ex .now i think and i feel embarrassed how low i stood but then i think i was naive and in love..but not once did he treat me with love everything was just him never me . I know i could of had moved on but when i got pregnant i guess it made me hold on more to that false hope that maybe he would change.But now i learned the hard way to just move on and i will ! thank u for ur words u ladies bring peace to me because u actually understand me..most people say how did u fall in love if even though ya knew each other he got locked up so long ..they dont understand the emotional attachment u have with them as u do a bid with them and then finally having physical attachment adds the bang.. I think u hold on more cuse of all the dreams u had with the person that never came true! But now is my turn to live

its very difficult but it will take time to get through this whole process. i wouldnt recommend finding someone else right now. i would say be as good to yourself as you was to him!! and nurture and pamper your self and surround yourself with positive people. this is not gonna just go away overnight but you Will get through. as you get stronger it will be easier to deal with him as far as the baby is concerned. maybe it was Him who really didnt have a good male role model as well. sometimes men can be a good father but not a good husband. regardless he sounds like he has alot of growing up to do so i think you have to protect your heart. i understand the hope you felt. i think many woman especially before they been around the block a few times have unrealistic expectations. just take it a day at a time and maybe go to the beach and relax. i always find that the water is very calming' even when i was upset i had to force myself sometimes and the fresh air was good and healing. you deserve the best that life has to offer.

[La Divina]

Originally Posted by hisbabyny

its very difficult but it will take time to get through this whole process. i wouldnt recommend finding someone else right now. i would say be as good to yourself as you was to him!! and nurture and pamper your self and surround yourself with positive people. this is not gonna just go away overnight but you Will get through. as you get stronger it will be easier to deal with him as far as the baby is concerned. maybe it was Him who really didnt have a good male role model as well. sometimes men can be a good father but not a good husband. regardless he sounds like he has alot of growing up to do so i think you have to protect your heart. i understand the hope you felt. i think many woman especially before they been around the block a few times have unrealistic expectations. just take it a day at a time and maybe go to the beach and relax. i always find that the water is very calming' even when i was upset i had to force myself sometimes and the fresh air was good and healing. you deserve the best that life has to offer.

Thank u so much for ur help!!! U will see soon ill come back an update hopefully doing better of course i took ur advice went to the beach n it helped me out alot to calm my nerves ...as everyone has said time can be at times our bestfriend

[Prettylady29]

Originally Posted by La Divina

So ladies u know my story with my babydad ...now that im feeling a bit better with my broken heart i wake up to a hidden news that my baby dad has another girl pregnant and no is not his current disrespectful GF ..in december he went to dominican republic to handle some business with his mom and he slept around with some girl..i did not know he was sleeping around and like a dummy i was sending him money!! Immmm soooooo hurtt because even though were not together at that time things werent completely over and i was 2 mnths pregnant already...how can a man who dosnt work and his mom maintains him be so inresponsible to be bringing innocent children to this world without a care...everytime im slowly moving on i swearrr they throw a new one at me ..how can i ever heal"! I hate him for using me and for taking all my love and using it as a toy!! When i think i have stopped crying here comes something new that breaks my heart again ..so much betrayal from a person whom i loved soooo much who i gave my all to and whos child im carrying!!! I Pray to God that he helps me cuse this is tooo much!!!

Been there hun, it sucks how they can be so stupid, mines had me and two girls pregnant at the same time. I lost my baby, and I feel sorry for the other two mothers who have to raise their children alone. I have one daughter and her father does right by her. This guy tht had me and the other girls pregnant is un prison for 4 more years. I thought I could forgive him but it is so hard knowing tht they were out there having unprotected sex with other women making babies, only to leave those children behind. I feel for the children the most because they deserve better. It makes me sick how some men act, and when God blesses them with a Queen, they go and reshuffle the deck for an old maid.