Hate breaking bad news

[kevinmom]

Sorry if this is long but one of those days yes and it's early. haha It has been a very long almost 24 hours. Yes sometimes I count hrs to get through. hehe Anyways, I will be visiting my son in a few hrs and just found out yesterday that a close friend of his that came into town got denied visitation. I have no idea why I don't even want to know. I am barely keeping up with this new process. He has been counting down days waiting for the visit and I know that is the first thing he will ask. Ugh! I love being a mom don't get me wrong it's the best job I have ever had good and bad. I just dread giving him this bad news on top of eveything else. There are so few people that follow through with actions speak louder than words and actually visit. Ugh! Sorry for the rant today is just one of those days. Time to turn the music way up but of course not too loud cause it is morning and I am not a loud person. I just love music. Pray he takes the news ok. It's a morning visit too and I am so not a morning person. Lots of hugs to you and yours. I SOOOO need a hug today!

[gamom20]

Hugs! I hate it he will be disappointed. That is really too bad for him and his friend. We hate seeing our kids disappointed. Hope you are still able to have a good visit though.

[1bird2]

Bless your heart....BIG HUG....REALLY BIG HUG to you. I know, I hate those painful issues....but at least he will know that the friend at least TRIED to see him!!! I think it is easier when the "system" is the one getting in the way....rather than friends just not caring enough to try.
I am a music therapy person myself!!!....and it's a good thing I live out in the middle of nowhere....'cuase I crank it up and rattle the windows!!!
I'll be thinking of you...and praying that your son takes the news better than you are thinking he will. Just let him know that his friend TRIED!!! Maybe he can try again after a certain amount of time.
Let us know how it goes....
Love and prayers,
XXXOOO

[MrsBettyLou]

Awww, no doubt that he will be disappointing. But hey, maybe if his friends is in town - he can call you and he can talk to his friend on the phone? Just throwing that out there! I dunno, if you have the phone set up or if he talks to his friend regularly. Just thinking of an alternative, granted not a perfect one. Something is better than nothing right? ((HUGS))

[MrsBettyLou]

disappointed* I could not edit my post above
Why not?

[xanthra]

Take some photos of his friend, get them printed and send them to your son. He will see his friend tried to see him AND get to see a photo! He will be so glad to see you so empathize and have a good visit.
We see our sons/daughters get slammed down in prison and we don't want to do any of that but his friend went through all that paperwork of visitation so that proves what a good friend he is.
NONE of my sons friends have visited him so he sees family backs him. After almost 2 years friends are now writing him....mostly girls. He's a cute boy. lol
Best to you. Let us know how the visit went. Hugs.

[KidzMom]

I feel the pain!!

I have taken several of my sons friends to visit when he was in county... and once I had my visit but the place was put on lockdown before they could have theirs...another time I brought his then girlfriend just for her to realize she had left her ID at the gas station that same morning...and lately have brought his best friend (who is approved) but once he too forgot his ID and the other we couldn't get in because my son was on lockdown...

I know our children have dissapointed us but I HATE dissapointing them with bad news... But, bad news is a part of life

You WILL enjoy your visit regardless..it is a visit after all!

[auntieshay]

Taking pictures of his friend is a good idea. Also, tell friend to look into why he was not approved. It could be something minor. And the next time he comes to town he will be allowed.

[kevinmom]

I did send him photos two days before. It's a girl if you haven't figured it out. haha like us moms already know. He took it really hard. They been planning on seeing eachother for a long time. Omg broke my heart! I know she didn't even know anything was wrong probably something small and petty but I left him there broken hearted. He hasn't seen me cry since being there I refuse but damn I cry sometimes when I get in the car but usually wait till I get home cause that's just me. Today hurt like hell. I know my son and knew how he was gonna react. I don't understand why people just can't tell the truth and get his hopes up for nothing. Thanks for the shoulder to lean on today. Yeah got the music loud well I can hear it haha and tissues out. Court is monday. God give me strength. Hugs to all and lots of prayers too.

[1bird2]

Bless your heart....I hate seeing pain in their eyes...and it always ricochets back to our hearts.
Court on Monday? I am praying for the BEST possible outcome....and that you have some peace about it.
LET US KNOW!!! We'll be praying while we wait to hear from you.
Love and prayers,....for better days ahead!
XXOO

[szcunane]

so glad you got to visit before court -- -and I do hope that in his disappointment your son knows his friend tried. that should mean something to him. I'm sure it will be a long weekend. You will be in my prayers. I hope it goes well, Keep us posted.

[klw9653]

So sorry for your pain. I hope he'll be able to see his friend soon. I'll be praying that everything turns out OK in court Monday.

[tglsmom]

If the girl does check into why she was denied, maybe it will turn out to be something minor. It's certainly worth a try and might even allow her to be approved so that she can visit in the future. I'm sure that would make your son, and you, very happy!

I'm sure it will be hard this weekend while you're waiting for court on Monday. Try to take care of yourself and think POSITIVE! When it's all over, be sure and let us know what happened.

[kevinmom]

Just got home from the ER had a panick attack never had in my life. Wow so scary. Honestly the day was so rough and then my other sons, and my health. Yeah send lots of prayers and hugs my way. Geesh long day. Lots of hugs and prayers to you.

[Here4Us]

Sending hugs and prayers. Deep breaths. xoxoo

[chiclet]

KevinsMom, good luck and hugs and good health and hugs and good Monday and hugs. You are in a tough spot: be good to yourself. Will be thinking about you, Girl!

[KidzMom]

Thinking about you this morning and hoping for the best.

Deep breaths - in through the nose and out though the mouth (sound familiar)...

[1bird2]

Bless your heart!!! We ARE praying!!! I hope you had a MUCH BETTER day today...I think the stress of court is enough to panic anyone!! I am praying that all went well....and that you have pulled out of the attack and feel OK!!!! I'd say the "after effect" would wipe you out!!!! I agree totally....BREATHE DEEP BREATHS

We are all sitting on the edges of our seats here....and we ARE PRAYING!!! I hope you can feel them!
BIG LOVE AND BIG PRAYERS! FOR REAL
XXXOOO

[Tyler's Momma]

Kevinmom,

I hope you are feeling better. Please let us know how court went today. Thinking about you all!!!