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View Poll Results: Do you ever wonder if the love he confesses is REALLY real?
No, I don't doubt his love 843 40.07%
Yes, I sometimes wonder if our love will be the same after he's out 849 40.35%
Yes, I wonder if his love is strong because I stuck around 228 10.84%
Always, I think this love is a fantasy that helps him through the time. 184 8.75%
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Old 01-10-2018, 03:31 PM
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I go back and forth in my thoughts. We have had issues in the past and he has done things to betray my trust. I met a woman recently (At a New Years office party) and she told me how she stayed faithful to her MWI for 9 years! She sent him a hundred dollars per month and put another hundred on the phones each pay period. He proposed to her and made her a ring until he could afford one after he was released. He was released several months ago and they got married. Recently, she found out he had several affairs while incarcerated and sexual affairs while out. She is broken. Stories like this make me doubt my own relationship. I have never dealt with this before. It is difficult when you can't keep an eye on your partner. I believe in mutual sharing and respect. My phone, my bank account, my everything is his and he is free to look at it. I expect the same respect due to the fact that I am the only one supporting him financially. Yet, when I occasionally ask for commissary receipts (When something is not adding up) he will get defensive and stall. It will take him weeks to get the receipts. In the past, he admitted to sending me a fake visiting list because another woman was visiting him. This is why I request proof at times. I want to be sure he isn't playing me. I have NEVER been the jealous type until I met him. And that is due to his lies and the dynamics of the relationship. If he messes up once more, I am done for good.
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Old 01-10-2018, 04:18 PM
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I absolutely don’t doubt the love between us. We have a very solid foundation between us and we’re very lucky for that. We have been through a lot, don’t get me wrong... and I’m not usually the optimistic type to say “it made us stronger” but for once I actually do feel that way.

The ONLY thing I question is when he says that the big life change of parole isn’t going to phase him. He admits he’ll be overwhelmed, but I know that there’s a LOT of mental changes and problems that can happen after incarceration. I hope he’s right that he’ll ride the wave smoothly.. ha.
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Old 01-12-2018, 01:40 PM
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Never. My husband and I have that once in a life time love. He is simply amazing.
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Old 01-14-2018, 09:41 PM
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I go back and forth in my thoughts. We have had issues in the past and he has done things to betray my trust. I met a woman recently (At a New Years office party) and she told me how she stayed faithful to her MWI for 9 years! She sent him a hundred dollars per month and put another hundred on the phones each pay period. He proposed to her and made her a ring until he could afford one after he was released. He was released several months ago and they got married. Recently, she found out he had several affairs while incarcerated and sexual affairs while out. She is broken. Stories like this make me doubt my own relationship. I have never dealt with this before. It is difficult when you can't keep an eye on your partner. I believe in mutual sharing and respect. My phone, my bank account, my everything is his and he is free to look at it. I expect the same respect due to the fact that I am the only one supporting him financially. Yet, when I occasionally ask for commissary receipts (When something is not adding up) he will get defensive and stall. It will take him weeks to get the receipts. In the past, he admitted to sending me a fake visiting list because another woman was visiting him. This is why I request proof at times. I want to be sure he isn't playing me. I have NEVER been the jealous type until I met him. And that is due to his lies and the dynamics of the relationship. If he messes up once more, I am done for good.

Trust is important in any relationship..he has too much access to YOUR business!! You can't keep an eye on anyone all the time and if you have to do that, then there is no trust
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Why are you waiting for one more time? He's already shown you who he is....I'm sorry, these are difficult relationships to be in
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My thoughts and emotions go back and forth on this. I feel like he thinks he really loves me because I'm the person closest to him and we have a child together. I'm the person he wants to do things for him on the outside. Our relationship was rocky before he was incarcerated because of his drugs. I have found out since him being in that he was seeing other women the past two years besides just me. I love him I am conflicted that he will not change. I'm worried he won't stay clean and I'm worried he will go back to bad decisions. I love him and I will keep his spirits up while he is in. I just don't know what the future holds when he gets out. I do not know if all the I love you's are true or if it's because he is in there.
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