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Marina1027 · #26 01-13-2009, 05:01 AM

I am actually jealous of the opportunities that my husband has had for self-growth in prison. He has taken quite a few LDS Institute-type classes while inside. He is now a tutor in Family History and has been able to do a lot of work on his own genealogy. I've met a few of the missionaries that have worked in Gunnison and they have a lot of good things to say about the program and the men that participate in it.

Honestly, I believe my husband is in a better position repentance-wise than I am!

TheWaitingGame · #27 01-14-2009, 03:00 PM

That is fantastic Marina. My husband is in Draper so I am not familiar with Gunnison, but he was able to get a blessing which was of great help and comfort to him! I do feel they are in a good spot to focus on their repentance and re-entry into society. I feel my husband will be better than ever and it gives me such hope for a positive outcome. On the outside here we are also being very blessed! I don't "have it all" as I used to or would like but it has helped me greatly to count the small blessings and things I normally would not even think about. So lessons all around! A very humbling experience, but I believe it was needed and am grateful for it now!

When does your husband get out? wonderful circumstances are such that you can stand by him and work on the family. I have seen several families visit when I go and it is so nice to see that support. They say those who have families visit and work through this have a better chance of healing and not repeating their offenses. I hope so!

Marina1027 · #28 01-16-2009, 06:12 AM

We don't know when my husband will get out yet. He sees the board in August but they will likely send him back for programming for a couple more years.

TheWaitingGame · #29 05-24-2009, 10:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Marina1027

Sorry, I think I need to clarify. My husband cannot be rebabtized until sometime after he's out. I hope he doesn't have to wait until he's off parole...that could be a long time. My sons are both members already. The plan is that one son will baptize and the other will confirm my husband after he's out and the church gives the okay.

Yes your husband WILL have to wait until after his parole is over. My husband was disfellowshipped and this is what they told him. That to be re-fellowshipped, re-baptized etc, one needs to be OFF probation. He was just told that 3 months ago, so recently.

Marina1027 · #30 05-25-2009, 08:36 AM

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Originally Posted by TheWaitingGame

Yes your husband WILL have to wait until after his parole is over. My husband was disfellowshipped and this is what they told him. That to be re-fellowshipped, re-baptized etc, one needs to be OFF probation. He was just told that 3 months ago, so recently.

Dang, that's depressing. Well, we do what we have to do.

Rayzgirl · #31 03-08-2010, 08:31 PM

My husband and I both live in Texas. He is doing time here as well. Tomorrow night, there is a Disciplinary Counsel to see if he will be Excommunicated. I am super nervous. I am so glad that I have found others of my faith here on the site!

Rayzgirl

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Ladies I am not in Utah but...there are more LDS dealing with this than you think. Oddly my husband was converted in prison by his LDS celly (a friend of mine) and I (LDS) met him while he was in and married him once he paroled. There are plenty of us out here, maybe not on here but .. dealing with a loved on incarcerated.

I have dealt with the churches recovery program but.. I didn't like it because it deals with all addictions (ie porn, gambling, drugs, eating). I just felt like the message was distorted and there was way too much God stuff in it for me when I was just getting cleaned up. So I went threw a 12 step program and focused on that for years prior to coming back to church!

Your not alone.

FletchersDaddy · #32 03-09-2010, 05:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Rayzgirl

My husband and I both live in Texas. He is doing time here as well. Tomorrow night, there is a Disciplinary Counsel to see if he will be Excommunicated. I am super nervous. I am so glad that I have found others of my faith here on the site!

Rayzgirl

Good luck, I hope it goes well for him. Just remember that no matter what happens. There is always a way back. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

7doingtime · #33 03-09-2010, 04:04 PM

My husband was also exed. However, there were church politics involved and he has been told by other leaders since then that it was wrong for them to do that and that in the Lord's eyes.. he still has all his temple blessings intact. I know that we are still sealed together as a family no matter what some imperfect "paperwork" and leaders say.
Whatever happens just know that the Lord is a perfect judge and his servants on earth that act in his behalf sometimes aren't. No matter what happens its possible to have the blessings restored whether "on paper" or just in the Lord's eyes.

Marina1027 · #34 03-10-2010, 09:57 AM

I have seen many of my husband's blessings restored to him. The Lord does not have to wait for our justice system (isn't that an oxymoron!) to work before he does his works. It is an amazing experience to see the Atonement in action!

Rayzgirl · #35 03-31-2010, 09:33 PM

Hi everyone. Sorry I have been gone so long. I wanted to update you on my husband's hearing the other day. They have excommunicated him for at least a year. That isn't too bad. He is really in good spirits about it all. I am so glad that he isn't losing faith. He told me that he wants to be sealed to me and will do everything in his power to get us to Manti! How is everyone?

TheWaitingGame · #36 04-14-2010, 01:14 AM

Marina....he WILL have to wait till he is off parole! Our Bishop went over in detail the churches rules etc. He mistakenly said that one even though it didn't apply to my husband and then quickly said nevermind. I asked him however just so I could pass on the info here to ya'll. They have a whole section about inmates and the parole system.

littlehoney · #37 04-26-2011, 11:07 AM

yay! I am so happy I found you all. My fiance is doing time in Texas. We are both LDS and this support will be great!

BMcPherson · #38 09-01-2011, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Marina1027

Sorry, I think I need to clarify. My husband cannot be rebabtized until sometime after he's out. I hope he doesn't have to wait until he's off parole...that could be a long time. My sons are both members already. The plan is that one son will baptize and the other will confirm my husband after he's out and the church gives the okay.

just wanted to tell you that my husband was babtized while on Parole but then again they might do it on a case by case basis i say that because he was not a member before prison

MrsP4ever · #39 09-21-2011, 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Marina1027

I have to say that the members of my ward have been wonderful to me. One lady writes to my husband every month (she writes to all the missionaries and considers my husband to be on a mission too.) My Bishop has been beyond wonderful, he even took the time to get approved for visiting AND made the trip down to see him. That's an 8 hour commitment!

I know that there are those that don't support him in any way shape or form but thankfully they are keeping it to themselves, I haven't heard a single word against him. I'm sure that will change if he comes home to this area but I'll deal with that then. For now I'm enjoying the blessings.

My ward has been very helpful and supportive too. The stake president (socially, not on "business"), our hometeacher, and the elders quorum presidents have visited with him. It was a domestic issue so I haven't been able to see him. I don't know that they'll make a trip down to State but they've been very supportive of my families needs.

Girls, If your priesthood holder is out of commission right now, don't be afraid to ask for prayers, blessings, etc.

Stay strong and have faith.

MrsP4ever · #40 09-21-2011, 10:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Marina1027

I am actually jealous of the opportunities that my husband has had for self-growth in prison. He has taken quite a few LDS Institute-type classes while inside. He is now a tutor in Family History and has been able to do a lot of work on his own genealogy. I've met a few of the missionaries that have worked in Gunnison and they have a lot of good things to say about the program and the men that participate in it.

Honestly, I believe my husband is in a better position repentance-wise than I am!

It's amazing how they get their strength back. My husbands been in county for almost 6 months. He just got sentenced yesterday

He's gonna xfer to State at anytime. I don't know which prison he is going to or what determines where they send him??? but he's got a missionary attitude. He is a convert and didnt serve a mission but is determined to be an example to those around him. How long is your hsbands sentence?

MrsP4ever · #41 09-21-2011, 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Rayzgirl

Hi everyone. Sorry I have been gone so long. I wanted to update you on my husband's hearing the other day. They have excommunicated him for at least a year. That isn't too bad. He is really in good spirits about it all. I am so glad that he isn't losing faith. He told me that he wants to be sealed to me and will do everything in his power to get us to Manti! How is everyone?

That is great! My husband and I werent sealed so our goal is to prepare ourselves during this seperation so that as soon as we are able to we can go to the temple.

richardswife1 · #42 01-25-2012, 12:16 AM

my husband is also in draper. I am not sure what I would do without the church. I will admitt that not all have been good. We lived in a small ward and have since moved to avoid the gosip. But we have been welcomed with open arms in the new ward. And I find the stapility and faith the church teaches my children along with repentance and forgivness is what keeps us going. along with the help my husband gets in draper. Is there anyway to talk to the branch pres. there, it would be nice to know anything about how my husband is doing from another persons perspective?

Marina1027 · #43 04-30-2012, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsP4ever

It's amazing how they get their strength back. My husbands been in county for almost 6 months. He just got sentenced yesterday

He's gonna xfer to State at anytime. I don't know which prison he is going to or what determines where they send him??? but he's got a missionary attitude. He is a convert and didnt serve a mission but is determined to be an example to those around him. How long is your hsbands sentence?

Attitude is EVERYTHING! The right one makes it all worth it.

My husband will be (hopefully) moving back to Draper this summer and he goes to the board again 2/2014.

hollyberry1279 · #44 06-09-2012, 12:09 AM

I see that some of these posts are old, lol. However since I'm new I was reading them and its great to know there have been people in a similar situation regards to the LDS church and prison.
I am LDS but my husband is not. We have been married 10 years and I have never pushed the church on him. I never liked my ward growing up, so as soon as I moved out of my parents house and then got married I fell away from going to church. But I still believe in the values and leading by example to be a good person. With everything we have been though, I have seen a change in his heart. He has really humbled himself and for the first time in his life is curious and willing to learn about the LDS church. I've been able to speak to him about the Atonement and forgiveness. He has even read the Book of Mormon. He said that our stake presidency has come to visit him a few times, he has a visiting teacher who has been going over the missionary discussions with him and he has been attending the meetings held. He says he looks forward to the visits which always cheer him up because of the spirit it brings to him.
I have also humbled myself and have been going back to church and have been taking my son to church. This last Nov2011 my son at the age of 9 did the missionary discussions and was baptized. I'm still trying to get to know people in my new ward, since I'm shy and don't want to talk to a lot of them about my husband in jail/prison. My relief society leaders have been really kind and encouraging. Its good to be back to church and a lot of my strength right now comes from knowing my heavenly father loves us and that my family will get through this tough time together.

CANT UNDERSTAND · #45 06-28-2012, 02:28 AM

Hi holly..........i am also lds...although only by 4 years...my 19 year old son is now in dcjs........i am going through so many emotions...saddness, anger, hatred............all of it............i am so lost

Fiesty · #46 06-29-2012, 11:45 PM

I do not live in Utah, but I do have family there. I am a LDS and have been all of my entire life having to born into the Gospel and my parents are still very strong in the church. I have been on and off attending to church for over 8 years now and have gotten back into attending and slowly trying to find a strong testimony of the Gospel, but I feel that I'm unhappy in it bc I'm quite inderpendent and would rather not have ppl all up in my business and am quite a private person with my personal life and that I use my attending church, as a "front" just to keep my parents happy.

I do believe in God but in my own way and all I have is nothing but of high respect in what my parents belierve. Being of Pacific Island heritage and coming from a strong mormon family, even though I know my parents say that the church is our family and that we are of one culture, I think otherwise, because of how I am in contact with my mwi and I will never tell them that I am communicating with him, because in my culture it is a taboo that can never be spoken of about..

I myself am not of a perfect well-being and have been down the narrow crooked path, neither are these people who are in prison, my mwi David is a strong devoted Catholic and he respects that I'm a mormon.

I am very proud of ya'll ladies sticking it out for your men, I never knew that there were actually members on PTO, something I'm glad to know of now<3 Thankyou for your confidence!

blue141 · #47 04-20-2013, 08:19 PM

Glad to find LDS folks here on PTO. My wife and I were sealed in 1999 and I'm facing federal time for some bad business mistakes (white collar). We've got 3 small children, and I'm looking at several years. Hard to really comprehend it all right now. Our main focus is keeping our covenant marriage together thru this.

I want to create a support system for her with other LDS women who are focused on 'enduring it well' and keeping their covenants thru this difficult time, so you can help strengthen eachother. Feel free to PM and reach out to me on this forum, or contact us thru our blog that was started recently (deleted website promoting other site)