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Old 03-11-2020, 10:15 AM
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Default Passing of my former bunkie/roommate

With sadness, I announce the passing of the man that was my bunkie in the transfer pod at Canaan, and then my roommate at Loretto FCI for 2-1/2 years (2013-2015). The BOP website indicated he died a week ago. He had been transferred out of Loretto to Butner FMC for cancer treatment late in 2015 and had been at the FCI ever since. He still had another 6 years to go on his sentence, but I suspect the cancer came back and took his life while still only in his early 60s.


Out of respect for his family, I'm not posting his name, but am remembering the friendship I did have with him for those couple of years. My heart is heavy today because of the news.
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You have my deepest condolences on the loss of your bunkmate. May he rest in peace. He is finally free!
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I am so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you and his family. He is at peace now
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I'm sorry for your loss. Dying in prison was my biggest fear.

Butner "hospital" was more like the bop's equivalent of the elephant's burial ground "the bop prisoner's burial ground", but any of their 3 FCI's (I was only in the medical center) had to be a huge improvement over Loretto. Anyone who had a medical emergency at Loretto didn't have to worry about the medical care in any hospital, they were sent back to their cell to die.
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I'm sorry for your loss. Dying in prison was my biggest fear.

Butner "hospital" was more like the bop's equivalent of the elephant's burial ground "the bop prisoner's burial ground", but any of their 3 FCI's (I was only in the medical center) had to be a huge improvement over Loretto. Anyone who had a medical emergency at Loretto didn't have to worry about the medical care in any hospital, they were sent back to their cell to die.

Very true about Loretto "medical care". One of the PAs there was called "Lady Death". I think you remember which one. Fortunately, she was not my PA. However, because Loretto dentistry didn't do fillings, I've lost most of 7 teeth as my long-time fillings couldn't be addressed there.


You and I both saw people that obviously needed serious medical care that wasn't to be found anywhere near Loretto.
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Yes I do, and she obviously despised all inmates. A board certified cardiologist who was in Loretto for medicare fraud had an appropriate prison job, mopping floors. He said he observed a number of inmates who died unnecessarily because of the bop's lack of consideration to treat seriously ill prisoners.

The worst (there were more) I observed at Loretto was when a 20 something inmate collapsed on the softball field. At least 15 minutes passed before the on-duty medical guy appeared without any medical equipment, and said "carry him to the hospital" without examining him at all. We found out the guy was a paramedic, but he must have been the world's only paramedic who didn't need medical equipment to accurately assess/treat a patient.

The bop's response was "he died in the hospital", which was a total lie.
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My condolences!!
My guy had a really good buddy in one of his facilities a few years back (I had just met him) leave for another prison and he actually cried. You are lucky if you find a good buddy in there so saying goodbye this way or another way must be really hard. I feel for you!
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Sorry for your loss. A good bunky relationship is a rare treasure.
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My condolences!!
My guy had a really good buddy in one of his facilities a few years back (I had just met him) leave for another prison and he actually cried. You are lucky if you find a good buddy in there so saying goodbye this way or another way must be really hard. I feel for you!

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I'm very sorry for your loss. It's difficult enough to lose someone. Losing someone who is in prison is worse. May his memory live long in you. People continue on after they've passed in the memories of those they touched.
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My heartfelt condolences go out to you Cal 1927,

I know how it feels to lose someone you care about. Try to remember the good times you shared with him and just know that your friend is now free from hurt, pain and anguish and that he's now in a better place. God bless his soul.

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