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MzDarknLovely31 · #51 05-20-2012, 10:06 AM

So here I am thinking all this is over and done with til I roll over in the middle of the night last night and I have five blocked text messages from her phone (the chick picking him up when he's out). I guess it was my sleeping pill that I didn't think or hesitate but I dialed her # and I let her have it. First of all it was after midnight that she text me, secondly didn't I ask her to stop several times. I asked her if she was familiar with the word stop? Is she aware of a dictionary if she needs a refresher course or perhaps a good tongue lashing will remind her.

I told her that she is her own woman she doesn't HAVE to text me what he has to say or call me when he asks her to and hasn't she stopped to wonder what the hell is he so bothered with me for if they are supposed to be having a day in bliss when she picks him up amongst her and her friends. I told her to shut up when she tried to talk and that if she text me one more time or called for him one more time that Id call police. I hung up on her. She texts, it comes up blank. I called the police and they told her and me that we cannot communicate with one another. I said that is what I want to happen and thank you. It helped that they saw Id already taken my own measures to block her.

He isn't even out yet and all this damn drama but now that the police have intervened hopefully that will help him to stay at bay because after seeing them all this time I know the last thing he wants to be is face to face with another cop. Since the girl didn't try to say much it had to be some negative shit that he had to say to me so she prob was all on board for that but I told her to tell him that I am far from concerned with anything he has to say especially something negative against me or our daughter. And all he's doing is being himself which is no surprise so if he's meaning to hurt me behind him being his usual dummy self he's in for a rude awakening.

I told her to tell him to stay out of our lane with this childish shit or Ill call his parole officer for harassment. I wouldn't want to do that to be honest and to be even more honest I dont wanna see him locked back up but what am I supposed to do leave myself wide open for this type of mess?

peaceplease · #52 05-20-2012, 10:54 AM

so sorry you are having to go through all this nonsense. i can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be.

that being said it sounds like you are doing all the right things, taking the high road, and i just wanted to say, good for you and even more importantly good for your little girl. stay strong.

Ms. Tazzie · #53 05-20-2012, 03:11 PM

I know u don't want too,, but the best thing u can do now is just change ur number.. it will stop everything,, the calls,, texts,, u picking up the phone to see if there are calls or texts,, u listening extra hard for the phone,, and it will send a message that u ain't playing.. Then you will probably have to call the parole officer to make a complaint.. Sorry,, but u gotta do it if you want peace......

MzDarknLovely31 · #54 05-21-2012, 06:32 PM

Well as of today Im pretty sure it's no longer necessary, he's gotten out his last hoo-rah. I got a text from a number last night that I didn't recognize while on another call and he told whoever it was to inform me that I can have "the little girl" and not to try and get up on his d*** when he gets out and stay from up out of his face b****. He hasn't tried to call any today since whoever that was sent the message and I did not respond at all. No text back, just blocked the #. I'm pretty willing to bet that I don't have anything else to worry about and to be honest that text didn't even hurt me because him not being a father to our child is what I'm already used to. It may have hurt if he had been a father and up and decided to be a deadbeat but this is just business as usual, as for him warning me not to get up on his d***, another female can have it because too much stress, drama and heartache is attached to that. He really is too funny, throwing his widdle fit because his mind games dont work no more, lol. I'm having a ball laughing at his immature behind. Feels good to be at this point.

*#1AndOnly* · #55 05-22-2012, 07:02 AM

I hope you saved the msg .. I hate to say it but if for some reason ya'all ever end up in court that is great evidence of his mental state to have in hand. Just sayin

You have come so far since you first started posting ... keep it up !

MzDarknLovely31 · #56 05-22-2012, 07:51 PM

I did, just like having a record of all the blocked calls on my Mr. Number app registry helped me getting them to call her to tell her to stop. I have heard nothing else, I do know he's still in there. I'm registered with the victim services unit so I will get a text and call when he is out. DOC says it will be no later than Monday of next week. I'm not complaining the longer the better for me, as my new townhome will be ready to move in on day after tomorrow. I hope to be in it before he touches down. I just put all my what I think were red flags on another thread on here and reading them again and I have more too embarrassing to put, I can't believe I even remotely thought I could be in a real relationship with this man. This site has helped me through alot. Thank you all. I hope to stay on the right track. So far all of your advice has helped me to where it seems like at least for now he is off of my trail.

MzDarknLovely31 · #57 05-24-2012, 08:37 AM

So my ex got out last night and the online services that I was registered for didn't even call and tell me so I could have been blindsided if I didn't think to call and check today. But so far so good, the woman said he was released last night to family and I haven't heard anything from him or anyone for him since so just wanted to pop in and ask everyone to pray for me that all stays calm.

nimuay · #58 05-24-2012, 08:43 AM

Absolutely - best wishes!

bumblebee37 · #59 05-24-2012, 10:42 AM

when the crap starts just tell him to whip by so you can give him some celebration money for his release and new life then call his PO you suspect he is drinking and druggin....see what kind of taste that leaves in his mouth.

MzDarknLovely31 · #60 05-24-2012, 11:25 AM

Oh my, lol @ bumblebee...well ironically enough when I logged off of here I answered a call beeping in. That girl's # is blocked so thought nothing of it, it was him. He wanted to know why I tried to catch him another street charge by calling about harrassing mail, I told him I didn't try to get you in trouble I just asked them to block the mail. He wasn't mad tho. He said he started to call when he got out last night but he didn't get out til 2 am. He said that he wanted to call me back after he got dressed (alluding to me he stayed the night at the chick's house, ugh). I didn't act phased. I said Im busy later, say what you have to say now.

He asked about our daughter and said that "I" did this to us. I said typical you blame me but if that makes you feel better doesn't matter we are still over and I wish you the best. He said and the same to you but I want to be a part of my daughter life. He asked where she was and told me to put her on the phone. I said thats not a good idea. She hasn't asked for you and you may confuse her, he said put her on the phone Im not gonna do that. I wanna be there. So they talked for 20 minutes. She spoke really well with him but she called him by his first name and not Daddy.

When I got back on the phone he accused me of teaching her that. I said I didn't but obviously what I told you is true you have to EARN the title Daddy. She knows my other child's father as Daddy. He said he was going to fix it. I said um hmm. So what now. He said if he didn't wanna be in his daughter's life he wouldn't be calling me to let me know he's out and he wouldn't be worried about her at all. I said well I already know and have had a taste of that so wouldn't have surprised me. He said he's past arguing and wants to get along. He said he wanted to call me after he take care of some things and he was going to try and get a cell phone later and will call me later today with the number. I told him ok, take care of yourself and he said you too.

Sigh...here we go. I hope...I pray things remain positive. I'm not jumping in headfirst and trusting him but I do hold out some hope he will at least be in our child's life. I heard the other girl in the background but ironically it didnt phase me like I thought it would. I knew he would get someone or some sex or a girlfriend, he never stays single but he told me he hadn't called his son's mom yet and apologized for her behavior. We will see where this all goes.

Ms. Tazzie · #61 05-24-2012, 11:36 AM

He HAS to act that way cause the girl was there,,, catch him when she's NOT AROUND
!!!

MzDarknLovely31 · #62 05-24-2012, 11:43 AM

Hmm...I didn't think about that. That's why I like you Zachary's Woman you are a quick thinker lol. Anyways, I wonder what his end game would be to call me in the first place then? You think he just did that to play in front of her and will go back to being deadbeat dad when she's not around?