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View Poll Results: Is it wrong to keep a death from an inmate if it's not a close family member?
No, why upset him. 7 5.88%
Yes, how could you!! 60 50.42%
Depends on how close they are. 40 33.61%
I'd let his family tell him. 12 10.08%
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Old 01-18-2010, 11:52 PM
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I have had to tell my love about a feww péople passing away....im close to his family n so i always keep hím updated on everything going on including people getting sick n tell him just how bad they r doing so its not so unexpected if they do pass away! I dont ever call the prison i wait till he calls because sometimes they put them on suicide watch...
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Old 01-19-2010, 01:04 AM
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i tell D. everything
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Old 01-19-2010, 01:50 AM
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yes its better to tell your loved one about the death in the family because your loved one might think the worse of you. it was bad on me because about 4 years ago i had to tell my husband about his grandmother. an now this last year i had to let him know about my mother in law. an its was hard on me because he does not have any family. the only family my husband has is me and my blind brother in law. even if its going to hurt him let your love one know. its better for them to hear it from you rather then from someone else. yes it hurts but we still have to do it. it hurted me the most because i saw my husband hurt and because we did not have any family support.
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I knew i was going to have to tell my husband that his grandfather died on christmas day. So i called up to where he is at so they could have him call home, i gave them all the info. The bad part is they never told him so when he called me on jan-1st. He caught me off gaurd, i was thinking they may have gave him a message, but he had no clue at all when he called. I felt so bad.
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Old 01-30-2010, 08:50 AM
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I would definitely tell him. I don't think he would like it if he comes home and realizes no one told him. My husband would be really upset with me if I didn't tell him.
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chinababy the same thing happen to my husband i called to tell them his mother died and they never told him. he called home the next day they never informed him. i felt bad for the counselor and CO. They did watch him for a week or two after.
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I couldn't withhold information like that from him. If it's a family member I'll let a member of his family tell him. But make sure it's done the proper way with a chaplain. If it's a non family member and someone told me of the passing to tell him. I'll tell him myself within a letter or by phone. I just couldn't keep the passing of anyone that he knows from him.
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This is a big fear of mine right now. My mans grandmother is in pretty poor health and he was just sent to a little over 2 years (Was supposed to have been under 2 years so going to be doing some digging on the amount of time served he was given). He doesn’t think she will make it until he is out again and he doesn’t want her to see him locked up.

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I would say yes. I was put in a situation like this a couple weeks ago with my boyfriend. It wasn’t a death but we found out his sister has cancer and it took me about two weeks to tell him because I wanted to make sure I had all the info. Plus god forbid she took a turn for the worst (thankfully she’s doing really well) I didn’t want to wait to tell him. It’s his family, he deserves to know whether in jail or not
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Yes of course I would. I wouldn't be able to keep something from him and I don't feel it's right for him not to know if something is going on
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Old 06-22-2019, 01:38 AM
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At the risk of sounding awkward - I would respect his mom and sisters wishes. They know him better than anyone.

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