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View Poll Results: How much $ do u invest in your man monthly?
less than $10 a month 74 12.31%
$20 - $50 125 20.80%
$60 - $200 263 43.76%
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Old 03-16-2013, 06:25 PM
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Just out of interest, how much money do u ladies put on your love's books monthly? Does he "expect" you to send him money on regular basis and does he appreciate every penny? Feel free to share
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Old 03-16-2013, 10:26 PM
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Just out of interest, how much money do u ladies put on your love's books monthly? Does he "expect" you to send him money on regular basis and does he appreciate every penny? Feel free to share

He definitely does not "expect" me to send him anything. And everytime I put money on his books, he thanks me and then shares what he buys.

But honestly I would say for communication purposes (phone calls, stationary, stamps, etc.) probably $50-100 and then another $50-100 to buy things. It depends if he needs things such as hygiene products or just wants to buy food, etc.

I normally spend anywhere form $100-200 total a month on him.
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I rarely send my man money and no he don't expect me to either... He can make his own money in there... He has always told me to take care of the home bills 1st... I do pay for calls and send paper and stamps and once in a while send him a package... But for the most part he does alot on his own...
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I DIDN'T know, can we send stamps and envelopes and paper? I thought that's not allowed? And what's allowed to be sent in a package? I'd appreciate answers!!! Thanks!
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My husband has been locked up since 1/10/13, not long...but so far I've spent $500. In total. I sent him $300, $90 covered fees and he's used the $210 on stamps, paper, pens, shoes, beard trimmer and Walkman. He's still using the $210. He hopes to make it last because he doesn't want me sending him a lot. Then the other $200, I put on the phones and we still have about $75 left...and we talk for at least an hour a day. So, while $500 seems like a lot in two months, we're not doing bad. Incidentally, we're saving for a large down payment on a house which is why I seem stingy. actually, I don't think he needs to have it easy in there either!
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He's been Away since 1/24 and in total about 800 so far not including phones when he was in county I would buy phone cards every other day and now so far I put 40 on the phone waiting on his list to be approved to talk
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I send my baby 200 a month sometimes more so he can buy clothes and other stuff he may want.
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My husband is spoiled and has always been i put 500 on phone and 500 on books then i put 50 a week on the car with our daughter and to eat y we visit and i drive 1.5 hours to c him with our daughter i feel like thats what we do if we love someone The phone is mostly our only means of communication so i make sure he can call!!!!!!!!
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I've budgeted $150 a month for his expenses. This almost always goes on his books, and sometimes I dip into it to pay for phone calls and stamps.
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My husband has been locked up since 1/10/13, not long...but so far I've spent $500. In total. I sent him $300, $90 covered fees and he's used the $210 on stamps, paper, pens, shoes, beard trimmer and Walkman. He's still using the $210. He hopes to make it last because he doesn't want me sending him a lot. Then the other $200, I put on the phones and we still have about $75 left...and we talk for at least an hour a day. So, while $500 seems like a lot in two months, we're not doing bad. Incidentally, we're saving for a large down payment on a house which is why I seem stingy. actually, I don't think he needs to have it easy in there either!
You've sent your guy $500 in two months and you think you seem stingy? I'd say that he lucky that he has you!

I pay for calls and sent him a $50 package from EComm for Xmas. That's all that I really can do because I am saving to move there in the next year.
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I would like to stay on a budget of about $15 to $20 a week.
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I send 125 dollars a month and he sends me the receipts for everything he buys. Mostly food as he stays in his cell voluntarily until he is moved to a medium in the next 2 months. He was denied PC, so we do it our way. we dont get a lot of phone time so 50 on the phone lasts at least 3 months. He appreciates to the penny.

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My husband has been locked up since 1/10/13, not long...but so far I've spent $500. In total. I sent him $300, $90 covered fees and he's used the $210 on stamps, paper, pens, shoes, beard trimmer and Walkman. He's still using the $210. He hopes to make it last because he doesn't want me sending him a lot. Then the other $200, I put on the phones and we still have about $75 left...and we talk for at least an hour a day. So, while $500 seems like a lot in two months, we're not doing bad. Incidentally, we're saving for a large down payment on a house which is why I seem stingy. actually, I don't think he needs to have it easy in there either!
Your phone calls are $2 an hour? Wow! He's been gone around 60 days and you've used only $125 on the phone and you talk for an hour every day. That's cool that they have such cheap phone calls.
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Your phone calls are $2 an hour? Wow! He's been gone around 60 days and you've used only $125 on the phone and you talk for an hour every day. That's cool that they have such cheap phone calls.
They charge me $8 for every 30-minute call.. And he does't even get to call every day! :b lah:
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I have 180.00 budgeted for him. Usually 80 goes to his books, the other for trips there and phone. I wish I could send more, but he knows our budget is limited. It seems we all do what we are able to do.
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My husband is in a tv facility which means he can receive only 2 personal packages a year. All foods, clothing, necessities that he desires he himself must order and money must come from his inmate account. So besides putting $80. monthly on the phone, every month he gets $100. and when I visit I deposit another $20. so he gets close to $200. Our phone calls are $1.86 for each 1/2 hr we spend and sometimes there are days that require 2 phone calls.
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I don't send him anything. He pays for the calls and all his canteen. I do keep money on my side of the phone in case he runs low. We talk for about an hour a day which is about $10. I pay for my jpay and pre-pay a stamp for him because that's the only thing I can get by with. He sends me a couple hundred a month. We both agree that we are odd since he is always paying.
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I send close to $200 a month, if not more.. it sorta depends on what he's doing that month (like needs to restock his locker, hygiene, etc). Most of that $200 goes to email (we email all day long, though less now since we both work full time and have class, but still manage about 5-10 emails per day), and to the phone. His mom used to send him money for food and supplies and everything else, but once she found out that I sent him money too, well she stopped (yet she complains that he doesn't call or email her - though we've explained it costs over $3 to call her vs 90cts to call me, and she never emails or writes him so why must he be the only one to initiate contact?). His dad usually pays his RFP payment. And his grandparents will occassionally help out and add a few bucks to his account. But most of the funds he gets comes from me. HE HATES IT! He can't stand that I have to support him, and also out household. He's been working his cute little butt off to get a job with UNICORE, which pays better than other jobs there, so that he can contribute more. (what will actually happen once he gets this new job, is he'll send his paychecks home, so they can be deposited to our nest egg savings account, so in 23months when he is home, we'll have a little something to help pay for things, like his license, car, insurance, etc..)
But as much as he hates that I support him, he appreciates every cent that he gets. He never ever asked for money, I started adding when it occurred to me how expensive it was for us to communicate via phone and email. (also got a local ph# so it would be cheaper).
Our rule - I pay for things now, and the day he comes home, his butt is working off his debt (one way or another - honey do list is quite long after 7+yrs lol)
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I budget money for his books just like it is a bill. I get paid every 2 weeks and that is when I put money on his account. If I get a bonus or tax refund I gave him more but he is happy with whatever I can do!
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I only send money when he requests it and it's usually not much because his family takes care of that for him. He hates to ask me for money because he knows I'm out here taking care of the children, bills alone. As far as sending packages, I believe that depends on the facility . You should contact the facility or ask your man. Different states have different rules.

The DOC is really making some money off of the inmates' families I see.
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I send my fiance' whatever i can which is normally about 200$ plus a month .. He hates asking me for money unless he really needs so I just randomly put money on his books & phone every month .. He's always appreciative of it & thanks me damn near the whole day when i do .. Idk if my fiance' has ever actually eaten a "prison meal" before .. lol
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I try my best to give her $100 every month. I also pay for her quarterly box. She is very appreciative. She always sends me such nice "thank you" cards. It's hard with two kids to support and I just found out I'm getting laid off in a couple of months, but even if I have to eat dirt, I'll do my best to provide for my sweetie!
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keith is in federal so he does have a job. however, he only makes 92 cents an hour.
unfortunately, that does not go very far. now, they cut his hours at work. he is trying to get another job so he can have more hours and make more money.
i send keith $25 each month for him to be able to email me. i pay $17.99 to have a local phone number so he can call me at a low rate. i sometimes send books. i sent him a magazine subscription. i just sent him $58 for a new pair of shoes. he had his nikes for three years and they are falling apart. he hasn't asked me for anything. i have offered. he is grateful...
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I don't send him any money "directly". We aren't dating so that might make a difference, if I was his girlfriend I probably would. I send him 3 envelopes every time I send a letter, 2x a week, even though he expressed very clearly I didn't need to. We just got my phone number approved earlier today so I will be picking up the tab on our phone calls, I wouldn't feel right about making his mom pay for them. And since he told me he loves to read I am trying to comb Amazon to find books to send him. His mom takes care of all his day to day expenses though
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