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Curtis'wife · #1 06-15-2012, 02:17 AM

we got into a huge argument this afternoon so tonight when he called i didnt want to talk to him so i didnt answer his calls and then when i finally did he left me.... just like that 2 and a half years and almost a year of him being inside and its done... in so much pain right now... i just wanted to be mad at him and now im alone.... god this hurts so much

Scotties_Girl21 · #2 06-15-2012, 07:10 AM

I'm sorry your going through this Hun. That's a long time to just throw away over an argument. I hope you guys can resolve this issue if you think that's what's best. Sending good thoughts your way.
:huggs:

Every day brings me one day closer to you....<3

hisbabygurl2014 · #3 06-15-2012, 07:41 AM

I am sorry ur going through this!!
But whats up with these guys dumping their girls because they dont answer a phone call everytime they dont have their way? Sheeesh, they are sooo babed sometimes makes me sick..lol. I hope that u and hime can come together.
When he calls make sure u dont take him right away because if you do than he is going to think his behavior is ok and will treat you that way.

InmateLover67 · #4 06-15-2012, 07:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Curtis'wife

we got into a huge argument this afternoon so tonight when he called i didnt want to talk to him so i didnt answer his calls and then when i finally did he left me.... just like that 2 and a half years and almost a year of him being inside and its done... in so much pain right now... i just wanted to be mad at him and now im alone.... god this hurts so much

Hun, there is more to this story than he is admitting. You never have to feel obligated to answer his calls, however, you should be able to communicate when you are having issues.

Like I said, there is more to this story than what it seems. He would not leave you simply because you didn't answer his calls.....think about it? If he did, then he is an childish ass and needs to sit with his attitude and behaviors.

You do not deserve this! Take some quiet time to reflect in this relationship and let things be for a while, then see what happenes.

I know you are hurting right now, but you will get through this, whatever the outcome.

He has no right to punish you with a break-up because you refused his calls....that is jsut plain bullshit. Get to the bottom of this and keep living your life for YOU.

I hope you get this ironed out....know that you are stronger than you think.

Peace~

canadiangirl098 · #5 06-15-2012, 07:50 AM

im so sorry that your going through this...hopefully things will work out if its what you want fights and arguments happen and people say things out of anger and then when they have time to calm down then depedning on the reason they left they can come back once calmed down..hopefully all it was is he is mad and needs to calm down

Rachel C · #6 06-15-2012, 08:12 AM

Sorry that this is happening to you...if you don't mind me asking what was his excuse for leaving? It just seems like more than meets the eye, you don't break up w/ someone over them not answering there damn telephone. I hope you can get to the root of the problem and you guys can work things out. Keep your chin up girly...wishing you the best.

Curtis'wife · #7 06-15-2012, 10:19 AM

i truly dont know what is going through his mind... i spoil him in the fact that his entire incarceration i have never missed a call, travel hundreds of miles to see him, keep his canteen and phone loaded with more money than he could ever use.... he has serious insecurities when it comes to relationships and has been left and cheated on by everyone he was with in the past... when we argued i was at a bar with some male friends just having some fun and when he called i could tell he was miserable and i really tried my hardest not to get mad at him and even asked him to stop going on about something that was out of my control because i was getting mad and the conversation would go nowhere fast... when he didnt i lost it on him then hung up on him after i said when i was done saying what i needed too... he said he was calling to apologize for his earlier behavior when i didnt answer his call and he said he felt like i was ignoring him because i must be with on of the guys i was hanging out with earlier in the day, i know insecure, everything got blown out of proportion and now god knows when i will hear from him.... i wrote him a last letter and plan to send it in a few days if i dont hear from him... i love him enough to let him go if thats what he truly wants even though it will hurt me more than i have ever hurt before..... true love is a wonderful thing but it also opens the door to an emotional pain that could only be surpassed by a death of a loved one.... thank you for all your kind words

**shaunna** · #8 06-15-2012, 08:04 PM

I'm really sorry to hear that you are going through a hard time...whatever happens I hope things work out for the best for you

Sherry1 · #9 06-15-2012, 08:18 PM

I'm sorry you are stuggling with this. Everything does happen for a reason weather we realize what the reason could be. God bless u!

agomez84 · #10 06-15-2012, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Curtis'wife

we got into a huge argument this afternoon so tonight when he called i didnt want to talk to him so i didnt answer his calls and then when i finally did he left me.... just like that 2 and a half years and almost a year of him being inside and its done... in so much pain right now... i just wanted to be mad at him and now im alone.... god this hurts so much

Hes gonna call u back trust me!

Cndiforever · #11 06-15-2012, 10:10 PM

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Originally Posted by agomez84

Hes gonna call u back trust me!

Lol i agree.youll see.n when he does.dont get heated n yell n ask him y didnt he call..mhmmm trap him to find out the real problem or to work out difficult situations.u gotta ease on in, to certain discussions..get him comfortable.youll get him talkin

Sheryl P. · #12 06-16-2012, 12:17 AM

Sounds like he is just being childish and wants to make you hurt.
I would bet money he will call you back once he gets over his tantrum.
The question is,will you allow him to use emotional manipulation on you when he is feeling upset.

ahora2012 · #13 06-17-2012, 06:31 PM

it sounds like you were both at fault - and thats normal for a fight to just start spinning out of control - afterall thats what a fight is -- but just give him a minute to calm down -you do the same- and when he calls - BECAUSE HE WILL - you can work it out and grow from it.

Curtis'wife · #14 06-26-2012, 10:39 PM

well he still hasnt called but i did send him a goodbye letter in which i told him that i needed to know if he still wants me to bring the kids to our previously planned pfv and he responded by letter saying yes... man this is gonna be weird and hard but i have to stay strong... leaving in two weeks... wish me luck

Rachel C · #15 06-27-2012, 05:15 PM

Ohhh that is going to be very awkward....so sorry. Are they his kids? Good luck girly. Sorry he's still being an ass.

Curtis'wife · #16 06-29-2012, 01:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Rachel C

Ohhh that is going to be very awkward....so sorry. Are they his kids? Good luck girly. Sorry he's still being an ass.

biologically no they are not his but in all sense of the word he is there father and the only father they know... it is going to be very awkward yes but the kids didnt ask to be put in the middle of this separation and i for one will do everything in my power to make sure this affects them as little as possible

La Divina · #17 06-29-2012, 02:49 AM

If he wants to see ur kids it aint over then hes playing with ur head ull see my babydad was just like that he used to manipulate me all the time by threatning to cheat smh

La Divina · #18 06-29-2012, 02:50 AM

I meant threatning to leave me and he would do that n then come back