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negretelove · #76 06-12-2012, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs. Happy

By not letting him see his.son. It.s not right that she lets him be in his life then takes that away. You either let him or you don't. If the judge took his rights based on facts and truths why would she still let him see the kid? If he is such a bad father why would she allow.that. He has no rights and that's why he was telling her what she wants to hear.

that is when you document and go back to court

Turn the tables

**Nieves915** · #77 06-12-2012, 08:34 PM

I wasnt even going to comment but i might as well,, so hear goes and remember just like everyone here has thier opinion i have one too.
I am also a baby mamma,,, (if you wanna use that term) I am not looking for a reason to get next to my ex, I dont call him unless I have too, (which is hardly ever) I dont text him, I dont drive by his house, i dont stalk him and I dont give his wife grief at all, the term baby mamma does not offend me cuz I know me.
There are good/great/wonderful baby mommas, and then lets be real there are women who wont let go, latch on, cling, use the kids as an excuse to call at all hours of the night, etc,,,, IT DOES NOT ALWAYS MEAN HES FEEDING HER THE GOODIES... she simply could just be stuck,,, I know that the mother of my husbands children has issues with moving on. She has told me that she cant because when she looks at the kids she sees him, I get that and i feel for her i really do. but there comes a point when we all have to think about the children and what is best for them. If its mom and dad being together great, but that is not always the case, sometimes its better to be apart so the kids dont grow up as dysfuncional as the relationship. Does that make sense.
We as wives have no say in the way the parents raise the children, we are step moms and have the pleasure of being part of thier lives,, (if that is the case0 some women do not want anyone around thier kids,,, When i got divorced and my ex wanted them,, sure,,, take them for the weekend, that was me time.... there are some valid points on both sides of this coin, but the reality is that sometimes its hard to let go of a person we loved for so long, and we think a child can keep us together it cant... if it did we would all still be with our childrens father right?
No one is disrespecting the mother of anyones children,, its the actions of some that make it really hard, and it doesnt mean were not secure,, geesh,,, im very secure in my man and our marriage, but sometimes it gets so damn tiring to have a person who wont let go continue to try and get a person back,,, hes gonna go and be with who he wants to be with.... the children should always come first, to both parents,, and what is best for them.. i think we lose sight of that through some of the agrivasion. But dont blame the wife for making the childrens mother single all of a sudden,, we live, we love, we fall out of love, we choose.... i would love to be friends with the mother of my husband children,, i have tried, I have had her at our home and all she wanted to do was see his stuff. I dont know any man who would deal with the drama of a baby daddy!!!!!!

MsPrettiJackson · #78 06-12-2012, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by curegirl

What she meant was that as the mother of that man's child she has earned and is due respect. I, for one, would never be with a man who was disrespectful to anyone, much less his mother or the mother of his child. A child is a blessing that not everyone is given and they should be cherished as such and their needs and wants should be placed above every adult in the situation. There are some crazy women who use their children as a means to hurt their exes. IMO, those women should lose custody of their children because in hurting their fathers they hurt their children as well and that is abuse. That being said, gfs, lovers, fiancees, and wives should not insert themselves in any drama. If you man is a man, he can fight his battles without you. If you know that you and the baby's mom don't get along, cease all contact with her. Let him deal with it. He made the baby with her; you didn't. It is in fact none of your business. That is not your child. You have no rights in the situation. Let him deal with it.

The word is EARN!!! Now let's all look up what EARN means!! Not every WIFE and GIRLFRIEND is jealous of the BM because most of us are mothers and we OBVIOUSLY have kids of our own. But no women deserves to be disrespected and no point whether it's by the man or the mother of his child. And for those who put up with it THAT'S THEM but it's quiet a few of us in theses threads whose not putting up with that foolishness.. Because at the end of the day if it is about the child then parties involved need to ACT LIKE IT!!!! I love my husbands kids but will I put up with the foolishness ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! His daughters mom we have THE BEST relationship and I can get his daughter n e time I want and WE have a Mutual Respect for each other. But the sons father has to EARN my respect to get MY respect...

MsPrettiJackson · #79 06-12-2012, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs.taylor2011

This is like beating a dead horse lol .

Ms.Taylor.....for once I agree with you...some people taking it to far and out of content about to make me get real attitude'ish...

nahautl · #80 06-12-2012, 10:19 PM

I am going through it. I never THOUGHT I would date a many with children either, but I fell in love with him. It's been very trying, but I think it's given me a way to trust him on a whole new level. He has no choice but to have communication with the mother of his child, and I have 100% trust in him that it will never be more than that. She drives me insane but I try to focus on my relationship and on the little guy. I feel your pain though...she'll never go away.....blah

precioustime · #81 06-12-2012, 10:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Buttacup38

Why r woman so jealous of other woman?

It's not my fault U having a baby didn't make him stay with U. He saw something in me tht he didn't see in U. I respect tht fact tht U have a kid by my husband, but damn why do u wanna be all in my bizness? Let it go girl..He doesn't want u! he wants to b in his daughter's life. Why r u making it so hard?

Is anyone going through this? Need advise!!

I have to agree with alot of the other women here who are speaking from experience. Don't be so sure that he's not all up in her ear or whatever behind your back. My sons father did that with me no matter who he was with, even when he was married-always tried getting with me. Yep, I'm sure he said I was crazy too and that I just wanted him-when I was the one that left his ass. We would go back and forth to court....and his wife was doing all is leg work for him like she was his lawyer and he was playin' her so bad!!! So bad that when he left her-he came and stayed at my house and I allowed him to because she was such a douche and thought she knew it all!!! Boy oh boy did she go crazy!! LOL Did I want him back? Nope, I was going through a divorce too (married someone else) lol

The bickering back and forth is really bad for the child. I'm glad I dont' have to deal with it any longer my son is of age now. When it comes to the kids between two people-it's best to stay out of it. And don't assume that he's always telling you the truth-you know what happens when you assume. If you have to be involved for whatever reason the best thing is to just try to be nice-even if you have to put on the fakest smile, for the sake of the child. It doesn't kill people to just be nice but I think that also comes with maturity-which seems to be lacking in this situation.

Sweet_Tee · #82 06-12-2012, 11:25 PM

Wow!!! Sisters!!!! Can't we just get along?! Damn!!! Why must females always get catty. It's an open forum. Opinions are just like assholes, everybody got one. Stop debating, state your opinion and keep it moving unless asked a question. Everybody up on here, I'm sure get stressed out for one reason or another but stop taking that sh*t out on each other. Not one person knows the other persons life and I'm sure the poster was not spazzing on any particular baby mama up on here. Stop taking the next persons words so personal, please!! Her situation is hers, yours is yours and mines is mines. Stop making such a beautiful thing (PTO) ugly. This is just nasty. I wish you all well. I'm out.......

MsPrettiJackson · #83 06-12-2012, 11:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweet_Tee

Wow!!! Sisters!!!! Can't we just get along?! Damn!!! Why must females always get catty. It's an open forum. Opinions are just like assholes, everybody got one. Stop debating, state your opinion and keep it moving unless asked a question. Everybody up on here, I'm sure get stressed out for one reason or another but stop taking that sh*t out on each other. Not one person knows the other persons life and I'm sure the poster was not spazzing on any particular baby mama up on here. Stop taking the next persons words so personal, please!! Her situation is hers, yours is yours and mines is mines. Stop making such a beautiful thing (PTO) ugly. This is just nasty. I wish you all well. I'm out.......

I agree!!! You have some women

MsPrettiJackson · #84 06-12-2012, 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweet_Tee

Wow!!! Sisters!!!! Can't we just get along?! Damn!!! Why must females always get catty. It's an open forum. Opinions are just like assholes, everybody got one. Stop debating, state your opinion and keep it moving unless asked a question. Everybody up on here, I'm sure get stressed out for one reason or another but stop taking that sh*t out on each other. Not one person knows the other persons life and I'm sure the poster was not spazzing on any particular baby mama up on here. Stop taking the next persons words so personal, please!! Her situation is hers, yours is yours and mines is mines. Stop making such a beautiful thing (PTO) ugly. This is just nasty. I wish you all well. I'm out.......

I was saying when we make it out of opinions and then someone turns it around and makes it catty and then we tend to get defensive. Our original response is always to the thread then someone gets emotional and then the bashing begins. So I agree with you because at the end of the day we want our loved one homes.

Mrs. Happy · #85 06-12-2012, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweet_Tee

Wow!!! Sisters!!!! Can't we just get along?! Damn!!! Why must females always get catty. It's an open forum. Opinions are just like assholes, everybody got one. Stop debating, state your opinion and keep it moving unless asked a question. Everybody up on here, I'm sure get stressed out for one reason or another but stop taking that sh*t out on each other. Not one person knows the other persons life and I'm sure the poster was not spazzing on any particular baby mama up on here. Stop taking the next persons words so personal, please!! Her situation is hers, yours is yours and mines is mines. Stop making such a beautiful thing (PTO) ugly. This is just nasty. I wish you all well. I'm out.......

Love your post!! So true

Sweet_Tee · #86 06-12-2012, 11:46 PM

Well, I care about all of y'all. And I'm about to turn into Madea up in here!!! *reaching for my purse* Goodnight ladies ;-*

**LifeTraveler** · #87 06-13-2012, 02:41 AM

This thread has outlived it's usefulness, and is now closed.