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Old 11-06-2018, 05:10 AM
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With the home stretch at last in sight, a bit longer but still it was there. Time to even start putting plans into motion. We were getting along really well and taking these couple's quizzes. As recently as thusday/frriday I was gushing like a total girl!
I dont even know what happened...so much anger, so many hurtful words thrown at me. I said im going to go now I love you, Im not going sit on he phone and take abuse (at transgressions that he contrived). So being angry he did something f***ing so stupid! Now he's being sent to lockdown, no idea how long. I dont even know whats going on! My heart is broken. I dont even know which part I am most devestated by.
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Old 11-06-2018, 05:41 AM
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It's not your fault, he's an idiot for jeopardizing his release, he's got to take the punishment - not you. Relax and let him deal with it, you didn't make him do it.
I get the disappointment but don't dwell on it, do something nice for you.
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I'm sorry and I hope it was only one incident in prison that unhinged him. Even so, it is inexcusable that he took his anger out on you and it won't be repeated in the future..
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Without reading or knowing your back story it sounds (normal) for some one who is getting close to release. They call it the short and shitties!!! I don't know your story but in general as release gets close a whole new anxiety starts up.I personally never dealt with it much but I figure it's just like anything else where you take out your stress and anxiety on the one who's closest to you. But all this depends on length of sentence and how long you have been in this relationship. Sometimes it's someone getting close to release trying to get rid of their prison (love), because they are moving on. Lot's of reasons that most never will understand. Like I said I don't know your back story so really can't say what your guys motive is. But whatever you should not just accept his abusive behavior.
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Without reading or knowing your back story it sounds (normal) for some one who is getting close to release. They call it the short and shitties!!! I don't know your story but in general as release gets close a whole new anxiety starts up.I personally never dealt with it much but I figure it's just like anything else where you take out your stress and anxiety on the one who's closest to you. But all this depends on length of sentence and how long you have been in this relationship. Sometimes it's someone getting close to release trying to get rid of their prison (love), because they are moving on. Lot's of reasons that most never will understand. Like I said I don't know your back story so really can't say what your guys motive is. But whatever you should not just accept his abusive behavior.

I dont understand his motivation.
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I dont understand his motivation.
Either does anyone else with out knowing what your relationship is? I get boyfriend? How long and how long has he been in? Have you been together on outside? Has he been in for a million years? All this could play into his motivation! I can guess all day but some of my questions will make a huge impact on my answers.
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His motivation might be just major frustration and/or anxiety. And he's letting it out on anybody including you.
As xolady already wrote, we don't know the dynamics of your relationship or have any more info but no matter who behaves likes this towards me, I personally don't have the patience and acceptance for it.
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With some of the other ladies on this.
He is probably tripping about getting released.

But regardless of that, he has no business being angry with you.
And now he done stepped in it. Thats on him.
I wouldnt tolerate that type of exchange either. (him yelling and saying crap to you)
Hopefully he didnt earn himself a bunch more time inside.
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Sorry that you are going through this It's a bit difficult to comment really because we don't know the context/what the argument was about....but it did occur to me that you just recently posted another thread where you mentioned about his new medication, one of which was SSRI meds..? Just wondering if his moods are a bit off base due to medication right now (providing he's behaving totally out of character.

At any rate...don't blame yourself
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