Missing your man? Post your thoughts here

[cristinas]

oh hun <3. Hugs coming your way... During the day it is easier to forget your loved one is not around. After all, he might just be at work, right? But then, when the house is quiet, the kids are in bed and everything slows down... then reality is setting in and really, really hard to deal with. Sometimes more then others. I hope you'll find a way to avoid the loneliness: be on the phone with him later than normal (maybe he can call right before 10?), write him at nighttime, drink a glass of warm milk and read a nice soothing book... and when everything else fails... take a shower and cry... And then remember: This too shall pass... <3

[Beachhouse]

Some days I don't miss him as much as others. We normally visit each week and have only missed 3 months and an occasional week in the 2+yrs he's been gone but I haven't seen him in a month and now I'm just missing him and sad. It's hard because our moods match and I try to stay upbeat and positive but he's down and I'm sad and the moods are matching again. I wish he was here and could help me with things that feel so beyond me. My car has been broken for over a year and even now that its been in the shop for a week and I dropped it off today again, its not fixed. It's just costing me money I dont have and making me indebted to my mom. I want I defer to someone else sometimes because its tough here.

[Whysper]

I just came across this post. And I and thank you. I know I am posting late on it, but it is nice to have a place to come. My fiance has been in since March 4th. With no end date in site. I have only seen him once since being taken in. And that was when he had court. He has not called me in over a week, and even as I type I am in tears and have to keep correcting my mistakes. I receive letters yes, but I miss his voice so much. I sat here yesterday and just sat at my desk an wrote him. I spent a good 7 hours writing. When I write him, it does feel like I am talking to him, as strange as that my sound.

I read his letters and it just pains me. I am trying to stay strong, and I have to admit it is tough. He is not eating. He tells me he has lost about 10 pounds. He was already underweight going in. I am so scare. I am here all alone. I have nobody. He is my world. The only person I have. And they took him from me! I did nothing wrong. Why punish me! WHY!Why am I stuck suffering? I did nothing wrong.

I love you baby, forever and ever I promise.

[valbishop]

I am really missing my man alot! I am new to this site and this is the first time I am going thru this. He is at pedimont ci in nc he got there last friday and I am so used to getting phone calls everyday and letters two or three times a week. I havent been able to talk to him since he got there and I am going crazy! Dont know when It will be before I talk to him......:-(

[MzStackz]

I miss him more than he will ever know. I cry because I can't call and hear him say hey bae. His voice, smile, etc. soothes me. I miss kissing him nibbling on his lips. I miss how he would reach for my hand in the car when he saw I was sad. I need those hugs he gave so well to make me forget my problems. I feel my heart crack every time I look at his picture. My eyes swell full of tears now from so much pain that my best friend is away and I pray everyday several times a day that eventually they will be tears of joy when he is free again

[Tims<3girl]

Missing my baby tonight. I can't see him, he's too far away. We are waiting on parole. When it is warm like today it's our perfect night, gentle breeze...Tim please come home soon! Momabear needs you.

[tiffy1985]

Originally Posted by Tims<3girl

Missing my baby tonight. I can't see him, he's too far away. We are waiting on parole. When it is warm like today it's our perfect night, gentle breeze...Tim please come home soon! Momabear needs you.

Saw your ticker we have the same amount of time left here's hoping it flies by!

[ImJustMe123]

I miss him most in the evenings after my sons gone to bed. I can usually keep myself distracted during the day. When I sit down to write my nightly letter though and realize that he still isn't here, I still can't speak to him, and with his sentence those things might not change it sometimes gets to me. I try to be strong but definitely some nights are harder. On the bright side my expungement process is underway and they finally approved me to go see him so it's time to start planning a mini-vaca

[LovelyLadyCH]

I miss him terribly tonight. I don't generally cry, but tonight I feel like crying. I miss him most at night. I've found that I can lay still, and try to envision him laying next to me, and it relaxes me... enough to sleep... I just miss wrapping my arms around him, and looking into his blue eyes and telling him how much I love him.. pictures are great, but I just miss the physicalness... I just miss him tonight... he made a statement saying that he won't be out for the summer, and by the time he is out, it will be cold, and probably Christmas time I just wish this was all over... doesnt help that I can't go visit him, because I'm in NH... and he's in OH...

[faithfulloyalty]

I've been missing him sooooo bad the past two weeks. It's like the months have started going by slower. I lay in bed and cry myself to sleep sometimes. When I wake up I keep my eyes close and imagine that when I open them he'll be beside me sleeping. I miss being around him, I miss arguing with him, I miss his smile, his laugh. I tell myself that it could be worse, his sentence could be longer but that doesn't help much. I miss him constantly. When I'm shopping and see couples I wish it was us, when I'm grocery shopping I wish I was taking them home to cook for him...all the little things.

[LovelyLadyCH]

He didn't call tonight. It was terribly hard to not have him call. I miss him terribly, so I am going to write him a letter instead.

[DonnysWmn]

I just got back from a trailer visit. After sleeping two nights with him it's so hard to go back to bed alone. I just want him home !

[Rogerswifey]

Had a wonderful visit with my baby yesterday. Just as we were about to be terminated, someone else was leaving so I got to stay. The visiting room only holds 49 people! I miss him already. Since he was moved a little farther away I usually see him once every other Sunday. I do appreciate the time I do get. I know there are others that have not seen their loved one for awhile so I do feel fortunate that he is still within driving distance. I love this man and can't wait for him to come home.

[Rogerswifey]

Originally Posted by DonnysWmn

I just got back from a trailer visit. After sleeping two nights with him it's so hard to go back to bed alone. I just want him home !

Mab I wish I could have overnight visits with my baby! I hate that the co's are there watching our every move.

[Holly018]

He is locked in the hole right now and cannot call me like he was doing. Miss him of course but the phone calls sure did help and now it is like I have nothing.

[MrsTred]

I'm just really going through it today, missing my love. The lady at secerus kept putting my credit card information in wrong so it blocked it for 24 hours! that made me reallyyyyyyyy mad! I'm use to talking to him everything making sure everything is okay. He's my best friend so somedays I vent to him about EVERYTHING I'm not able to do that today and its irritating me! It seems as if everything is getting on my last nerves! probably just because I'm being a big baby and want to talk to my boyfriend. I love him. ugh I just can't wait to he's home! Thanks for listening I'm pretty sure everyone else has days like this as well...

[InmateLover67]

Originally Posted by MrsTred

I'm just really going through it today, missing my love. The lady at secerus kept putting my credit card information in wrong so it blocked it for 24 hours! that made me reallyyyyyyyy mad! I'm use to talking to him everything making sure everything is okay. He's my best friend so somedays I vent to him about EVERYTHING I'm not able to do that today and its irritating me! It seems as if everything is getting on my last nerves! probably just because I'm being a big baby and want to talk to my boyfriend. I love him. ugh I just can't wait to he's home! Thanks for listening I'm pretty sure everyone else has days like this as well...

You are not alone, as most of us have bad days. Try writing your feelings and thoughts on paper....sometimes it helps release the frustration.

Tomorrow is a new day, hopefully, you will feel better.

Peace~

[bostonswifey]

I am feeling the same way about my husband today. No minutes on the phone. no way to put minutes on the phone. I dont know when Iwill be able to. The cars transmission blew on the way home from visit sunday and the mechanic cant get it done this week so on top of it all I cant even see him this weekend. So today is my want to curl up and cry like a little kid day too. I just wrote my husband what probably came across as the needest letter in the world but once he reads it he will understand why the letter was like that I will probably get one back that equally so. Anyway just wanted to say you're right you're not alone...and today you're definitely not alone...I actually posted a thread earlier today talking about missing my husband and having bad luck.

Originally Posted by MrsTred

I'm just really going through it today, missing my love. The lady at secerus kept putting my credit card information in wrong so it blocked it for 24 hours! that made me reallyyyyyyyy mad! I'm use to talking to him everything making sure everything is okay. He's my best friend so somedays I vent to him about EVERYTHING I'm not able to do that today and its irritating me! It seems as if everything is getting on my last nerves! probably just because I'm being a big baby and want to talk to my boyfriend. I love him. ugh I just can't wait to he's home! Thanks for listening I'm pretty sure everyone else has days like this as well...

[MrsTred]

Originally Posted by bostonswifey

I am feeling the same way about my husband today. No minutes on the phone. no way to put minutes on the phone. I dont know when Iwill be able to. The cars transmission blew on the way home from visit sunday and the mechanic cant get it done this week so on top of it all I cant even see him this weekend. So today is my want to curl up and cry like a little kid day too. I just wrote my husband what probably came across as the needest letter in the world but once he reads it he will understand why the letter was like that I will probably get one back that equally so. Anyway just wanted to say you're right you're not alone...and today you're definitely not alone...I actually posted a thread earlier today talking about missing my husband and having bad luck.

awwww I totally understand hope things get better for you as well! I'm just going through it all around, I may have to move because there's little or no jobs here. So i'll be moving to the next nearest city just for work! which is frustrating becasuse I don't have a lot of money to do it with but hey got to work, got to eat. yeah I've been curled in a ball today too, sleeping alot as well... jst feeling down I hope things get better for the both of us but glad there's others to talk too! I just miss him so much!!! cant wait to this whole process is over... things will get better. I think I'll write him too!

[tiffy1985]

I feel kinda bad we had our daily phone call and I just wasn't very enthusiastic. I miss him so much and i'm thrilled I figured out a way to go see him in a couple of days, but I am also so nervous having short time left. I just wonder if things will change for the better and if we'll still be on the same page. I tried expressing this to him and it all came out wrong at the end of our conversation and ran out of time i'll try to clarify things tomorrow.

[bostonswifey]

Yeah days like today are the worst. I am living with my mother in law who may have just lost her job because she was in training and in the job she was in training for you're not allowed to miss a day and since the transmission went and her job is an hour away she has no way to get to work this week so they are deciding right now whether they are going to make an exception and keep her on. Another way I feel completely useless right now. I was in a car accident (a friend of mine was driving) about 4 years ago, I have had to have 4 back surgeries since the accident and the last two have not been very good. I havent been able to work in the last two years. I have been going for disability just to be able to get my husband and I by without having to depend on his mother seeing as how we are married and grown adults but its taking forever to get that to go through. so i understand the money situation all too well. when it rains it pours.

Originally Posted by MrsTred

awwww I totally understand hope things get better for you as well! I'm just going through it all around, I may have to move because there's little or no jobs here. So i'll be moving to the next nearest city just for work! which is frustrating becasuse I don't have a lot of money to do it with but hey got to work, got to eat. yeah I've been curled in a ball today too, sleeping alot as well... jst feeling down I hope things get better for the both of us but glad there's others to talk too! I just miss him so much!!! cant wait to this whole process is over... things will get better. I think I'll write him too!

[MrsTred]

Originally Posted by bostonswifey

Yeah days like today are the worst. I am living with my mother in law who may have just lost her job because she was in training and in the job she was in training for you're not allowed to miss a day and since the transmission went and her job is an hour away she has no way to get to work this week so they are deciding right now whether they are going to make an exception and keep her on. Another way I feel completely useless right now. I was in a car accident (a friend of mine was driving) about 4 years ago, I have had to have 4 back surgeries since the accident and the last two have not been very good. I havent been able to work in the last two years. I have been going for disability just to be able to get my husband and I by without having to depend on his mother seeing as how we are married and grown adults but its taking forever to get that to go through. so i understand the money situation all too well. when it rains it pours.

Yes but things will get better for us! and your right when it rains it pours but we mst stay focused and not give up. I'm thinking about the bigger picture him being home with me thats all I want. I hope they spare your mother in laws job, they need to understand although they say don't miss days, life does happened. Things aren't planned but sometimes they just happened. wow! sorry you had to have 4 surgeries! but glad your okay!! things will fall into place.. Keep your head up!

[bostonswifey]

thanks and you're right things will get better, when you're down the only place you can go is up. Yeah my husband being home with me is all I want too. Its all I think about. Its all we talk about. All of our plans. I hope they do too. She should hear back by tomorrow. You keep your head up too. and definitely write your guy a letter. pretend you're talking to him. you may not get to hear his voice but sometimes on days like this it helps.

Originally Posted by MrsTred

Yes but things will get better for us! and your right when it rains it pours but we mst stay focused and not give up. I'm thinking about the bigger picture him being home with me thats all I want. I hope they spare your mother in laws job, they need to understand although they say don't miss days, life does happened. Things aren't planned but sometimes they just happened. wow! sorry you had to have 4 surgeries! but glad your okay!! things will fall into place.. Keep your head up!

[Purplegirl1008]

I'm missing him like crazy right now. Have not heard from him in 2 days and I'm starting to get worried

[MrsTred]

Originally Posted by Purplegirl1008

I'm missing him like crazy right now. Have not heard from him in 2 days and I'm starting to get worried

I hope that you hear from him soon!