Open Offer-('Till I Go Broke)

[CCmom]

This second guy whacked his new born on the back! My niece called saying, what should I do? She wanted to report it, but was afraid of WW3 breaking out since her guy said to keep out of it.[/quote]

This needs to be reported to CPS pronto!! Just shaking a baby can cause serious brain damage or death. This baby is at major risk of very serious injury or death. Reports to CPS can be anonymous. Besides, CPS does not reveal who made the report. Even if the baby is not removed from the home, the abuser might master some restrain because he now knows he is being watched, so to speak. NO ONE NEEDS TO KNOW WHO CALLED.

[locdownluv101]

Originally Posted by nimuay

Anyone who has questions, large or small, about abuse should read "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft. It's the best thing I've read ever about DV, and if you need info, this is the A-one place to get to know that it is. Easy reading, clear as a bell. If you can't get it at the library, or can't afford to buy it, PM me with your address. I will buy it for you and send it along from Amazon. Please, don't feel you can't - I'm offering.

UPDATE: Despite the fact that this was originally posted in 2005, I just want you all to know it's still good now, and for as long as my account is open.

This is the first book that opened my eyes to what was in fact happening to me. May nimuay be blessed richly for her generous offer.

[mariesmike]

i would love this book. and appreciate it . my daughter keeps saying mom he said he was sorry....honey no he isnt sorry.

[walloon]

Nim I sent you a.Pms while back for the book. Didnt hear back frm ya

[24jf]

I just ordered this book yesterday at the suggestion of Rox73 to help me understand what I've just gone through and am working to break away from.

[Willowbaby65]

Originally Posted by 24jf

I just ordered this book yesterday at the suggestion of Rox73 to help me understand what I've just gone through and am working to break away from.

Absolutely! This book brought me so much insight, understanding and comfort, I used to actually take it into court with me like a bible and read it while I was waiting around for all the court proceedings. Each time I felt even a twinge of regret or sympathy for my abuser, I'd read a chapter and realize how I was being manipulated and controlled. It opened my eyes to what was really going on in my "relationship", almost word for word a textbook case of systematic brainwashing. I will always be thankful to Nim and the other PFO girls for pointing me in the right direction.

[hellokitty5]

yes yes the book was suggested in my dom viol group a few weeks back...going to pick it up today....can't wait to read it thanks for the offer---your a very giving person for offering to buy the book...what a sweetie!!!

[KMarieKing]

This book was recommended to me by someone I spoke with on a doomestic violence hotline. I wish they carried it in my local library!

I know this thread is old, but to the ladies who may be looking for books they want to share with their abuser, you may want to look into "My Darkest Hour: The Day I Realized I Was Abusive" by Harold L. Turley. I never sent a copy to my ex but I read it myself and it really hit home with me.

[bmt0410]

Im really starting to think I need this book! I was in a 10 year relationship with my ex husband and father to my daughter. He broke me down in so many ways, mostly emotionally but some physical abuse was there. Three years ago I finally got the courage to leave this man but I still have to deal with it. He is still verbally abusive with me and I don't know what I should do? He is the father of my child so we will always be forced to talk. Since my divorce God has sent me a wonderful man. Thankfully my man treats me better than I've ever been treated and he has helped me see how wonderful I really am, but I can't help but to get really down after talking to my ex. I am know longer scared of my ex husband, because we don't spend anytime together alone, but his words still find a way of cutting me deep.

[luckykj]

Thanks so much for the recommendation. I have been in a couple of physically abusive relationships over the last 10 yrs and I look forward to reading this. I am going to try to find it now! You seem like a great, sweetheart-ed lady so I will take your recommendation any day!!

[noboundries]

.,...three letters...WOW!

[Stevenswife7814]

i was wondering if your offer is still open....could you please let me know. Thank you LJ

[noboundries]

We should have an on-line book discussion with this book. I would love to get other perspectives on it. Does PTO have this option somewhere? Can we do it here?

[mekastar]

I might be asking a really stupid question but I scammed over everything and can't seem to find it. Although this book may not apply to me since I'm abuser myself in a way I'm interested. How can I find it online?

[nimuay]

Amazon always as copies.