He doesn't think he's ready to come home!

[honey2_28_05]

I was really surprised to read that I'm not the only one who's a little scared about my hubby coming home so soon. We weren't expecting him to get our for another year or two, but they told him his chances look good. If his other case goes as planned, then whenever TX lets him go, he's done with all his time. He may be home in December! Of course I want him home, I miss the hell out of him, but it's scary at the same time b/c I don't want any of his old "friends" trying to get him back into the biz. I'm not sure he's been gone long enough for them to have forgotten about him, and I don't know if he's been gone long enough to become as strong as he's going to have to be to say no and fight all the EASY temptation he has to get back into it.

His response was, "to tell you the truth, I don't think I've been locked up long enough I need some more time to make sure I learn my lesson.". I was shocked, impressed, and felt sort of bad for him. I know he wants to go legit and just have his family back. He wants this more than anything, so I know he's scared to screw up.

Does this happen to a lot of the guys who may make parole? He was the last person I thought would say that or feel the same as me. My friends think I'm nuts for saying I don't know if I'm ready for him to come home. I just want to make sure when he comes home he's never leaving me again. Obviously, so does he. I wrote him back that no matter what happens we'll figure it out and if we have to move to no-where-ville to live the life we want with no problems, then that's what we'll do. I really didn't know what else to say b/c we have the exact same fears.

[Help-A-Con]

My husband and I have a friend who made parole after 15 years. He's 58 years old. He was a big time thug...I mean BIG TIME in a major city in Texas. He's on State and Federal parole so he's on a monitor for a year, at least. As soon as he got out his thug friends started coming around again, AFTER 15 YEARS!!! They tried to talk him into dealing drugs and robbing again, but he wouldn't hear it. The only family he has is an 80 year old father. He also consider me and my husband his family. He said "there's no way I'm going to die in prison."

I think that your husband has made a big step. To realize what his problem is is the first step in fixing it. Talk to him about receiving counselling if and when he's released instead of continuing to stay in prison. He feels safe where he is and is fearing the unknown once he's back in the freeworld. Surround your husband with positive love and support once he comes home. If he has family who supports him, and you get along with them, ask them to help.

Good luck. I hope everything works out for you both!