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chrispro · #1 08-26-2005, 02:35 PM

Let's say he is home and he goes back to his ways/would you be by his side then? I was like cindy my husband will be 56 years old he did those things when he was 30 years old. Come on now. He put that past behind him and is just waiting to come home and do the right thing like when I met him in 1989.

Do you get questions like this all the time from your friends? I am getting so tired of this. I guess thats why I have no friends... lol-

one_luv · #2 08-26-2005, 02:45 PM

My friends know better than to make derogatory comments like that. I can't remember them every saying anything like that, but if they did I would shut them up real quick and they would regret being disrespectful.

They all generally like him and know he is a great guy that just had a certain lifestyle that he had already given up before he went to prison.

But I generally do not talk much about him to very many people, and when I do, it's only about the good. I think that is one thing that has kept our marriage strong is our loyalty to each other. I just won't tolerate that kind of talk. Neither will my husband: If one of his friends said something negative about me, it'll be the last time they do.

lidiagbrooks · #3 08-26-2005, 03:34 PM

chrispo, you're friend shouldn't have any input on YOUR marriage. I mean after all he is YOUR husband, right? If anything she should be telling you how blessed HE is to have YOU by his side.

JohnBrandi4life · #4 08-26-2005, 06:13 PM

Chrispo....don't worry i don't have any "friends" either....they don't support me, and try not to even ask if my husband is still living...but oh well....we all have each other here at PTO!~~~Brandi

Mrs. Vins · #5 08-26-2005, 06:18 PM

I srill get questioned but I haven't been going through this for half as long as you have. I just got grilled all over again last night, same questions, same freinds, same answers......they still don't like it and it will come up again. I'm sorry you're going through this, keep your chin up.

albmonsters · #6 08-26-2005, 06:19 PM

I disagree. My friends have asked, but they usually only ask once. They do it out of love, out of concern and out of not knowing.

All they see is what you(me) are going through. They are the ones that see you (me) hurt, see you ache when he's not there and they see the mess he left when he left. They have no concept of what this lifestyle is like and their only frame of refernce is what is in the movies. It is because they see this that they ask the question. My friends and family have all asked this question at least once at some point in time. However, once I explain it to them, it is over and done with. Some have chosen not to stand by me through this. Others have.

My personal view is this. Friends will stand by you regardless. Family SHOULD do the same. But how can I fault someone for their lack of education. They ask out of curiosity and to try and understand. Once educated, they may have their opinions and may voice them becasue each of us is entitled to. But support me if and when I need it too.