Tired of writing letters already. Any Mail Ideas?

[bluemango]

Ok, so he's only been in prison for 1 month and I am already tired of writing letters. My letters are so boring, my life is boring. I work, go to school, and feed the dog. That's it, oh, and wait by the phone. I usually write at least 2 or 3 times per day, but recently I haven't wanted to write at all. I feel like I have nothing to say. I love and miss him like crazy, but I am bored with writing the same things over and over. Frankly, I am too depressed to pretend to be happy, but I don't want to bring him down. Do any of you have ideas on how to 'spice-up' our mail life? Any help is appreciated.

[MrsBenji]

Check in the mail forum. There are tons of ideas there. And if you haven't used any of the getting to know you questions, those would be great. Take a few at a time and they can fill up quite a bit of info.

Hang in there!
Jenn

[babygirl350]

Perhaps you could cut the letters down to one a day.

Maybe fill in with post cards (picture kind) or greeting cards. If cost is a concern, you can always go to the Dollar Store.

Good luck to you. Even though you consider your life boring, I would be willing to bet he enjoys your mail.

One day at a time that is how you can do it.

[MrsWest11]

I'm gonna move this to the Prison Mail forum...maybe you can get some really good ideas there!

[Miss J]

Your life may seem boring to you, but to him boring is normal and anything normal is fantastic. Just tell him about your day, and not just what you did, but also the thoughts you had, the things you seen, anything you tell him, when he reads your letter, will transport him out of his prison and into your life, which I'm betting is where he really wants to be anyway. Tell him stories from your past, your hopes and dreams for the future. Tell him about books you're reading. Tell him what you learned in school today.

Good Luck and hang in there!

[monet420]

We write stories back and forth i start he contuies it and then sends it back to me sometimes they are freaky sometimes they are just sweet. I know what you mean about not haveing anything to say I do the same thing every day too work school. Hang in there girl

[qwerty]

I just write what's going on with me at work and I dont worry about whether he finds it interesting... but writing 2-3 times a day? I would run out of ideas too, and especially if you're feeling down.

Why not go for quality over quantity? Sometimes I write the same letter over a couple of days, adding little things as they happen... then it ends like at night we're both settling down for that glass of wine... it takes him out of his cell for a while.

If you're comfortable with it, sexy letters can make things very lively.

I print out things from the internet, my guy loves sports so I send stories about his teams, or I copy something I'm reading and ask what he thinks of it.

Funny notecards. Photos of ordinary things -- and of you!

Those are easy things to send even if you're depressed.

Hope you feel better soon!

[babygirl1998]

I agree with all the ideas that the ladies have gave. I make our letters exciting by adding emails that people send to me and we write stories and play games through the mail. He has been in going on 7 years so we have to keep it exciting.

[KellyAnn]

I feel the same way all the time and I never have anything to say and it's because I see Damon 1 to 2 times a week and I find myself busy when I am not around him. I have a cousin who I try to take the time to write to and I don't have time for him and he even has mentioned that my letters aren't the same anymore. I am truly tired of writing letters. In the past I have had three pen pals, one relationship that lasted a year and it was only based on letters and phone calls but never meeting one another. I am in a new relationship now and I can't find myself wanting to write, and I feel all these years of writing to others has made me burnt out on my letters and is taken it's toll on something I use to enjoy doing. I am glad I see Damon like I do because if I didn't our relationship wouldn't be as good as it is because of the lack of writing letters to him. Good luck and hopefully you will get back into the letters of writing them.

[exhale]

Originally Posted by bluemango

Ok, so he's only been in prison for 1 month and I am already tired of writing letters. My letters are so boring, my life is boring. I work, go to school, and feed the dog. That's it, oh, and wait by the phone. I usually write at least 2 or 3 times per day, but recently I haven't wanted to write at all. I feel like I have nothing to say. I love and miss him like crazy, but I am bored with writing the same things over and over. Frankly, I am too depressed to pretend to be happy, but I don't want to bring him down. Do any of you have ideas on how to 'spice-up' our mail life? Any help is appreciated.

I REALLY UNDERSTAND THAT!MY HUSBAND HAS BEEN GONE SINCE JULY 15TH,AND I AM ALREADY TIRED OF WRITTING WITH NOTHING NEW TO SAY.I HAVE TO MAKE MYSELF DO WHAT I KNOW WILL KEEP HIM ENCOURAGED.IT'S GOOD TO KNOW THAT SOMEONE OUT THERE FEELS THW WAY I DO. THANKS

[Sheryl]

It was already said, but I will say it again, what may seem boring to you will not be to him. My husband has been down many years and I know how important mail is to them. Talk about the furture, make plans. Writing a story is a good one, me and my husband have done that one a couple times. Send him jokes and stuff you find on the internet. Cards are a good thing to send,as someone said the dollar store has them, I know at the dollar store here I can get 2 for a dollar and they are really nice.

[cryinblueeyes]

Jerry and I read books together and comment about them in our letters, I make and print word searches, we play battleship through the mail. I mail something out everyday and usually a letter everyother or so depends on what's going on! Jokes and funny pic's are great to send..it keeps him smiling. I have also included him in the postcard swap and he loves getting postcards from around the world. Good luck to you, I know it can be hard finding different things to send!

[MrsBenji]

Just another couple thoughts. If you were on the phone with him? What would you talk about? You can write about those same things! And when I would get dry for ideas, I'd keep a little list going about things I wanted to ramble about or tell him about and then when I would sit down, I'd have a list to work from. That helped.

Good luck!
Jenn

[Doc's Sis]

I also jot down notes. I keep a little tablet on my desk by the phone. When he calls I jot down notes. During the day when I think of something to tell him, I make note of it. Then when I write letters, the notes help me remember what I should be telling him or asking him. I type my letters (penmanship stinks) so thanks to modern technology, I can type a few lines and Save and then come back later to add more - and to edit what I wrote before, etc. There are a lot of programs available but I like Microsoft Publisher. It lets me (drag/drop) put photos and clipart on my letters.

I'll bet your friends email humor items to you. Print some of them out to send to your friend. Just please cut off the top part with peoples' email addresses before sending. They guys love the humor and pass them around to other inmates. I have a greeting card program and some days make up a card to send. I print out articles from internet about things that interest him, like anything to do with the Packers, anything new re Parkinson's Disease (which he has) and other such things. Does your friend have hobbies or special interests? If so, do a web search and find things to print out for him.

You indicate that he'll be gone for only a couple of years. Many of us have to wait lots longer [and some of us wait forever] so be thankful your guy will soon be home. If he's the one you want to spend the rest of your life with, you can talk to him about what the two of you want your future to be like and begin making a few plans in that direction. As others have said, you may think your letter is boring because you told him all about what you did that day. To him it may not be boring and he may read that same letter over and over again. It gives him a few minutes out of his restrictive prison life to think about you and the outside world.

[babimomma5]

Sometimes I'll go to "joke" sites and send him some humor, or lyrics to songs.

[jenn26]

I surf the web and copy and paste songs, poems and sayings from what ever I think he would like to hear about. I have post cards with diffrent stuff on the front mainly wildlife and scenic stuff! He will call or write and ask why I am not writing as much and I feel like crap! I know the best part of his day is getting mail from anyone who will write!

[Kid_N_Kim]

Well, I write him a little bit every day and then on mondays and wednesdays i mail them out. THen send him a few cards every week. I don't always buy the cards, I make alot of them online or with greetings workshop. I'll make him cute little I love you posters and stuff like that. Once a month I will take all the good joke I get in my email and copy and paste them into word so that the addresses aren't on there and mail that out. You don't have to mail them something everyday as long as you mail them something they don't mind. Remember they have a lot more time to sit and write. I used to feel bad that I didn't write everyday like he does everyday but he said he'd rathar get something from me once a week than never at all. We also play the what if? game every now and then and that makes the letters interesting. If you dream something nightmare, steamy, or just normal tell him about. It may sound stupid but they want to hear everything, I have learned to hide nothing, things that scare you, make you mad, make you happy, if you had fun one day, if you had a bad day, they want to hear it all. It helps them feel like they are there with you and they like trying to help when you have a bad day! I hope this helps a bit!!

Kim