Would you wait for him if he got 20+ years?

[notyourordinary]

72 hours whilst they are questioning you, if they cant find a charge they have to let you go. If they charge you (depending on the crime) they eithet let you out on the street till trial or they can remand you in prison for up to 4 years if it hasnt gone to trial by them they have to let you go. Thanks for being understanding about my mistake my mind is still boggling about what i read on your drug laws. That sort of stuff would never happen here like i said if its under a certain weight its personal use and they cant touch you all they can do is consficate the drugs. Actually now i think about it i dnt think you can get 10 years let alone 20 for drugs.

[notyourordinary]

Originally Posted by MrsMallory

Better yet this chick should go online to topdocumantaryfilms.com and search drug war and watch a very informative todumentary that explains the racist nature of these drug laws and how these laws are meant to feed the prison industrial complex! She clearly doesnt read much or she wouldn't have made such a ridiculous and insensitive comment!

I read plenty, and yes i did make a mistake which i've addmitted to(see my previous posts). But at the same time i was also using the laws from where i live to form my opinion, here in spain to get that amount of time you would have to be in charge of a huge drug operation and you would need multiple charges to rack up that amount of time. My opinions aren't unjust not for where i live and the laws we have.

[Richard's Wife]

Originally Posted by queenlynch

Don't even get me started on the disparity that exists with crack and cocaine laws. It is an attack on poverty and minorities. Plain and simple

Yes, the system is screwed.

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[sarahas]

mine has a life sentence we havent been together that long but i like to think/hope we will make it through it.

[CVicioso89]

I would try.... I would always love him but I couldn't promise anything I feel like you couldn't take our love but waiting would take not only his life but mine too

[jesselady]

No I wouldn't, but that's just me..

[kog6713]

I am waiting & it's a struggle & life I never thought we'd live honestly. It's even tougher because he got in trouble a few years before we got together, so I had no part in that part of his life. This is his first charge and it was non-agg drug related. His charge is actually engaging in organized criminal activity because he was never caught with drugs or anything, but his girlfriend at the time was caught & she received 7 years. My husband, on the other hand, received 40!! First time, non violent offense. Makes me sad & sick. Our little boy just turned 3 and he's missed every birthday & milestone. He's been in prison a little over 2 years now and if his appeal doesn't go as we hope, he'll be eligible for parole in 2 years

[xamariee]

I feel like third times a charm, this is his second bid. For him to go back out there and do something stupid, selfish ect would be on him. I stood by his side for this second bid and I would just feel betrayed if he went and got caught up into the wrong things. The issue with my man is his anger so anything would trigger him off. He's again abuse so he would go and take his anger out other ways like drinking, fighting ect. I honestly wouldn't do it if they god forbid gave him 20 years. I would literally miss out my whole teenage/adult life. I couldn't see myself living a life without kids or a family. Maybe that's just me?

[hisyoumgqueen]

Yes i am willing to wait for my Husband. He has 25 years with no parole and i married him on Feb. 25,2012. Everybody says that Im stupid for being faithful and married at my age, I am 23 years old. But he is my best friend and the love of my life ; we were together when I was 14 and he was 15. We lost contact due to Katrina, but we reconnected and just fell back in love. But for the ladies who have been doing this for years i have a few questions for you.

How do you keep the sparks going? And how do deal with all the pressures of not having any alone time with him?? Lastly does anyone know if Louisiana have extended visits or conjuical visits??

[CVicioso89]

Originally Posted by xamariee

I feel like third times a charm, this is his second bid. For him to go back out there and do something stupid, selfish ect would be on him. I stood by his side for this second bid and I would just feel betrayed if he went and got caught up into the wrong things. The issue with my man is his anger so anything would trigger him off. He's again abuse so he would go and take his anger out other ways like drinking, fighting ect. I honestly wouldn't do it if they god forbid gave him 20 years. I would literally miss out my whole teenage/adult life. I couldn't see myself living a life without kids or a family. Maybe that's just me?

Mines got the angry sickness also and I am just afraid no matter how much you try to control him he will be good long enough to get out and cover his tracks better next time or scare them into not talking or worse kill them so they can't talk the country my husband was raised in thrives on violence and to them a man does whatever it takes to protect himself or his family so it's hard for me to think the us justice system can fix a whole lifetime of violence

[forAllan]

Originally Posted by steves_gurl3227

Would You Wait For You Man If He Was Sentenced To More Than 20 Years In Prison?
My Man Was Sentenced To 20 -60 Years In Prison. Some May Find It Stupid That I Am Willing To Wait For Him For How Ever Long He Is In Prison. I Am Marrying Him Next October 31st.

Thats beautiful all the best to you, It's a very hard road to love someone inside and their not having an easy time it's very easy to choose freedom over being locked down with them, Mines in forever 2085 and sometimes I say I'm quitting
the BOP does their best to make sure we dont have a relationship mail takes at times 3 weeks to get each others letters and the more I fight them the worse it gets last complaint I ended up having all my photos sent back obvious retaliation nothing was showing..oops getting windy here anyways my hopes and prayers are for the both of you, God willing they will get out. huh?

[comptontiffany1]

Mine has 20. Im young & trying. Maybe it will work, maybe it wont. But as of right now I am very happy with how things are going!

[NayshinsWifey]

I don't know if I will or not. I guess it depends on the situation. I don't think my babe would want me to wait for him that long. But I can say that I'll try.

[Lady Woody]

I said no, he and I have already discussed this. I am young and he said it would be unfair on my behalf. I am only 23 when he get out I woulb be 43 and he 51. I have a 3yr old son and all around it just wouldnt be a good situation or decision. We would remain in contact but we just wouldnt be together.

[Chucos Queen]

My husband got 20 years...we were both Hella young! weren't married at the time...we have since married and only have 5 years left!! couldn't be closer to this man connected at the heart. Crazy about him!!

[Chucos Queen]

Originally Posted by comptontiffany1

Mine has 20. Im young & trying. Maybe it will work, maybe it wont. But as of right now I am very happy with how things are going!

I wish you luck luv! It's worth it if you two truly love one another. Your gunna have allot of ups and downs. For me the beginning was the hardest, but soon we found our groove and he realized i was sticking by his side regardless. You ever need someone to talk to you can pm me any time.

[HoldinItDown2010]

My fiance is close to havin only 20 yrs left everyday is a learning experience but I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world

[shawgirl12]

We were talking about this the other day and he straight up said if he ever got any more than 5 years he'd leave me. Not because he doesn't love me, but because he knows i'd wait and he doesn't want me to do that. He said he wants me to go live my life and have fun and he doesn't think i can do that if i waited 20 years.

[Chucos Queen]

Originally Posted by shawgirl12

We were talking about this the other day and he straight up said if he ever got any more than 5 years he'd leave me. Not because he doesn't love me, but because he knows i'd wait and he doesn't want me to do that. He said he wants me to go live my life and have fun and he doesn't think i can do that if i waited 20 years.

No man will ever want his girl to do that. My husband tried really hard to push me away if he wasnt trying i was...after a couple years we gave up trying to deny what lied between us. We were only hurting our selves and each other. No matter how hard you try you can't deny what your heart wants. My life is not on hold i do and push myself to accomplish all things i want to acheive until he comes home. Who says our lives have to be on hold? I've never understood that saying. He lives thru you while hes in there. I include him in every part of my life out here either thru letters calls post cards photos you name it he said it makes him feel like he's here with me. This road is not always easy its deff. Not for the weak. A person has to have the right mind set to make it thru.

[comptontiffany1]

Like I said before, Im down to try but alot of times when I think about how long he has I literally get sick to my stomach. (not doubt) just sick. As Im reading your alls post my sick feeling just hit me. Do you all think about it like I do? I can honestly say Im not happy waiting this long, Im not miserable but I know how life was with him & it was way better than this shit.

[Chucos Queen]

Yea i get that...and yes life was better when my love was home to. The trick is to take it one day at a time keep yourself busy. I use to get sick also thinking about how far we had to go you gotta try not to think about that live one day at a time. For me the first 3 years was the hardest i caused him allot of pain i tried walking away moving on...but everything brought me back to him. Just stay strong...all you can do is give your best. If it don't work out hey atleast you know you tried

[HoldinItDown2010]

Originally Posted by comptontiffany1

Like I said before, Im down to try but alot of times when I think about how long he has I literally get sick to my stomach. (not doubt) just sick. As Im reading your alls post my sick feeling just hit me. Do you all think about it like I do? I can honestly say Im not happy waiting this long, Im not miserable but I know how life was with him & it was way better than this shit.

I never think of the yrs all I can do is take it 1 day at a time I can't do anything about tomorrow cuz it hasn't arrived. I love him n will do this forever if that's what I have to do to be with my soulmate

[comptontiffany1]

Originally Posted by Chucos Queen

I wish you luck luv! It's worth it if you two truly love one another. Your gunna have allot of ups and downs. For me the beginning was the hardest, but soon we found our groove and he realized i was sticking by his side regardless. You ever need someone to talk to you can pm me any time.

Thank you! I appreciate the words of encouragement. I understand that all relationships have ups & downs but I feel like when me and him are good, we are soooo good, but when were not its really bad. I feel so disconnected & unattached its the worst feeling. Its like having anxiety non stop. Thank you though! Best of luck to you too!

[ILoveHim2008]

I know of a woman who's man has 213 years and she is as loyal as can be. But yes if it was me

[HisBabygirl_09]

I promised him my love forever so ABSOLUTELY!