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bbEgyrl · #26 12-09-2005, 07:13 PM

i started a while back but these last couple of months i haven't really got much except for paying on his expensive @$$ chain he is getting
so far he has shoes, shirts, boxers, wifebeaters and tshirts, socks, a hat, xbox, and some toys he wanted, some movies, and little things
next month i am getting some layaways on (they are my best friend

)
i still have a lot i want to get and he comes home in June

he wants to go shopping for me after he comes home but wants me to already have stuff for him
so im cool with that

Em77 · #27 12-09-2005, 10:17 PM

Gee I have at least 5yrs 11mths til he can get parole. So I am not buying him things until parole is granted. I think thats empowering him by letting him buy his own things, oh and me things too!!

one_luv · #28 12-09-2005, 11:45 PM

I still have almost 7 years. I'll probably start a couple of years before he's home,after not being able to shop for him in a store for over a decade (we cona't send packages).

carebare · #29 12-10-2005, 01:19 AM

when he gets released, aside from gettin a hotel, we will be stopping in the stored along the way home. he can pick out his own clothes...im still buyin em!! lol

Crstnamre · #30 12-10-2005, 01:35 AM

Paul would NEVER let me buy him things. He feels a man should take care of his lady, not the other way around. The exception is birthday and Christmas..that type of thing. But generally he would be way major offended if I were to buy him things.

kellz · #31 12-10-2005, 03:08 AM

To be honest, I havent brought him anything and I havent even thought about it at all. Why on earth should I buy him things when that money should be going towards our boys, food and the things for the real world. Ladies please dont take this the wrong way, I am not trying to be nasty towards anyones hubbies/partners, but it just shits me so much to hear them "asking" for things. I mean, they done the wrong thing, so they should come out earn money and work for what they want, not nag for stuff. Im sorry this is a touchie subject at the moment, since day one of DH being locked up, nearly every letter or phone call contained the words "I want" or "Can you get this" It just buggs the hell out of me. I mean I didnt do anything wrong, so why should I run around and get all this stuff for him. Im a stay at home mum to a 2year old and a 4mth old, so Im not working at the moment, so we dont have an income, so Im not going to waste any money I do have spare on him.
Sorry, that just turned into a bit of a vent.

mamicita · #32 12-10-2005, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by kellz

To be honest, I havent brought him anything and I havent even thought about it at all. Why on earth should I buy him things when that money should be going towards our boys, food and the things for the real world. Ladies please dont take this the wrong way, I am not trying to be nasty towards anyones hubbies/partners, but it just shits me so much to hear them "asking" for things. I mean, they done the wrong thing, so they should come out earn money and work for what they want, not nag for stuff. Im sorry this is a touchie subject at the moment, since day one of DH being locked up, nearly every letter or phone call contained the words "I want" or "Can you get this" It just buggs the hell out of me. I mean I didnt do anything wrong, so why should I run around and get all this stuff for him. Im a stay at home mum to a 2year old and a 4mth old, so Im not working at the moment, so we dont have an income, so Im not going to waste any money I do have spare on him.
Sorry, that just turned into a bit of a vent.

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kellz · #33 12-10-2005, 07:13 AM

LOL Thanks. Dont get me wrong I love my hubby to death, but the moment he went to prison and saw on the paperwork that they are allowed to have an xbox in there, he nagged for one. We dont have one at home, so why should I spend $300 on something for him to use in jail. I mean come on, we dont give our kids treats when they do anything wrong.

mamicita · #34 12-10-2005, 07:18 AM

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Originally Posted by kellz

LOL Thanks. Dont get me wrong I love my hubby to death, but the moment he went to prison and saw on the paperwork that they are allowed to have an xbox in there, he nagged for one. We dont have one at home, so why should I spend $300 on something for him to use in jail. I mean come on, we dont give our kids treats when they do anything wrong.

exactly and everyone should see it your way...i completly understand and u are so correct.... come on! we all love our men but damn i will always put my innocent kids first......and we are all not rich so our every PENNY is needed. i did alot of things with pennies!

Woody's Girl · #35 12-10-2005, 08:31 PM

Is it me or did some where along this thread; some stuff get twisted... I don't know how it is where some people are from but from where I am from, they get out of jail and have on some BS clothing and I definately know that all the clothes my man had... he can no longer fit... And the reality of him being in jail for 3 years and not having any income to provide for the clothes and all he needs on his back; I WILL DEFINATELY BE SUPPLYING!!!! HAS NOT A THING TO DO WITH WHO SHOULD TAKE CARE OF WHO AND VISA VERSA.... ALL I ASKED IS "DO YOU START BUYING THEM STUFF NOW OR LATER!!!! IF YOU NEVER BOUGHT HIM ANYTHING AND DON'T PLAN ON BUYING HIM ANYTHING OBVIOUSLY THIS THREAD WAS NOT FOR YOU!!! GOODNESS...

Woody's Girl · #36 12-10-2005, 08:36 PM

Baby, I did not mean to get that out of you like that; but my husband is going to get the things he needs from me; I don't care if he did wrong and what ever; he needs clothes, he doesn't actually need another car, but I figure since we are going to give my son the car in the garage (his old car) that I can get him another car... Sorry, this is a touchy subject for you; but it THIS THREAD DEFINATELY wasn't started as a debate thread.....

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Originally Posted by kellz

Ladies please dont take this the wrong way, I am not trying to be nasty towards anyones hubbies/partners, but it just shits me so much to hear them "asking" for things. I mean, they done the wrong thing, so they should come out earn money and work for what they want, not nag for stuff. Im sorry this is a touchie subject at the moment, since day one of DH being locked up, nearly every letter or phone call contained the words "I want" or "Can you get this" It just buggs the hell out of me. I mean I didnt do anything wrong, so why should I run around and get all this stuff for him. Im a stay at home mum to a 2year old and a 4mth old, so Im not working at the moment, so we dont have an income, so Im not going to waste any money I do have spare on him.
Sorry, that just turned into a bit of a vent.

Jillian · #37 12-10-2005, 08:40 PM

Let keep this thread on topic the original poster asked a straightforward question and i don't understand how it got misconstrued but now that she has came and reworded it i do hope this thread can get back on track.. If it doesnt then I will close it ..

Woody's Girl · #38 12-10-2005, 08:42 PM

Um, ,, let me see... okay Woody works while in jail and half of his earnings come home bi-weekly... when he was home... he did what he was supposed to .... jeeze buying him clothes for once he comes home.... um.... Yeah, still going to do it... Don't consider that taking care of my man.... My man is in jail and still his helping me pay a couple of bills and I am okay financially,, trust my son or doggy definately get all they need and want; and I still have his family helping me in a major way... Why plead my case... Woody will have what he needs and wants (from me) once he comes home...

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Originally Posted by Crstnamre

Paul would NEVER let me buy him things. He feels a man should take care of his lady, not the other way around.

Jillian · #39 12-10-2005, 08:42 PM

Yea i will get my husband things when he comes home .. right now i am holding off on it cause i am in school so that comes first.. Anywayz once he gets home yea i will get him some things.. He is my husband and I will do for him like he will do for me .. ya feel me? Woody's girl i think i will wait about 3 months cause i dont want to wait til the last minute.. i mean when he comes home we will go get more thing but i will jsut get him the basic essentials ..

As for the one who said she is tired of ppl husband asking for things .. not every man is like that for my husband dont ask or beg for nothing i send what i send when i want to send it.. And i am pretty sure there are a large number of women on here like that.

As for those who say their man would never ask for you for something.. My husband is like that also but when he comes from prison he has nothing .. what is he gonna buy his things with his looks? I mean unless they getting a substantial amount of money from the prison

silverleaves786 · #40 12-10-2005, 08:58 PM

You could just put the money aside for the clothes and let him have a shopping spree when he comes home... fun for you too

HeSoHandsome · #41 12-10-2005, 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Mrs_Bernabela

. . . He is a really picky shopper, so I don't want to waste any money on things that he might not like when he gets out. I'll start to save money and let him do his thing when he gets home.

Good call Mrs_B for I can definitely relate to that. I am so particular when it comes to clothes that I've told my husband if he ever buys me anything to wear to make sure it's from a store that gives refunds. I told him exchanges may not work because if there's nothing else in the store that I like, I'd hate for him to lose his money.

inlovewithmrcar · #42 12-10-2005, 10:00 PM

I have bought tolietries, shirts, pants, socks, boxers, t-shirts, beaters, shorts anything I find on clearance. I am also gonna wait till next month and wait till everything is on sale and hook him up for next winter no big shopping spree here unless it has a clearance tag on it.

inlovewithmrcar · #43 12-10-2005, 10:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Woody's Girl

Um, ,, let me see... okay Woody works while in jail and half of his earnings come home bi-weekly... when he was home... he did what he was supposed to .... jeeze buying him clothes for once he comes home.... um.... Yeah, still going to do it... Don't consider that taking care of my man.... My man is in jail and still his helping me pay a couple of bills and I am okay financially,, trust my son or doggy definately get all they need and want; and I still have his family helping me in a major way... Why plead my case... Woody will have what he needs and wants (from me) once he comes home...

How much money does your husband make? My boyfriend only makes twelve whole dollars a month and I would feel totally insulted to get six of it!

Miss_Jazzey1 · #44 12-10-2005, 11:55 PM

The only thing I have gotten my man is a cell phone. I'm on a family plan so it was free. This will be of use once he is released because he'll have a working number he can be contacted on.

I'm not going to buy his clothes because I don't know his sizes. He's 6'4. Once I pick him up I want to hopefully have $500-$1000 for him to get on his feet. He can do his own clothes shopping and anything else he'll need to get on his own. I will be with him on his shopping spree so I'll be able to learn his tastes in fashion and sizes. But I am going to give it a shot because I don't want him in rags the whole day when I pick him up.

stanicia_2002 · #45 12-11-2005, 12:17 AM

i started buying boxers, wife beaters, and some shirts. i'm kinda scared to buy him pants and certain shirts because if they are the wrong size then i'll be s*o*l. so he'll have atleast a weeks wardrobe when he gets out, and then we'll go on a little shoppong spree. he get's out in march of 07' and new trends and fashions will be out then. i don't want him to be behind in time.

Paradise0327 · #46 12-11-2005, 07:07 AM

My baby, wants to go shopping for things once he gets home. so we can do it together. I mean it is probably going to look different so I don't want to go and buy things that won't fit him. But I may buy him somethings that he likes other then clothes before he gets out. Like I bought an xbox cause he really likes video games and stuff like that. He says that he really wants to go together to get things for him.

2nice · #47 12-11-2005, 10:31 AM

Ive still got a little while to wait til my honey comes home, but i think that i will start to buy him bits and pieces about 6 months before he is due to come home. I will also start saving money so that once he does get home, that he and I can go on a big spending spree and kit him out with all that he needs.

Willsgirl · #48 12-11-2005, 03:14 PM

We will most likely go shopping when you comes home, I may start buying him socks and stuff like that before he comes home, but we'll wait on the big stuff when he comes home, that way he can pick for hisself. Even though I told him I get to pick what scents I want him to wear, since I am gonna be the one always up under him. I do plan on going the weekend before I pick him up and get him an outfit and shoes to wear home. I dont want him to have to wear the stuff they give him all the way home, we can just leave them for someone else.

RMD4EVER · #49 12-11-2005, 03:46 PM

ive Been Buying Like Most Of Those That Responded On Here Odds And Ends Socks T Shirts Boxers Ect Things We Know Will Still Fit And Shoes I Am Gonna Start Buying Some Jeans And Pants Though And If He Gains Any Weight Ill Just Help Him Burn It Off If You Know What I Mean Lol

Woody's Girl · #50 12-11-2005, 09:33 PM

I get around $100- $120 bi-weekly; so I don't feel insulted by far to get half of his... THANKS FOR ASKING THOUGH>>> DID YOU ANSWER THE THREAD??? PLEASE ; JUST STICK TO IT WHY DON'T YOU.....

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Originally Posted by inlovewithmrcar

How much money does your husband make? My boyfriend only makes twelve whole dollars a month and I would feel totally insulted to get six of it!