Met While Incarcerated Intros!

[Patty]

Welcome to all the newcomers. We hope to get to know you better through your participation in the MWI forum.

Patty

[DownersAngel]

I haven't made anything official yet. My friend said its my call. We have our first visit this weekend. I am definitely feeling the excited/nervous feelings! I have never been to a prison in my life. I am totally surprising him this weekend he has no idea that I know he moved from High Desert to Calipatria. Which is only a little less than 3 hours from me. I can't wait to see his face him seeing me for the first time. He hasn't had a visit in the 3 years he has been incarcerated. I am guessing because of the move I have not received a letter telling me he has moved. This surprise approach I think would be a good gift for him.

[kayluhsue]

I'm 21 years old and am from Maine. I am young,fun,outgoing, and have met plenty of guys and dated a select few. Up until early this year, I was completely content being single and living on my own doing my own thing. I wasn't looking for anybody and I definetely wasn't looking for what came my way. But I am so glad it found me. Or he found me. His name is Wayne and he is currently at a pre-release facility in Texas. This is how we found each other.

I am good friends with his cousin who lives in Maine as well as I do. His cousin is a guy and we always help each other with relationship advice and sometimes will suggest guys or girls for each other. Nothing serious, but things like "oh she's cute and nice,you should go talk to her." Anyways, one night, we were texting about relationships and he knows how I have been burned by guys in the past and am just looking for someone who respects me, is a good listener, has a good head on his shoulders, and will treat me right. Because I have a lot of love to give! My friends always joke with me too because I am a white girl who lovvvess black men,ever since I was 12 I have. His cousin texted me and told me that he has a half-black cousin in prison who wants to relocate to maine when he gets released in september. Or a good time after that once everything clears up with his parole and everything. (you ladies know what a headache the whole parole thing is!) Anyways,he was just saying that he is the most amazing person he knows and got involved with the wrong people when he was younger and has been locked up for 8 years because of a dumb mistake. He said I should write to him so he can get to know some of his friends before he just shows up in maine. And once he told me more about him, I couldn't resist writing him. I don't know what it was, but something inside me kept burning to reach out to him. Even though I am sure there are eligable bachelors around here that I could talk to! Wayne is different,Wayne is special.

So of course, I wrote to him. I sent him a couple pictures too because... come one, he's gotta know what I look like right?! I knew writing him that he had two kids, I knew he had a felony on his record,I knew that my parents wouldn't approve, I KNOW everyone will think I am crazy if something were to happen. But I did it anyways, and I wouldn't take it back for the world. Just through letters,jpays, and phone calls, he has treated me better than any other person I have ever met in my life. The kindest,gentlest, sincere person ever. He knows what he wants when he gets out and it all involves me now too! I knew that I would be blessed if I just wrote to him. I love that in our situation, we are truly getting to know each other on a deep level. Most people, meet in person, may connect on an emotional level,but generally it is a physical attraction that lures them in FIRST. This,is completely different. Obviously, we are very attracted to each other. But the fact that I am able to feel this way,about someone I have never even met in person, or touched, tells me that our relationship is deep and will last. Especially if I am able to be faithful to him during these months he is locked up and not look at any one else, also shows how real this is. Does that make any sense to any of you?! I feel okay talking on here because I feel you will all understand. No one else gets it. I don't expect them to though. Because I'm sure if someone told ME that they met someone in prison and are going to be with them when they get released.. I would be like...."are you crazy or something??" They especially think I am crazy when I have other guys who are interested in me around here. Like a young doctor,etc. But I 'm not interested in them! I don't care if you have money,charm or good looks,they can never make me feel the way Wayne does. What we have is deep and I don't have a reson to look anywhere else for companionship. Anyways, he gets released end of september and I am going to visit him in Texas in the fall. I can't wait and I feel so lucky to have found him in the way that I did. Any advice on how to hang in there until he is released?? Any advice on how to gain acceptance from family and friends??? They think I am crazy for going for someone with so much "baggage". That's sad isn't it?? Hope to hear from some of you!

[kayluhsue]

wow! what a great story, I wish you the absolute best. If he is someone you can't forget about,and someone you feel your meant to be with, then go for it! If you are happy being with him(even though you can't truly BE with him) do what makes you happy.

Originally Posted by moxiebravo

Hello! I've been lurking a while around here, never sure enough to jump in and get posting, but I'm going to now, because I have a feeling I'm going to be needing some support and understanding from people that know where I'm coming from.

So I met my guy (if he can even be called "my guy" yet) back in 1999 when I worked at the local jail in the mailroom. He was a nice guy with a great personality (didn't hurt that he's absolutely gorgeous) & was always up for a small chat when I'd go pass out the mail. Well for whatever reason, and I still don't know what possessed me to do it because we could have both been in serious trouble, we started writing little notes to each other back and forth. We did this for 3 years and never got caught (although the other inmates knew what was going on). Nothing more than a friendship was ever there during that time. The day he got transferred to the state DOC, when I went to do the mail rounds, one of his good friends handed me a note from my guy. In it he said that he hoped him getting transferred out wouldn't mean our friendship had to end, and gave me his mom's number so I could give her a call.

Long story short, after he was put where he is now (serving a life sentence, but I have faith that his appeals will turn out and he will be free), he asked if I'd go visit him, so I did - after all, I really missed my friend.

Things started to change maybe a year after my visits started - I felt that things were moving over that friendship line and I panicked. Not because I didn't want to feel what I was feeling, but because - hello?? life sentence. What if he never gets out? I resisted temptation on the outside, but on the inside I was completely crumbling under the pressure. I had a lot to think about.

In the middle of my inner battle, we had a fight. A stupid fight. And we quit talking for almost 7 years. And I couldn't get him out of my head no matter how hard I tried. And believe me - I tried.

I started a long-distance relationship since then, but that seems to be going nowhere. Been like that for a while. It seems that I haven't broken it off with the LDR guy because I feel obligated? Maybe? Anyway...

I saw MWI's profile on a pen pal site one day and this burst of emotion came back. I was again putty. And I needed to know if he was okay. After all of these years, I still needed closure. Because, after all these years, he was still in my head - and my heart. So I wrote him a letter, never expecting a reply. And if I did get one, I figured it wouldn't be nice. I didn't care, as long as I got closure.

But I didn't get that. I got a lovely letter in return. We've been writing back and forth since. Last Thursday my phone number was approved at the prison. The next day I was visiting him. And the feeling I'm supposed to get when I'm with someone came over me, not a feeling of obligation like I get when I talk to the LDR guy. I smiled and laughed more than I had in a while, so much so that my face hurt when I left. I was at total ease, and I missed him so, so, so much. When we hugged, it felt real. And when he kissed me before I left, it felt natural.

Now I can't get him out of my head. He asked me at the visitation table Friday where I saw our relationship to be. I couldn't answer him. I thought about how to answer him the during the 3-hour drive home & decided to write it all down for him (since it would have taken longer than a 15-minute call to answer). Last night, before the phone cut out, he told me he loved me. Now I'm just..... confused. I told him in the letter I'm not fighting anything this time around like I did the last time. Whatever happens will happen...

Anyway, here I am. Sorry for being so long and rambling. Hi!

[N110]

Hi there...my name is Teena. Just joined here though Ive been reading a lot of the forums. I met my penpal Matt through a inmates penpal site just a couple of months ago now but we have hit it of big time. Started out with letters and couldnt believe how much we have in common. Then we had a phone call that ended up being 8 phone calls that night.
Im on his visitor list and am going to Wisconsin in August to meet him for the first time....Im in the UK so its kind of a long journey but Im sure it will be worth the journey.
Teena

[Is It Fate?]

Hi all my name is Steve, I started writing my pen pal with the intent of just making the time easier for someone and maybe making a new friend... Well that was last November, 8 months later we have had our first visit, over the 4th of July weekend. It was the best experience I've had in years, and I felt like a 13year old teenage for a moment lol.. Let me tell you pictures do none of us justice because, in person, she was absolutely breathtaking.. Hence why I choked lost my confidence for a moment and felt 13 again We have grown beyond friends, and even though it's not offically titled, we are definantly growing as time passes, as far as the prison system knows, I am the boyfriend and she says she likes it that way. Kimberly is in Federal Prison, Lexington Kentucky. I live on the Illinois, Wisconsin border more or less. So it is a bit of distance, but well worth the time. I'm going back in September, provided all is well. We didn't think we would even be writing anymore after three of four months, I guess she had a few other men writing, but the just lost interest, or were wierdos. She took down her ad after the first two letters, and we snail mail, email * daily* no phone conversations though too much, she gets 300 mins a month and with her mom and kids to keep in contact with, well I think they are better used on them. She will be released at the end of 2013, or the begging of 2014 at the latest. I plan to move to her home state of Kentucky, in about 2 years, so on the outside we can be near each other and see how things are in the real world, prison is a much different place.

I see there are a ton MWI'S here good luck to all of you and it's amazing where you find the perfect person for you isn't it?

[pam h.]

i met my girlfriend while we were both in Arkansas DOC in 2004. she's been in and out the whole time. 7mos. longest stay. now she went back, June 30, to Webster Parish DOC, on 3rd probation violation. she is supposed to backup 7yrs. if she gets (previous jail time -16mos., 2 for 1, and takes some classes that take off time) maybe it won't be too long! we're hoping maybe a year and a half. when we met in ADC i knew after knowing her for a short time, she was someone special. granted, she's having a hard time with the alcohol/drugs, which eventually lands her right back in the pokey, but i got to know her for a 1yr while she was clean and sober and fell in love with that girl! i am 49yrs old and i finally understand what "unconditional love" REALLY means. her original charge is 1ct simple battery, but this is her 3rd revocation. everytime she get's revocated i say to myself...she's never going to change, i'm giving up etc. etc. etc. but i don't. she lives 2 and a half hours away from me so I don't get to see her much. twice a month usually. the first few years, she would come stay in Little Rock for a couple of months with me and my husband but he kinda started wondering...anyway, it's a long story! this will be the longest she's ever been gone. it's sinking in slowly but surely that she's really gone, still doesn't feel real yet. when i think about it, my stomach turns like when you go over the hill on a roller coaster. so i don't think about much oh well, she's being sentenced this monday at 11:30. wish us luck

[Robbiesgirl1980]

I met my fiancée through prison penpals. 2 year later were still going g strong. He's my world and IM so in love. Never thought Wed fall in love just wanted to encourage him gods so good

[HesInWare]

I guess it's time I stop lurking and introduce myself...
I met my MWI mate through my best friend about 3mths ago. She introduced me to his mom, so I got his address and wrote him to keep him company as a friend. My best friend told us both 'don't go falling in love now' and there you go. We did. I see his family all the time and text his mom everyday. We get to talk on the phone now and then, but 99% of the time it is written correspondence. I swear he's the sweetest man I've ever (not) met lol. Only my best friends and his family know how we feel about each other so far. I'm not sure how to explain it to everyone else. He's serving life for now (down to 28.5 more years! Lol), but the appeal looks promising. He's in GA, I'm in Tx, we are both in our early 20s, his parents see my daughter as their grandchild, and I feel giddy like a school girl about him. I think that sums it up.

[stewswifey13]

hello all well im new to prison talk and if anyone can tell me how to operate this site it would bee awsome especially the state forum. well anyways my story of how we met is well ive know my love (terry) for years when we were in our teens so 8 years later from not hearing about him or seeing him i stumbled upon him on facebook and as i write i get a message back from his mom (who is deaf) and she tells me all about what happened so i got the address and wrote him only as frinds and as time went on we fell in love 2 weekes after first writing him his mom invited me to come over and talk to him on the phone so i got the curage and went (they live 20 min away from me) from that point i was hooked and he was thrilled to this day i still go over there to talk and i go visit him every other weekend with and sometimes with out his parents weve become one and i love him deeply hes still got 1 year and 10 months left and i cant wait
any info on how to operate this site please let me know thanks
stews wifey

[lisainengland]

Hi and welcome to PTO and the MWI forum. If you need any help finding your way around please feel free to private message me or any of the other staff members

[goodwomandown]

Hello everyone I met my friend about a two weeks ago. I met him through a friend of mine. He's in for another year and ten months. I'm nervous of the outcome is it worth my time or should I just let it go I've been so hurt in the pass my men so I will admit I'm just scared. Please any advice would be appreciated. Thanks a lot

[Rebelliousbratz]

Hello Everyone I read your stories and thought that mine was similar, I started writing my pen-pal in May i saw him on a webiste and fell in love wit him I'm only 19 and he's 36 but i feel like I love him, but there's only 1 prob. he's in Wa and I'm in GA but aren't long-distance relationships good?

[MissMindi]

My relationship is much different then every one else's I am sure. It is a beautiful thing, but also something that holds a place for judgement for many people. I am bisexual. I am married. My husband and I are in a poly amorous relationship. We date women "together". I met my MWI on a pen pal sight. One of my dear friends picked her ad out for me, and when we started writing we just clicked. It wasn't intended to be this way, I just wanted a friend...but once she heard about my relationship and got to know me she let me know that she is writing me with the intention of getting together, she just doesnt want to rush anything. I adore this woman, as does my husband who is also writing her now!

[Sweet45]

Wow! I do not know what to say but wow. I am not going to judge you it is good that you are happy with both your husband and your other friend. I am glad that you are happy. Wish I was happy.

[Sweet45]

Originally Posted by LoveJones11

Hi,

I am a teacher too and working on my Master's. I so glad you posted! I have so many concerns about what will happen if my job finds out. I have been very reluctant to write because I don't want to put my name and address on the letter. I have developed feelings for this guy, but I feel like I can't jeapordize my livelihood. How do you handle it?

you are a grown woman, nobody should tell you who you see or whatever. If you really care this man then you love him as him and nobody else. Be happy with him, not ashamed to be with him. For everybody has made some mistakes in thier life's. How are you going to handle it when he is released? Are you going to hide him in the dark or what? Be proud of him and help him, for who is. He is doing his time for the mistake or mistakes that he has made. Don't make him feel ashamed he is a human being as well as you and I.

[Sweet45]

Originally Posted by Misstee

Hi everyone! Missy, from Hawaii, here. The love of my life is in SC. I can't travel there regularly so he may as well be housed on the moon! <sigh> We met, by chance, while he was already incarcerated. His humor, positve attitude and confidence in himself and in me changed my world around. I told him, at first, "Dont fall in love with me. It cant work between us." Then one day, he suddenly tells me, "I love you, Missy. I'm in love with you, and I don't care what you think about that!" I cried and couldn't deny that I felt the same. I wish I could open up about my love for "Jay" to my family and friends but I come from a world of fiercely proud cops and lawyers so I know he will not be accepted by them. It's a lonely world to love a man in prison. I am glad I found this site. I can use the support and wisdom from those here to help me thru these next 19 years. And please know, that I hope to give you the moral support you all need as well. Thank you for having me. :0) --Missy

Missy, hello, how are you? it should not matter what kind of family you come from for none of us are perfect. if you really love this man then you should love him for him. If he was to get out early what are you going to do? Are you going to call it off with him due to your family? I am just asking. you either love him for him or you don't. He is doing his bid for his mistake or mistakes. You knew that he was in prison when you 1st started writing to him. God is the only one who can judge us and not man.

[MissMindi]

I have lived by this quote for a while..and now I will pass it on to you. Happiness is not having what you want...its learning to want what you have!

Originally Posted by Sweet45

Wow! I do not know what to say but wow. I am not going to judge you it is good that you are happy with both your husband and your other friend. I am glad that you are happy. Wish I was happy.

[Misstee]

Originally Posted by Sweet45

Missy, hello, how are you? it should not matter what kind of family you come from for none of us are perfect. if you really love this man then you should love him for him. If he was to get out early what are you going to do? Are you going to call it off with him due to your family? I am just asking. you either love him for him or you don't. He is doing his bid for his mistake or mistakes. You knew that he was in prison when you 1st started writing to him. God is the only one who can judge us and not man.

Hi, thanks for your response. Im doing fine, thank you. Your comments and questions are definitely things I think about. I can look beyond his past and love him for him. And he loves me for me. It makes me happier than I've been in a long time. I just wish my family and friends could celebrate in my happiness, but I understand and respect their concerns. I'm just going to deal with whatever comes our way. Should he get out early, I will pack my bags and meet him at the gate with a U-Haul! I'm just gtateful I found this site and dont feel so alone.

[kaylove]

Grateful to have found this site!!!! I was begining to feel isolated. I met my boo about 9 months ago....October. I had a friend that worked at the prison he was at, and she asked if she could give him my address. I got a PO box to be safe. He wrote a very nice, respectful letter and I replied. Two months into the writing I tried to break it off....mostly because my family had a fit!!! But I couldn't stick to it because I realized how much I missed hearing from him. The letters continued. In January he called me for the first time.......I think I was probably in love from that very moment. He called regularly and I started visiting in March. I love him and he loves me....I loved him before I ever met him. He has 3 years left. We know there will be obstacles........so what. NOBODY understands the situation....so what. Some days I don't understand....so what. He is the kindest man I have ever known!!!!

[kaylove]

thanks Ronnie.......very encouraging. My relationship has been going on for 9 months. Of course almost everyone says it won't work. I have heard all the horror stories. Glad to know of the sucesses.

[suprmejoy]

Hello, my name is joy, I met tre through his brother...we started out as just email buddies, but we clicked instantly....at the time I was seeing someone ....but I could talk to tre about all my problems....
He doesnt judge, he offers insight, and alternatives to situations....
I've met his mom, and little sister....
I can honestly say I have never been in love like this..., and each time I go see him it gets harder to leave...he tells me he loves me, and he emails me 15 times a day....
He wants to marry me, and he readily accepts my children....
Aside from his present situation , he is the perfect man....
I'm counting the days until he can come home....

[butterflykiss86]

Hello everyone I'm Veronica....i stay in the IE... and I just wanted to re-introduce myself....ive been on here for a minute now but just wanted to give a lil update on my love situation.....

I'm not new to this whole prison love thing....after 2 failed MWI relationships, I was stricky keeping myself open to pen-palling (been prison pen palling since i was 16 yo....) and focusing on Me out here....well right when I had given up on love for a good while....on the inside or out in the free world....God led him to me one day thru a pen pal ad....after sending some letters to each other, he finally called me (3way) and here now, after talking to him on a daily basis and letters back n forth, I find myself lost in love with this Man like I've knwn him for years and years....he completes me in so many ways......estoy enamorada for realz......he still has some time left>>3 1/2 early release or latest 2015<< but I knw in my heart that its a wrap for me...he's <3 THE ONE <3.....

having been a previous MWI b4, i knw it takes patience, communication, understanding, trust,and respect....and that only time will tell if we're gonna make it as a couple or just be good friends...but our faith is strong and we both know that its gonna take effort on both of our parts to make this work....

I wanted to put my story out on here and would like to get to knw some of u cuz the only thing missing for me out here >>besides him<< is some understanding and support from ppl knwing wat it is to love a person even though they might only be miles away......

[princessnry]

Hi everyone. I met my MWI 2 weeks after his origional arrest many years ago. His case was fairly public and someone I knew out here asked me if I'd be interested some people who had gotten into some trouble. I don't know why but I picked his name out and wrote him a letter. He was in seg so no calls just letters for years. Then baby momma started driving me nutso (she wants him back.. but not completely until he gets out.. or some crap) and we had some misunderstandings so the letters just faded out. I thought he quit writing, he thought I did, we were both too stubborn to find out what the real problem was. Before that we were going to get married. I've been with someone out here (not married) and he knew that but understand why. Anyway, my heart finally couldn't take it anymore and I wrote him a few weeks ago. To my suprise, he said he still loved me and it wasn't too late to start where we left off. I have known his family for years, although we aren't that close I do talk to them occasionally. I know a couple of his friends too. I got my first call in 5 years 2 days ago and it was amazing.. He said "so you are real.." hahaha. Besides the same issue with baby momma everything is coming along perfectly. He says we are gonna be able to work through that and I trust we will. It's hard to be in this kind of relationship. I am hoping that pto will be a place I can actually make real friends who are in this too so that I will have support and encouragement along the way. He still has 9 years left.

[alicia_rice]

Hey there, my name is Alica... I met my man in WV he has been in 12 years and was transferred to California to Adelanto for the last 4 years... here I am living about an hour away awaiting my visitation papers to get approved... ugh funny i can find lots of threads about almost every single prision in California and yet NOTHING about Adelanto?? Is there anyone here who has visited and known anyone who has gone out there??

Any way funny how there is no one here currently???