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mistakes · #1 02-18-2006, 11:33 AM

my ex goes out and my town is not big, so if i go out i might bump into him,i dont want to keep "hiding" or have him stop me from having a good time. and i dont want to go out of town anymore (well i do but money is short!) please let me know what it was like to bump into your ex. did he trip, act like he didnt care...did you leave or what.. how did that feel. i dont know if im ready and would like some help in when do i know i am or do i just forget about him and go. he last told me the only way i could get rid of him was to be with someone else. im sure once he sees someone talking me to me hell leave me alone. i care but i dont care you know what i mean. i dont want him to stop me but i just want to know what to be prepared for...

LovingYou · #2 02-18-2006, 11:48 AM

I "bump" into my ex all the time coz we have kids. So it is not like by choice. The day after he abandoned us for another woman, he came by to drop off some money with the skank in his car. It use to hurt me so much but now it's been almost a year and I can honestly say they can't hurt me no more. And he does wanna come back. Yeah right, huh. Joke is on them not me. She is worried constantly that he will come over here and hanky panky with me. Yeah right, like I will do it.

So my situation is different from yours. Don't let him stop you from enjoying life. If you bump into him, ignore him coz apparently he is out having a good time too.

moniqueSC · #3 02-18-2006, 02:58 PM

Couldn't you just as easily bump into him at the grocery store or at the local Wal-Mart?

If you want to go out and make yourself feel better than do it, but only if you are ready. You won't know how either of you will handle seeing each other unless it happens, but hopefully it won't.

**Patty** · #4 02-19-2006, 08:51 AM

Go out have fun, chances are you might run into him then again you might not, regardless the day you said your goodbyes is the day that lead up to this. Never let ANYONE stop you from living your life.

Patty

AmyLynn · #5 02-21-2006, 11:39 AM

Go have fun...

Lions Heart · #6 02-21-2006, 11:52 AM

Go out and have fun! Make sure you are with your girlfriends who will ensure you have a good time. Laugh a lot. If you do bump into him then don't let him see if it bothers you. Laugh and dance or whatever and just enjoy your life. don't let anyone stopyou from that. Make him be the one that worries about bumping into you not you worrying about bumping into him. GO OUT!!!!

brat4lyf · #7 02-27-2006, 12:17 AM

I actually went out the following weekend. If you and he are no longer together why become a prisoner in your home? ESPECIALLY if he is out having fun. Your life did not begin and end with him so don't let him think that! Have fun, you just might start something good for yourself!

sapphirediamond · #8 03-06-2006, 08:18 PM

One of my friends lived next door to my ex, but I wasn't gonna let him stop me from seeing my friends. Most of the time he wasn't home, but the few times I saw him he pretty much ignored me and I ignored him. He brought a couple girls around being obvious about it, and I just kept ignoring him. If he came over to talk, I either didn't say anything or acted like I didn't care. He didn't want to come around, seeing that he didn't bother me. Yeah deep down I was mad, hurt, anxious, but I didn't let him know that. I say just try to have fun and if you see him, pretend you don't. If he approaches you, just act like he's taking up important time, which he is, and let him know you don't miss him, even if you do. Plus, you can rub it in his face that you're not missing him, and know that he's still thinking about you.

California Sunshine · #9 03-06-2006, 08:26 PM

Go out and have fun. I know the thought of running into him is scary but you gotta live your life and have some fun! I really do not want to see mine ever and hope I never run into him,luckily for me he doesn't go to the places that I may go for a night out!!

sherry_wine · #10 03-06-2006, 11:50 PM

go out have some fun!
worry about it when it happens don't let no one get you down!
not even yourself! Live life to the fullest!

HoneyBee4Me · #11 03-09-2006, 12:49 PM

Boy that's hard one. I think if I "ran" into my ex after his release, I would just act civil, be friendly. I have no time or patience to rehash or argue about the past. I would just be cordial if he spoke to me and move on. I wouldn't go out of my way to initiate contact though. But I don't live in a small town either.
I wouldn't know how I felt until it happened though either. If I was uncomfortable, I'd choose to leave. No sense in staying in a situation that I don't feel comfortable in.
But I wouldn't change my patterns of behavior or avoid going out to avoid running into an ex.
I know that probably doesn't help, it's just my initial reaction.