He called & acted like nothing had happened!??

[littlepluto]

Hiya I thought i'd make a new post instead of carrying the original one on.

My so called 'friend' that was in prison had written a very horrible letter afew weeks ago and yesterday he rang me as if nothing had happend!
Whats that all about?
I didnt even get a chance to ask him anything cus he had to go.
I was so shocked i was laffing on the phone saying, i thought u wern't gonna ring me again, why r u you ringing me? He just replied: cus we're mates. Then he had to go....
Now i dont know what to do...
I can't be his friend like this. i have to get stuff off my chest about the nasty things he has written to me about me. If he dislikes me so much and things so bad of me - then why does he still want me in his life?
Can anyone please give me advise on how to handle this situation? How do i bring stuff up, when he phones again - or do i write to him?

Thank you

[Tulip]

Personally I would write a letter, that gives you the chance to say what you want to say uninterupted. And if you really want no contact anymore, you can stop accepting his calls.
I recently wrote a final letter. I wrote it over 10 days or so. In this letter I addressed just the main things of what was wrong and why we are finished, all the smaller stuff I left out as it does not matter anymore. I just explained how I felt about things and why I thought we could not carry on. Also, I asked not a single question in that letter, that way I won't be waiting for a response, and his answers I would not trust anyway. When I finally finished that letter, I still thought about it for an other few days, just to make sure there was nothing else I needed to say, and once I came to the conclusion it all just came down to the two main topics I had already said in that letter, I finished it and mailed it off to him.
Hope this helps, you take care of you now!!

[MiaBellaAngela]

Sounds like a cycle that reply over and over again. Do you want that?

[HeSoHandsome]

Originally Posted by MiaBellaAngela

Sounds like a cycle that reply over and over again. Do you want that?

I agree. Cycles continue indefinitely, until someone puts a stop to it. So the real question isn't "what's his motives" but instead do you plan to stop the cycle, or keep it going.

[littlepluto]

I just don't know what to do anymore

[honeyg]

If there's stuff that you really want to get off your chest I think you should write. Like Tulip said, that way you can say what you need to say without interruptions. Then maybe he can tell you what's up. If not, stop accepting the calls if they're too frustrating.