Prison Visitation - Things NOT to Do Inside the Walls

[Broken2013]

Thank you for the reply. He wrote me and said he maybe there 2-3 weeks atleast I'm receiving mail.

[HardHeadedWoman]

I traveled all the way from S.C to california and was terrified of being turned away or the guys going on a lockdown enroute to him.

I wore clothes I would normally wear since im conservative anyway. I did call visiting before I left my home town and basically told the guy this was going to be my first visit and i needed to know what I could and couldnt wear.

I asked about jackets, colors, pants, shirts, belts, shoes, money, jewelry, you name it i aksed it lol. the officer was awesome. he told me everything i needed to know and even gave me complete and easy directions from the airport to the prison.

My visit was awesome! We did get called on a couple of times because jamie kept constantly running his fingers through my hair lol. It had been 7 years since he had a female other than his mother visit him and he was just in a trance with the way hair felt lol. the CO finallt gave up and let it go. she knew how far I had traveled and was fairly leinient with us.

the second day i visited jamie it was a different CO and as hard as i tried to keep jamies hand out of my hair he would falter. when jamie got up to to the bathroom the CO pulled him aside and talked to him about it privately.

[thugwife]

Well let me share my many experiences, I will be the first to tell you that what is good for one person may not be good for you. I have been denied twice over what I had on, driving over 100+ miles. I had a pink jog set on and have seen very numerous girls on visit that have the fleece kinds on which are quite a deal tighter. Today I seen one on visit. I hate to sound like a hater but that is bullshit, I wasnt even allowed to go to Walmart and get another outfit, but other people have been allowed to leave and reeenter. Also my husband got 90 days in the hole for hugging me wrong, but yet and still you can get down french kissing at the beginning and the end. I myself do not at all like to get a "intimate" kiss on visit, I feel like everybody is watching. I have also seen a lady with see thru white capri pants on with a black thong make it to the visiting room. And just today I was informed no more hoodies or sandals in the prison. I again had to go to buy another shirt. I have had to buy a complete other wardrobe to satisfy the ridicoulous visitng rules. And I have 6 hoodies that I bought for visits because they will pick on you every chance you get, especially this one lady guard (if you call her a girl) I told my husband I think she has a crush on me thats why she gives us a hard time the whole day

Trust me, here in KY the CO's only get paid about 10.00 and hour MAX, so they think they're tough shit, thats why when they talk shit to me, I talk back. After getting kicked off visit for getting hugged wrong, I stood up and said in front of everybody "Yeah, you can kick me off visit if that makes you feel big, what you get paid? 10.00 bucks a hour? Hell, I make that at Taco Bell. Everybody clapped but I got the visits took for 30 days and my husband got 90 days in the hole, but I let them know I know all about them. You can get on any correction facility site and apply for a job it clearly says what they pay and what they top out as, so they couldnt talk smack to me, BECAUSE I KNOW. They do all they can to make everybody miserable not just the inmates trust me. People get off on other peoples misery, you will learn that in the prison system. The place my boo is at now is the worst visiting setup since he been in. Nice prison but they try to do everything they can to get you kicked out, before its over I'd be suprised if they didnt face us away from each other. I think they feel it is their job to bully the inmates so they do it to their family as another way to punish them. I said next year, when we get thru the gate Im laying some Mustang black marks, and holla beeoitches!!!!!!!!! My $0.02 (two cents)

[lovingmydad]

That would have broken my heart too-sorry that happend-
Hope your next visits are better!

[QBAN C]

The Problem Here Are That The Co's Are Giving To Much Authority.
We Are Not Prisoners & Should Be Treated With Respect. Most Co's Have The God Syndrome Going & Mistreat Everyone. A Kiss & Hug When We Get There & Leave Is Ridiculous . I Could Not Even Hold Hands With My Wife Of 10 Yrs.
About The Ion Machine, Its Faulty & Never Accurate So What Is The Use, To Take Away Our Visit !!!!!
At Carswell Visits Are From 5-9 On Mon & Fri & 8-3 On Sat & Sun. They Always Start The Visit 30-40 Min Late & End The Visit 20 Min Early Every Day. Why Have Count At The Same Time As The Our Visit. Just Another Way To Punish Us..

Wow. Here Is The Exciting News Of The Week..
Me,my 3 Kids & Mother In Law Came To Visit Here At Carswell . My Mother In Law Is Very Sick & Had Her Oxygen Tank As She Has A Very Difficult Time Breathing Before We Started Our Visit We Asked The Guard If She Runs Out Of The Oxygen If We Were Able To Go Back To The Car & Replace The Tank With A New One & Were Told That We Would Be Able To Get It As Long As We Go Threw The Whole Security Procedure Again. No Problem. As We Commence The Visit 3/4 Of The Way Before It Ends She Runs Out Of Oxygen & Starts To Panic .. She Proceeds To Exit When They Stop Her & Advise Her That If She Exits She No Longer Can Return. .
Now Here We Have An Elderly Lady That Needs Oxygen To Live & They Denied It To Her. No Way Around It . When The Lt Came Down 5 Min Before The End Of The Visit He Apologized & Explained That The Next Time She Can Leave A Tank At The Guards Post & They Will Bring It Up, We Sure Wished That Everyone Would Be On The Same Page So That We Can Not Go Thru These Type Of Dilemmas . They Dont Care About Us & Truth Is If We All Stopped Sending Money & Did Not Visit Our Loved Ones & Did It At The Same Time They Would Really Hurt & Things Would Change. Until Then They Will Continue To Treat The Families As Thou We Are Criminals Aswell .

[teddybearsmate]

I visisted my man a week ago and we were sitting there with his arm around my shoulder and he was rubbing his hand on my shoulder just a natural sort of thing and he got a polite "can't do that" from the co and that was it. she was very nice about it and we didn't have any more problems. there are cos out there that will give you small chances. just as long as you follow the main important rules during visitations. needless to say we learned a little that day.

[yodamie]

Originally Posted by Marsha_Lopez1

If I have a cold and have been taking zicam and musinex and all kinds of cold medacine but nothing prescription....so will i test posative for drugs on that ionic or whatever hand scanner thingy? please someone let me know cause I am supposed to fly all the way up there on saturday

I live in Hawaii so things might be a little different here...

BUT i've come up "dirty" or positive o the ion scanner twice... the first time it might have been my fault [i pumped petrol in my car and dealt with money... and only used purel] the second time i took all precautions and STILL came up positive... i believed i was innocent [same CO both times] i asked for the the information necessary and wrote a GREAT letter... of course no response though. HeHe...

so i had lasik done [fret not! i'm getting to the main point!]... and the dr. prescribes you medicine... i didn't even want to touch it! HaHa... because for BOP three strikes equals 90 denied visitation rights. . . so my wonderful caring man tells me to call the front desk and just ask...

so i did, i was told by the head of narcotics [i called a few times=] that the ion scanner detects only 5 drugs: meth, weed, heroine, and i can't remember the other ones... but CALL!!! ASK!!! its always great to hear upfront!!!!

i hope everything works out for you.

[briandi]

I have had my visits suspended twice. One time for 6 months and the other was 6 months too but he was coming home in 3.

The fist time it was my fault I put my hand on something that I shouldn't have and the CO saw it...I was more embarresed than anything. I was like 9 months prego ready to pop and I started going into labor from all the stress...to top it off I had car pooled up there to visit him and my friend had to term her visit too cuz I couldn't just go home...she rushed me to the e-room and I had my son...but I had to wait until my little boy was 6 months old to visit his daddy...luckily he got out soon after that.

The second time was a few years back he got a violation and had to finish up his time. I went to visit him and the dang K9 alerted on me WTF?? I had nothing...would never do anything like that....the CO's were shocked they knew me and my kids and stuff. I was so scared I offered to do a strip search right then...I wasn't about to have my visists wrongfully suspended but they did and there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it. He got out 3 months after that.

Well, he's back cuz of something else he did in his past and has to do a few years...now I am very careful to put the money in a bag and not touch it.. have bleached my coins!! I carry anti-bacterial lotion from Bath and Body with me and put it on my hands. I have accidentally brought stuff in my pockets and I freak out when I find it...

My husband would shoot me if I did anything to suspend our visits...I keep telling him to quit going to PRISON then!! I sometimes get upset and get mad at the CO's...must be the red hair!

In AZ you will be charged with a felony if you bring in ANY unapproved item into the prison. Pretty scary since I am licensed to sell securities & Insurance by FINRA....my career would be OVER!! NOT WORTH IT!!!

[Zaydah]

My husband was in Riverbend Max prison (TN) and he had made a belt for me,that he wanted to give to me(saving the stamps)on the visitation.Well he surely knew that that was a big NO NO @ the visit,anyway he slipped it to me and I (not knowing any better) start admiring it!! Needless to say I got an angry letter from the warden saying that MY visitations were suspended for 3 mos.My husband still had his visitations!!!! Live and learn =o))

[chatuc]

Need Help!!!!! First time my hubby at twin towers California. He has a felony, -gave him a year- hit and run- not his fault but great injuries to someome. How long his time is it going to be? I hear stories about 50% of time, but his page on computers shows 8 months?!!! Can't understand days to visit Please help

[nick3369]

This isn't exactly a bit deal (as I see it, but...) I hit the vending machine when the bag of chips I ordered got stuck. I got yelled at like I'd just punched someone in the face and got told to sit down. I had to ask permission from the CO to get up and get food after that! It only happened that one visit, though.

[Mrs.Phillips]

While hubby was in county the co's (young females 19-24) would give me a really hard time while i was up there. one day i get there .. waited 15-20 minutes to see him , the whole time it's about 5 other couples visiting. Babe is finally out and barely sitting down for 10 minutes and these young female co's come and tell him time's up. I politely held up my timer and let them know- "no sweeties he's only been here for 10 minutes and visitation is 30- he has 20 more minutes." They looked hella pissed and started talkin shit to him((he was behind glass a the time)) talkin about they were going to let it go but he was getting written up for this. I asked why- they walked off. So when our time was finally up... they took thim and made him stand on a wall and took his id and told him they were taking me off his visitation like.. he asked "why".. one of the young ones said "because i don't like her sexy boy". So if we were to put all petty things on the petty scale 1-5,,5 being the highest.. it would a 5 and unexcusably unprofessional.

[TiffanyFL]

A while agon I accidently got Abi into some trouble while visiting. Abi was called over by a female CO while we were in the line at the canteen. We were standing in line facing one another and I reached up and touched his face with both of my hands. I guess from the vantage point of the CO it appeared that we were kissing because he is a full foot taller than me.

Unfortunately he got a firm talking to by her and I got the silent treatment for the next 15 minutes. He hates to be noticed by the guards for anything especially something so innocent. One silly mistake on my part almost ruined our visit. I felt so guilty, the time that I get with Abimael is very precious to me and I have learned my lesson. I am extra careful now about any form of contact that I have with him. The thought of losing my visits for ANY amount of time scares me.

[2GWeRiseAbove]

Originally Posted by tebkrg

All I want to say here is that I have been asked to do things that I know are against the rules... This was at one time between us a major issue... It is not that I don't think that some of the rules are silly/stupid or that little things that you try and get away with can be harmless in the grand scheme of things... BUT, to me nothing is worth losing visitation rights over... NOTHING! It is all we have! My mind tells me that you may get away with something once, maybe twice, but eventually you will be caught. To me victory is not 'getting away with it' when it is against the rules... you are only working on borrowed time when you are getting away with something. Agree with the rules or not - rules are rules and they are there for a reason. We don't have to agree with rules and laws but we MUST respect them for the good of everyone involved.

I intend to NEVER lose my right to visit and my Partner now respects me for this stand that I have taken...

I have a question, no story Thank God, but I was wondering if the prison records everyones convo inside the visiting room? I don't think they'd be able to record in the yard but I'm sure they can hook up a device inside. I've been paranoid and curious, and I don't see a reason for them to do this, but I wouldn't put it past the FL DOC.

[LollieTheCat]

Originally Posted by chatuc

Need Help!!!!! First time my hubby at twin towers California. He has a felony, -gave him a year- hit and run- not his fault but great injuries to someome. How long his time is it going to be? I hear stories about 50% of time, but his page on computers shows 8 months?!!! Can't understand days to visit Please help

I think it shows 8 months cause that will probably be his good time.
So as long as he stays out of trouble he wont do the full year.
Call the number for Twin Towers for a better understanding of visiting hours.
Best to hear it from the Horses mouth in my opinion.
Best wishes!

[lovelyladi]

I went and had my first visit with my man last month. All went well and we ended up getting 2 warnings in the 5 hours I was there. The first one was one of those stupid ones. We were sitting on the bench next to each other and he had his feet on the supprt bar on the coffee table in front of us. All the CO did was come over and tell him to put his feet down. The second one I understood. We were sitting there and he put both arms around me, just sitting there holding me. It had been almost 4 month since we had seen each other. I didnt think about it because I was just enjoying being there. We sat like that for 15 minutes befor this really nice CO came over and politely told him "Danny, you know you aren't supposed to do that." He explained that it had been awhile since we had seen each other and all he was doing was holding me. She apologized with a smile and just said it was against the rules. I can see completely where it depends on wha COs are working. I am just very glad that they were very lenient that day!

Sorry its so long.
Erika

[MattelMade]

I have gotten in trouble several times visiting my boyfriend. The first was kind of my fault, I didn't read the manual carefully enough and wore a skirt without a slip. The second was because literally..the sole of the inside of my shoe was camoflauge and they don't allow camoflauge. Lucky both times I had spare clothing nearby in my car. We did get a talking to once because he touched my breast for a time during visitation but covered it with his arm the way he was sitting. Ha, we get warnings a lot. But usually the guards in visit are pretty cool because they know him and they know how far away I drive to see him. I have never worn a dress up there before and I'm visiting on the fourth of july, so I am getting a lining sewn in and wearing a slip and leggings just in case. Can never be too careful.

[Missenhim]

Thank you all for your stories. I'm going to be a first time visitor in July to the Oregon State Pen. Thank you for taking the time to put your stories down on this thread.

All the stories were helpful!

[robs_angel]

I think it would be easier to list what we CAN do lol

[cutee15]

hi,well ive read thru all the stories(took me forever!!)lol anyways,im goin to see my baby in a couple weeks in crci,portland,and i was just wondering if anyone had information on their visiting there,i looked it up online,but its not very detailed..this will be my first visit and im very nervous,am travelling from michigan all the way to oregon,thanks!! btw,im curious,how in the heck could someone have sex in the visiting room with a table there??(interesting reading)...have a super day!!!

[c&cg]

My husband was doing time in Corcoran, CA. One day our visit was terminated for him running his fingers through my hair, the next week I saw a couple having intercourse and all the visitors noticed, children and all. However, the CO's didn't see or didn't want to see! The point is, some people do get away with not following the rules, the rest of us don't.

[nikichik]

we have not recieved a warning or anything but ever time i go visit my guy i learn something new. a couple of weeks ago when we were checking in the co at the window said that i had to put the baby wipes inside the diaper. i was like waht we never do it that way now the diapers going to be wet. well we went on in and our daughter who is 10 months was crawling back and forth between me and him well climbing really she was going across the little bitty table to our legs and stuff its a little table our knees can touch from across it if we try. anyways the same co came in and said she cant crawl around on the table. i told me guy waht happened earlier about the diaper and he was like yeh thats why she said that shes just a butt. fast forward to the next weekend same lady says why are your wipes in the diaper its getting it all wet i was like i dunno WHY i did that. just goes to show the rules and stuff can change for whoever or whenever they want

[*RaymondzWifey*]

Some of thesee C.O's are resentful for an inmate to still be getting visits from their Loved ones and try to pick and stare and make their comments as if they never did a single thing wrong in all their lives. I'm a nurse and about 3 yrs ago i even had a female C.O. ask me how where and why i was with my baby? "You know being the professional person that I am,I could date a cop a fireman",ya this is exactly how this guard was talking to me .Well for awhile these comments were basically kept to myself and left unanswered with a smile but no more. But now they pick on us they harasse us and have lost our visits 2x's in the same year for stupid B*** S*** reasons.So now I'm in Sacramento fighting them for there unprofessional acts of weak attempts that these so called "Proffessionals "seem to keep inflicting outwardly and have been getting away with for too long.We cant let them take away or try to ruin the little pleasures and happiness that we and our inmates are allowed to get. Find out where your areas/state Headquarters of CDC is and write em up and mail in those citizen complaint forms eventually we'll all be able to enjoy our visits alot more. =JaimeeLynn;194553]As we all know, finding something to wear to visit is a feat in itself because clothes mostly aren't made the way they want them! I'm not sure about other states, but, in most of the prisons here in CA, you can not wear an underwire bra (goes without saying as to "why"). I once was accused of NOT wearing a bra at all! I am young and rather "busty", so let's face it, everyone would KNOW if I wasn't wearing a bra! I was wearing one of those sports bras by Nike, Addida, etc...because I didn't want to hassle with destroying my regular bras to get the wires out. One female CO said to me as I got up to the counter to check in "show me your bra strap", I showed her the tank-like strap and she on the spot said "you're visit is terminated for today because you are not wearing a bra, you're just wearing a tank top!"! Long story short, it was a battle with the CO & the sergeant and then an offer on my part to prove them otherwise behind a closed door. Nevertheless, my visit was terminated due to something petty and I have since resorted to a drab wardrobe when I go in there so that I never get stopped again! THAT is how mean and petty some of these CO's can be and how much they really don't want us to visit our loved ones! They will put the inmates' families through shear torture just to get in the door. Sorry such a long post, but, I had to share my experience![/quote]

[Angelsdelight]

Originally Posted by c&cg

My husband was doing time in Corcoran, CA. One day our visit was terminated for him running his fingers through my hair, the next week I saw a couple having intercourse and all the visitors noticed, children and all. However, the CO's didn't see or didn't want to see! The point is, some people do get away with not following the rules, the rest of us don't.

How ??? Well obviously we know how ? BUT HOW ????????? can someone have their relations as such at visiting and get away with it ?

[ppeachess1980]

i never focus on the thing's i cannot do, for me keeping my light forever bright and loving him my best is what it's all about. i am forever grateful i get the moments we do and never take anything for granted!!!!