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lala1234 · #1 03-27-2006, 03:25 PM

Mylus will be home soon we are both so excited. He sends letters talking about how he is going to spend every minute with us (me and his daughter Myla) , that is all fine but I often wonder for how long I should allow this to go on. Before he went to jail he spend all day with me, He has not yet met his daughter and wants to catch up with her. How long do I allow this all day long stuff last? He really needs to get a job a.s.a.p. but I dont want to be mean about it. Please give advice or share personal experience with me.

+4thefuture · #2 03-27-2006, 09:39 PM

If he gets out near the end of the week end, let him enjoy until Sunday, share the classifieds with him. Nudge him into reality. No, I did not say nag or whine at him. Actually find out out where his mind set is at as far as when he's going to look for employment and take it from there, but in the meantime and between time enjoy the closeness that you haven't received from him in a while.

warm_fuzzies · #3 03-27-2006, 11:14 PM

very well stated Future

you will know what his plans are in the FIRST 30 days of him coming home trust me!!!

lala1234 · #4 03-29-2006, 09:44 AM

Thanks!!

MiniMe · #5 04-03-2006, 08:17 PM

I agree with +4thefuture. You know your husband and how far you can push him.
Let him enjoy his time with his family, and then you and him sit down and talk about where his mind set is about looking for a job. My fiance mentioned looking for work in Jan, and I sent him info about places that would help him with employment. So I know that his mind set is in looking for a job, after spending time with me, us together, and seeing his parole officer.