New Club: Club Fed Wifey's

[moetbj]

Hey Csmc - i see you girl! LOL! I got another letter from BJ today - he is so silly - he has this thing where he talks to me like he is a old mobster - so he was writing like that for the first part of his letter - what a dork! LOL! I have to share what he wrote me yesterday - he knows he is in trouble - when i get the chance to visit often like i have been he gets slack on his letter writing but i thought this was one of the sweetest things he ever wrote me - i put it on another thread but i was at work and couldn't do it word for word:
"You know you are literally building yourself a home inside my heart. I don't mean you have a place in my heart. I mean like you went in and renovated, tore down the walls, redid the roofing, laid down new floors. I mean you remodeled the place and made it just for you."
I thought it was soooo sweeet!

[moetbj]

Ok, so I so have to vent AGAIN about TBD! My son was suppoused to spend TWO nights at his dad's house - this is something he asked his dad and he agreed to - late this afternoon i talked to my son and his dad - i informed his dad that HIS mother called me looking for him and she let me know she has a meeting tomorrow at 5pm (I work until 7 and then have to go clean the bldg after that) so when I told TBD that he was like that's cool - just come get him when you get done. I said well he wanted to go "help" clean the bldg so I will get him as soon as i get off at 7 he was like ok... Fast forward - I am the NAIL SHOP soaking my FEET reading my book, and having a relaxing evening. The phone rings at 8:30 and it TBD - wanting to know where i am and why i wasnt' at football practice to pick up my son. I am like WTF? I thought he was spending the night, and he goes yeah well just so you know thurs are not good for me and i am like ok but you two had this arranged and we just talked about him staying until tomorrow (i am all calm) but if you need me to get him just let me know - i am at the nail shop on XYZ street so he says i will call you back. I have my gal's car and i have to get her from work and i say ok - well the phone rings again almost immediatley and he says yeah he wants to come home - and i am like ok - now mind you i have sent 3 days worth of food over there out of my OWN cabinets and gave my 6 year old $10 just in case right? so he BRINGS the boy to the nail shop - doesn't bring his clothes back, his toothbrush (luckily i keep spares) my son the $10 is gone b/c he took his dad to get something to eat - and he returns NONE of the food.....so I said you still getting him tomorrow right and he doesn't answer and gets back in the car - she says hello but he just drives off...so i tried to call like twice and he never answered and he hasn't returned my call. I am so FED UP with his BS! I called his mom and talked to her for about an hour - and of course she is like well if he doesn't show up i guess bring him here and i can figure something out but she has to be sick and tired of putting her life on hold b/c her son can't take care of his responsibility.....i talked to Y (BJ's friend) and he yelled at me not a bad yell but he basically said - you give him to much opportunity and you make it to easy for him - cut him off - b/c he is not being a father - so when i was talking to him BJ beeped in and I told him what was up and he pretty much said the same thing as Y - He was like baby you have written of 7K in child support to help him - he hasn't given you dime in almost 2 years - he causes you nothing but strife - it is always an ordeal when he has your son - tell him that's it - your done....

So my question of course to you ladies is what do you think? His mom is like he is miserable w/ his own life so he tries to make you miserable too - this is all just a game with him....etc....so i bluntly told her that i am tired of playing his games, and i don't care if he is miserable - that he is jeapordizing my job with his antics....i sooo want to tell him to go get you know what but how do i do this? My son is almost 7 - i mean it's not like he is 1 or 2 - he has somewhat of a relationship with him....

Thanks for listening ladies, I am so sure you are sick of hearing about this but i just always feel stuck between a rock and a hard place with this~

[Csmcgrl23]

I say you are making it easy for him as well. If I had a TBD everything would be in a court order, EVERYTHING, child support, custody, visitation, ALL of it. I don't care if they don't want to pay or what not, if they don't do as the court orders then you have more ground to walk on. Trying to work it out with a loser is impossible as you can see. This is just my opinion on what I would do if I were in your situation. You are making plans with him that he isn't sticking to what you guys plan, if you have court orders then he would either have to walk the line or loss custody. He obviously isn't putting your sons interests before his, he is just making your life harder. I'm sorry you are going thru this, it really sucks. Don't worry about venting, that's what we are here for, it's what you are going thru and what you need to release about. Don't do this guy anymore favors!!!! He if can't buy food then the kid can't go over, if he can't keep him for the days he agrees then he can't see him at all. I know this can be hard on you because of your work schedule and the cost of child care but that's when you have to hit the guy with child support. I agree with Y and BJ....this guy is getting off to easy!!!

[Lylac]

Good Morning Wifey's!!! How are you doing on this FRIDAY!! I am taking a half day today for mental health reasons (if I don't, I'll go crazy!! ) And then I'm gonna lie next to the pool and do nothing. (Maybe )

ACarter - I am sorry that you are going through this with your grandmother too. We all know that things happen for a reason, but it still hurts. You, your grandma, and mom, are all in my prayers. If you ever need to talk...

Lana - Girl... I feel ya and I am so sorry that you know that he is alright and you still haven't gotten a letter. You will soon. We are doing a megga mail dance for you right now!






Moet - GOOD FOR YOU!! Things are finally starting to come together as far as your dress and daycare. I'm with BJ and Y... cut him off. Yes your son has a relationship with him, but it's not a good relationship if he is always going back on his word to his son. Actually, you don't have to cut him off totally, just take control. Could you find a like a responsible teenager or college student to watch your son in the evenings? I wish I lived closer than I'd be able to help. BJ's letter was really sweet!

Shay - Congrads on the letters!!! They made my heart warm listening to you talk about them!! When M comes home and the earth starts shaking... I will just say, Nah, that's my girl getting her groove on!!

Csmc - Give Nana a hug for me!! How are you today??

Trini - Hey girl!!

JOKES FOR TODAY!!

A guy out on the golf course takes a high speed ball right in the groin withering in agony, he falls to the ground. When he finally gets himself to the doctor, he says," How bad is it doc? I'm going on my honeymoon next week and my fiancée is still a virgin in every way."

The doc said , "I'll have to put your penis in a splint to let it heal and keep it straight. It should be okay next week." So he took four tongue depressors and formed a neat little four-sided bandage, and wired it all together; an impressive work of art.

The guy mentions none of this to his girl, marries, and on his honeymoon night in the motel room, she rips open her blouse to reveal a gorgeous set of breasts. This was the first time he had seen them. She says, "You'll be the first, no one has ever touched these breasts."

He whips down his pants and says, "Look at this, it's still in the CRATE!"


A young woman took her troubles to a psychiatrist. "Doctor, you must help me," she pleaded. "It's gotten so that every time I date a nice guy, I end up in bed with him. And then afterward, I feel guilty and depressed for a week."

"I see," nodded the psychiatrist. "And you, no doubt, want me to strengthen your will power and resolve in this matter."

"For God's sake, NO!" exclaimed the woman. "I want you to fix it so I won't feel guilty and depressed afterward."

To all the Club Fed Wifey's Have a great day!!!

[LanaJo]

Before I read posts, I forgot to post word of day for THURSDAY, so it is................... MACKIN............................!!!! J tells me I be mackin him!! I got that convo!!! I still ain't heard from him but, well, what can I say. The word was gonna be b.s. but I figured that was a little too negative!!

[Csmcgrl23]

Good morning ladies!!! Lana, I'm so sorry you still haven't heard from him, you need to get the rolling pin from otra.

Hi Nyk!!! Girl is FRIDAY...I'm thinking of going Lana's route and taking a half day for my mental health!!! I am so exhausted. I've been going to Nana's everyday after work which adds on to my commute like you wouldn't believe. I have to babysit in the morning, then make sure my Nana has her dinner tomorrow evening, then I'm scheduled to be at Nana's all day on Sunday cooking for the folks that come out during the week. But I invited my cousins over, and Patty is bringing the kids so I'm looking forward to having some youth in the house get a different vibe going than just my Nana's brothers and sisters that seem like they are just waiting for death. I laughed last night because my Auntie Eileen said you never know a miracle could happen, and I laughed and said to my Mom wouldn't it be funny if we were still coming over every single day a year from now!!! Who knows right? But I'm not putting my hopes in a miracle, everyone has their time and I do believe that my Nana's time is soon. She just better not die in October!!! I'll have to explain why at a later date, I just hate that month! I have to brush my teeth.....

[Lylac]

Hi MsPiggy!! How are you doing this morning??

[MsPiggy]

Good morning ladies! How are you all this fine and lovely day? I woke up in a absolutely wonderful mood. I think it had something to do with the major rain we got last night. Like it washed away all the bad that happened this week. I also went shopping for myself last night which is something I rarely ever do and it felt great. Even though I only found a skirt and now need shoes and a shirt to match I am off to a good start. I decided I needed a new outfit for both the funeral and for the wedding. After the stress I had I deserve it. I also went to see a friend that I haven't seen in probably 4 years last night. It was great to talk to him. I love to talk to people who are positive and happy about Kermie and I. He doesn't understand how I can do it with Kermie in prison but sees I am happy so he supports it. I also had a great ending to a good day. I got a letter from Kermie last night. Not the letter with the pictures in it that I have been waiting over a freakin week for but a the letter he wrote me while in the hole. My baby is so funny. He told me people suck which is funny to me cause I have never heard him talk like before. He explained the whole situation with why he was in trouble and then the rest of the letter was a love letter. My baby is so sweet that I have to sure. He thanked me for the letter telling him how much I love him and said but honestly I already know. No one has ever loved me the way you do. Had he not met me he doesn't know how he would have done all this time. He went on to tell me how he could care less what everyone says about me and our relationship. That no one knows the love we share and the bond we have built. Its all about the Kermie love. I really do feel as if a 2 ton weight has been lifted off of me and I can breathe. Then to get love letter on top of it well its all gravy baby. I am so deep in :love: its ridiculous. Ever since I heard he was out I have had this cheese eatin grin on my face you guys would just crack the heck up. Well I should get to work but just wanted to post something good and positive for a change. Drama free boy I am not sure I know what that is like but I sure love the feeling.

[Moeshaforever99]

Good mOrning everyone..

Lana..Thank you for remembering the word of the day for yesterday... and I hope you hear some thing today..I am so worried about you..although you seem so calm, something is just not right, can you go to a visit or something, I swear..I am not going to sleep until I find out from you that this man is just acting a fool...!!!!

Happy Friday to everyone..I am so happy..I am going to cut off at 3 today so I can catch up on some errands..

It has been so warm here all week..today is not as hot, but muggy as heck...

I spoke to M last night for a goodnight call and also this morning for our "Get Up" call..LOL we have only used 81 minutes so far, and that is great for us..

I called his mother last night and told her that M was doing fine, he hates to call his mother, long story..but I told him to call her please!

He said he would try...LOL

I am hoping for mail for everyone, and if any of you are going for visits, may they be filled with love..

please stay safe all of you and we will be planning another chat possibly next Wednesday, 9pm eastern time for the teeshirts and anything else..

I love all of you and hugs always...Shay

[HasNAie]

GoodMorning WIfeys!!!! Happy Friday!!!!

I miss you guys....Ive been a little busy at work...and on top of that I am indirectly feeling nervous because tomorrow I am making another attempt at seeeing Has...So Ive been staying to myself..But i am thinking about you all....

Lana...Im glad he is ok...It sucks that he STILL hasn't called...Unless he has a viable excuse..Give it to him girl like I know you will...lol... Love You...
Shay I had to post the lyrics to this song when I saw ya name in it girl...lol.. I miss ya!!!!






Now see most cats, would take advantage of you right now
But I aint gone do that yo
Imma give you the game, right
Imma give it to you because
I would want somebody to give my little girl the game
When she done found her S.E.X

[Verse 1]
Life’s a trip
Heard you just turned 17 and finally got some hips
Hustlers on the block go crazy when you lick ya lips
But they just want relation
They don’t want relationship
(welcome to the real world)
It ain’t the same
Fellas old enough to be ya daddy know ya name
Everybodys talking’ ‘bout how much that girl done changed
Can’t quite put ya finger on it
But you feelin’ strange
Like its fire in your veins

[Chorus]
Girl it’s just your
S.E.X.
Ain’t no more secret
And Daddy gone go crazy when he finds out that his baby’s found her
S.E.X.
Take a deep breath
And think before you let it go (let it go)

[Verse 2]
The block is packed
Baby gotta attitude and proud to holla back
Momma’s givin’ advice but she ain’t tryna hear that
Not because its wrong, just her delivery is wack
(Shay get ya behind in this house, if I see you with another boy, I swear)
Life is rough,
You say that you’re not ready for sex, but you’re in love
He says if you’d really loved him, you would give it up
Mamma says that’s just a line guys use to get ya stuff
Which one will you trust?

[Chorus]
Girl it’s just your
S.E.X.
Ain’t no more secret
And Daddy gone go crazy when he finds out that his baby’s found her
S.E.X.
Take a deep breath
And think before you let it go (let it go)

[Verse 3]
Eh yo Lyfe, she may take it better coming from a woman (Give it to her)
See he’ll tell you all kind of things to get in your pants, yeah
Baby it’s a fact, that once it’s gone you’ll never get it back (never get it back)
Hold on, to your innocence
Use your common sense
You’re worth waiting for (You’re worth waiting for)
Be strong
Honey don’t give in
Blessing come with patience
Until we meet again, I’m praying, for you

[Chorus]
Girl it’s just your
S.E.X.
Ain’t no more secret
And Daddy gone go crazy when he finds out that his baby’s found her
S.E.X.
Take a deep breath
And think before you let it go (let it go)
(Repeat 2x)

[Moeshaforever99]

Has {{hugs}} I miss ya too..

What song is this? The words sound like I have heard them before but I am not sure...

Thanks for the lyrics..

Hugs Shay

[Moeshaforever99]

You're All I Need / I'll Be There For You


( Mary J With Method Man )

You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh
You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh

(Lie together, cry together, I swear to God I hope we fuckin' die together)

Shorty I'm there for you anytime you need me
For real girl, it's me in your world, believe me
Nuttin make a man feel better than a woman
Queen with a crown that be down for whatever
There are few things that's forever, my lady
We can make war or make babies
Back when I was nothin
You made a brother feel like he was somethin
That's why I'm with you to this day boo no frontin
Even when the skies were gray
You would rub me on my back and say "Baby it'll be okay"
Now that's real to a brother like me baby
Never ever give my booty away and keep it tight aight
And I'ma walk these dogs so we can live
In a phat-ass crib with thousands of kids
Word life you don't need a ring to be my wife
Just be there for me and I'ma make sure we
Be livin in the effin lap of luxury
I'm realizing that you didn't have to funk wit me
But you did, now I'm going all out kid
And I got mad love to give, you my nigga

You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh
You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh

You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh
You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh

Like sweet morning dew
I took one look at you
And it was plain to see
You were my destiny
With you I'll spend my time
I'll dedicate my life
I'll sacrifice for you
Dedicate my life for you

I got a love jonz for your body and your skin tone
Five minutes alone I'm already on the bone
Plus I love the fact you got a mind of your own
No need to shop around you got the good stuff at home
Even if I'm locked up North you in the world
Wrapped in three-fourths of cloth never showin your stuff off, boo
It be true me for you that's how it is
I be your Noah, you be my Wiz
I'm your Mister, you my Mrs. with hugs and kisses
Valentine cards and birthday wishes? Please
Be on another level of planning,
Of understanding the bond between man and woman, and child
The highest elevation, cuz we above
All that romance crap, just show your love

You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh
You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh

You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh
You're all, I need
To get by, ahhhhh

[Lylac]

Originally Posted by MsPiggy

Good morning ladies! How are you all this fine and lovely day? I woke up in a absolutely wonderful mood. I think it had something to do with the major rain we got last night. Like it washed away all the bad that happened this week. I also went shopping for myself last night which is something I rarely ever do and it felt great. Even though I only found a skirt and now need shoes and a shirt to match I am off to a good start. I decided I needed a new outfit for both the funeral and for the wedding. After the stress I had I deserve it. I also went to see a friend that I haven't seen in probably 4 years last night. It was great to talk to him. I love to talk to people who are positive and happy about Kermie and I. He doesn't understand how I can do it with Kermie in prison but sees I am happy so he supports it. I also had a great ending to a good day. I got a letter from Kermie last night. Not the letter with the pictures in it that I have been waiting over a freakin week for but a the letter he wrote me while in the hole. My baby is so funny. He told me people suck which is funny to me cause I have never heard him talk like before. He explained the whole situation with why he was in trouble and then the rest of the letter was a love letter. My baby is so sweet that I have to sure. He thanked me for the letter telling him how much I love him and said but honestly I already know. No one has ever loved me the way you do. Had he not met me he doesn't know how he would have done all this time. He went on to tell me how he could care less what everyone says about me and our relationship. That no one knows the love we share and the bond we have built. Its all about the Kermie love. I really do feel as if a 2 ton weight has been lifted off of me and I can breathe. Then to get love letter on top of it well its all gravy baby. I am so deep in :love: its ridiculous. Ever since I heard he was out I have had this cheese eatin grin on my face you guys would just crack the heck up. Well I should get to work but just wanted to post something good and positive for a change. Drama free boy I am not sure I know what that is like but I sure love the feeling.

I AM SOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU!!

[MsPiggy]

Nykijo-- I love it. Thanks. My better mood I must say I can also give a huge shout out to all my fellow wifeys. The support I recieved was overwhelming positive and a great source of comfort.

[Moeshaforever99]

Ms Piggy.....
I am also so happy for you!!!!

[Lylac]

Has - Have fun at your visit... and you will get in girl!!! Got get all lovey and gooey and come back and share your happiness!!

[Moeshaforever99]

Has: you will be fine, stay positive babygirl please..everything will be ok...

Hugs Shay

[Moeshaforever99]

I see you Trinis...hey gurl....



Hugs Shay

[LanaJo]

Piggy - yeah, finally a letter, I know your too excited girl!! I'm super excited for you as well. Maybe I'll be gettin mine today, I'll know here in about like 2 hours!!
If I do or if I don't is gonna decide my mood for today. I feel somber, like I'm waiting to see if I should be sad or what. I know that he's ok, but now I'm so anxious, that I feel like our relationship is threatened in some way. You know it's like I can't breathe without his breath, I can't see without his sight, I am just so intuned and so in love with him, all this super bothers me. I do know there's nothing I can do about it though, so I'll wait, like I been waiting the last 2 years!

Shay - glad you get to call it an early day and get your personal bus. handled, I need to do that too. Today is payday too!! I'm trying to make that a good thing, but dang, payday, means pay bills!! I got enough of em, I got two CC's maxed out right now!!

Has- I love you!!! How are you doing? I know you know I'm giving that mofo hell if he's playing around!! I'm calling you for sure this weekend sister, I need to laugh!!

Trini- Girl if I miss one more call, I'm gonna slap myself!! I got home late or I'd have called you back. I am calling you tonight for sure, what's a good time?!!

Carter- Hope your grandma is well and the chemo went okay. Are you doing good today? It is Friday girl!!!! I'm gonna holla at cha!!

Nyk- You are bright eyed and bushy tailed!! The first one on every morning, I look and see Nyk and I'm like I know this is gonna cheer me up!! In fact, you got me in the cleaning mood, I have vaccuumed all these offices, cleaned the bathrooms, and dusted and cleaned every desk!! Wow!! Your jokes are so cute too!! You doing good today? Any letters your way girl? Thanks for the mail dance, LOVE IT!!!

Moet- Your TBD needs the sh*t slapped out of him for real. I agree with Y and BJ, you give him too much power in the decisions that are made. I understand it's hard to be grown and compose yourself for the good of your child and still get this mofo to see the light, in fact impossible, so I feel for you. I think you should leave choices to your son, since they have a relationship, get him more involved with BJ as time progresses, that way maybe he'll see who the real "daddy" is, the one who has his best interests at heart!! You are doing the best you can and I applaud you fully!! Your such a good person!! Your TBD is just a ghetto terd, that's one!!!!

To everyone in Club Fed Wifey!! Hold it down ya'll!!!! I skipped my work out last night, I was depressed, so I ate off the chain, mexican food, that was so good!!! YUMMY! and I snacked on sweets, I layed around, I didn't even leave my mom's till like 10pm, it was okay!! I'm so looking forward to this weekend!!

[LanaJo]

Has- You ARE NOT going to visit!!!! WINK!!!!! LOL!!! That'll get you there with no problems!! So Has can be jockin you!! Trying to keep his pants from a risin!!!!!! OOH girl, your gonna be too happy on Monday!!

[Lylac]

Lana girl hang in there... You will get mail I feel it in my bones! I am just first here because I have to get up and come into this job and I have to see how everyone was when I was asleep!!!

[LanaJo]

Oh yeah, I got my tickets yesterday for Chris Brown/ Ne-Yo, Lil Wayne!!!! We got 5th row back from the stage!!! YAY!!!!! I'm so hyped, I'm like what am I gonna do with my daughter when I go to do it to Lil Wayne? Huh? I know she'd like me to ask Chris to babysit!!!! But ummmmm, NO!!!! I swear I'm gonna be so cute when I go!!

[Trini'slady]

Good Morning Wifeys.....

HAPPY FRIDAY !!!!!! I see the hen house has already started clucking!! That's great let's keep it going all day. I'm glad to see almost everyone is having a positive morning so far, I hope it stays that way!!!

Lana - Shay and I called you last night to check on you. I'm sorry girl you're going through this, but I sure hope he has a viable excuse for this B.S. And if he doesn't I'm sure you'll tear him a new one!!! I thought of you this morning I was listening to 50 in the car and was laughing about your dream

MsPiggy - I'm glad you're in a good mood and your spirits are some what lifted, because lord knows you need it.

NYK - Morning girl.

Carter - Where are you girl? I hope your granma is ok

CSM - Sounds like you have your hands full, becareful don't get burned out.

Shawty - I see you. I'm glad you got your morning call. Love ya girl

HAS - Good Luck going to the visit. Enjoy it!!

If I forgot any wifeys I'm sorry ladies, you know ya'll are in my thoughts and prayers.

Well ladies I'm doing very good this morning. I had my little chat with T's pic this morning. At first I was a little irritated and ask him why in the hell were you where you were that night? With that chick. But then I realized that's water under the bridge and everything happens for a reason. For soem odd reason God put him there that night for us to get reconnected and I count my blessings everyday that I found him after so long. I got 2 letters and 6 pics. He's so sweet, one of the pics he intenionally made out to babygirl. She had me put it on her pic board right next to her card. When I dropped her off at school she said after school can we go to Ts house? I felt bad and said no honey he's working. When I spoke to him yesterday I asked him if he gets transferred did he want me to bring the baby to see him. he was like NO, I don't want my daughter for the first time to see me in here. Which I totally understood. He said I'll take her someplace really special when I come home. The letters were sweet as usual, how much he loved me, can't wait to ofically be husband and wife, but then he wrote I really don't deserve you Meghan. So I had to write back and let him know that we deserve each other. I mean after all there was a reason we met at that bus stop that day. There was a reason D spoke to me first yada, yada. I know it seems like every other day I'm on here complaing about him. I guess it's just irritation regarding the situation, but I caould never see another day of my life without him. I once wrote to him and said "T you are one 1/2 of my heart and the baby the other, No I can't live without a whole heart right?" I just love this man with all that I have. That's why I get so pissed at him sometimes. Like I said yesterday, If I didn't get bothered by things, than I wouldn't care.
Thanks ladies for letting me ramble. I love you all and thank you for all your love and support.

[Trini'slady]

Lana - I'm available all the time. I have no life lol

Moet - Girl your TBD and mine both need a swift kick in the a$$. My TBD didn't even send her a graduation card, she's graduating pre school tomorrow. Of course T did, well for her last one. Even TBD didn't for the last one. Well ya'll know the saying " Any man can be a father but it takes someone special to be a daddy" And from what I've read Moet our TBDs are just fathers, sperm donors I could go on and on

[Moeshaforever99]

T: I am so happy for you...you deserve all the love this man gives and more..and my beautiful niece will come see her auntie shay this winter..so she will have a special visit..

I forget to mention that the FCI has not told M anything about his move, so in his letter he asked that I start planning my trip down to Memphis, he said that he demands that we be married by the end of the year, so if they don't move him by Oct 06, it looks like I will be tracking down south again, but it may have to be sooner then October if he wants to be married by the end of the year...

Ok..I am rambling.....sorry

Hugs Shay