New Club: Club Fed Wifey's

[Trini'slady]

Ya'll never have 2 things that go together. No Kool aid no sugar, No peanut butter no jelly"

She said she looked like Janet Jackson, got out the car lookin more like Freddie Jackson lol

Originally Posted by moetbj

that is my son's fav movie too! LOL! Every time he goes in the kitchen he goes "hey mom" and i will say what? and he goes, "every time i come in the kitchen, you in the kitchen, in the god dang refrigerator, eating all the food...." he goes through the whole thing - it's hilarious!

[Moeshaforever99]

N...don't write him, you need to go to him, face to face and speak to him about it, I really don't think this is something you need to be writing someone about, especially him, you need facial expressions and holding hands,,etc...please re-think this ok before you decide to write,is he calling you soon???

[Trini'slady]

((((NYK))))) Girl I am so sorry to hear about this. My opinion is I'm sure he's just venting. Give him a couple days to clear his head and then write him a letter. Or if you can go visit and try to talk things out.

[LiLsItalianMami]

HI...

I finally feel like I can become a part of PTO, My man is going to Schuylkill soon..
Can I join club fed wifey???

Thanx

[Moeshaforever99]

LiLsItalianMami...Welcome to Club Fed Wifeys #35

[moetbj]

welcome mami!

LANA ! Where are you?

[Csmcgrl23]

(((((((((nyk)))))))))) girl I am so sorry about the letter. I would write but I also like Shay's idea. Their ego takes such a big hit in prison, he is thinking about what is best for you and isn't thinking what you are thinking, that HE is the best thing for you. Either visit or write it in a letter but he needs to know how he has made you feel and he needs to know that you want him and no one else. If you wanted to be with TBD then you would be right???? Hang in there girl!!!

[HasNAie]

Welcome Mami...My Baby is In Schuylkill too!!

[HasNAie]

Nyk....I agree with SHay..go to him....He is saying its a man thing which is fine,,they go thru their stuff like we do..but he needs reassurance...they all do....

Csm what up Nucca!!!..lol

Hiya Trini!!

[Csmcgrl23]

Hey Has....what is up girl!!!

[katmb]

Hey ladies whassup???????
Well we are back from the DMV sat there for almost 2 hours and then my daughter was ready to go. She got sick. I thought it was just nerves but she said she had gotten her monthly visitor last night and she was cramping really bad. So shes in the bed now and I guess we will try it again tomorrow.

Nik sorry about the letter you recieved. Whew they say that women are emotional but when men go through something they really can't handle things like us so I'm pretty sure its just his (male) emotions and his way of venting. If I were you I would wait to face him in person. I know its hard to hold things in and you wanna ask him about it as soon as he calls or you maybe even wanna write but I think the best way for you to get the most open and honest response from him is face to face. Good luck with everything.

Welcome Mami

[MsPiggy]

Well I ws waiting on Lana to come back but looks like I am going to miss her post. I am out of here for the day. Talk to you guys on monday.

Lana expect a call from Canadian Bacon.

[LanaJo]

OK ya'll I'm back, haven't even read posts yet, but wanted to share my letter first!! Sorry!!
Well the stamp date on the envelope was the 1st, which is Tuesday, don't understand what took him so long to write, but anyways, I open it up and see the last page first which says "I can't take away the pain I know I'm going to cause you when you read this letter", I'm like oh my God, I felt so crazy, started to cry. So I open it up from the front page. He is in SC right now. He got written up, two shots, he says for me "sending that money". I am assuming he talking about a week or so ago, when he asked me to send his homeboy $20 cause he was doing real bad, had nobody and that way he could use his phone time too, HUSTLIN, well thought he was hustlin. I did put my name on the money order, but didn't think that was a big deal, I mean how do they know I don't know the dude, plus I didn't even know it was against rules, for real. So that's all I can think of that he's talking about there. Well he goes on to say that with those two write ups, why two for one incident I dunno, but he got his phone taken away for 60 days. Then they find 2 gallons of wine in his locker, dumba$$ mofo, and sent him to SC, in which he was/is supposed to get out on Monday, I dunno if that was Monday past and he wrote this last week and it took forever to mail out, or if it's this Monday. But he had a hearing on it yesterday, and that was to figure out his discipline for the issue. He said his counselor had already told him that if he messed up at all (this was like a month ago, when they told him 45 days HWH time) he'd loose his HWH time cause he'd been in trouble alot in the past. Well he goes on to say that he's been notified already before his hearing that his 20 good time days are gone completely. So this means what? It means, his original date is Feb. 11, 2007 for getting out, no HWH time means Feb is his release, plus 20 days of good time lost, that leaves him in there until first week of March. OMG ya'll I'm so lost right now, crying, tripping, screaming in the inside like DAMN IT TO HELL. He said he was so sorry, he is thinking he's not ready to be a dad to the kids, how can he be a good father when he's so selfish. Like the little buzz the wine would have brought him is not worth disappointing my daughter by telling her he won't be home for their first Christmas together. He even said he was upset, cussing himself, he is so selfish, and he didn't even notice how much until this happened, like he has us out here waiting and he keeps f**king it up for all of us. He says, "I don't know how your going to react to this, but however youdo I deserve it, it hurts you I know you love me so much, it hurts you just as much as me, I'm selfish" "I'm in the habit of only thinking for myself and you deserve so much more than that, you could make any boy feel like a man in his own right, make him feel as if he's a king". Then he says he thinking only for him, only about him, but with all of him, he loves me and he hates putting me through all this anguish and turmoil, through a prison relationship. Then ends it with "I love you baby, so so much, unconditionally, and I hope your love is the same, but if you need a break from me, or whatever, I understand, I'm always here when you need me" "Don't tell my family yet please".

WTF ya'll? I'm so tripping out. Like he knows I love him and he also knows I'm tired of all this sh*t, so I'm thinking that last statement was him begging for a conformation that I can handle all of this, that I'm not going anywhere, what do ya'll think? I'm so tripping, can't wait to get off.

[LanaJo]

Hey Mami - Welcome!!! You'll love it in here!! Tell us about yourself!!

ANdys- What it do girlfriend, doing alright today!!!?

Piggy - you left too soon, I just got here right after you left, now I'm sad!! Thanks, I'm waiting for that call!!

Nyk - Girl me and J had this same issue, like about 5 or 6 months ago, and he's loved my kids much more than the sperm donors could ever think about. He was like I think you should let Jayce's daddy see him, I can't get in the middle of that, its a "man thing" so don't try and talk me out of how I feel, blah blah blah, I would be so heated if I had a baby and the mom wouldn't let me see him and another man was doing my job, blah, blah. So I'm like look sucka, if you want to act like that, then cool, but don't expect me to be letting MY children call you daddy and act like it's all good, because I'm not for bullsh*t in my children's lives, that is why I don't mess with their "donors" now. Even if you wanted to let them in their lives, I can't do it, and that was decided way before you came along. I want what is safe and sane and loving for my kids, and them mofo's ain't. My daughter, Bri, her dad ain't ever been around, he was 16 too when she was born and has 7 or 8 others now, My son's donor was a complete looney toon crack head burned down my house wack mofo, there is not way I'm going for that. Well needless to say the next day he was apologizing for being so silly. He just needs reassurance like Moet said, they need that. Also like Kat said male emotions mixed with male ego is some crazy stuff, way worse then our monthly emotional cycle or any of that, they go off the deep end. Plus some dudes are in there hatin talking about he's in the wrong, and you know why, cause their BM won't let them see their kids cause their crazy as hell. Just let him know, whether you write it, say it or what I recommend, BOTH, he needs to hear it and you need to say it!!! I love you!!

Kat - sorry your babgirl had cramps, uggghhh, how horrible huh. She was nervous and pms'ing, poor thing, I bet she was just like forget this, after 2 hours too, dang DMV is jacked up!

Moet - here I am sis, tell me what's good!

[moetbj]

Lana - I was just waiting to hear from you about the letter - well i guess that is a good explanation of why he called....what are your thoughts? I am sorry you are having to go through this - that sucks! Some wine in his locker?? WOW!

[LanaJo]

This dude is out his rabbid a$$ mind, some wine, like hello, your in prison, you have a lil over 4 months and like 2 weeks left, why are you doing stupid a$$ stuff. I dunno what my thoughts are quite yet Moet, but I'm stressin it a lil bit. It's crazy cause whats 3 more months, but then it's like if your that dang "selfish" and silly in there, when you know dang well there's some repercussions, then how are you really gonna act out here. Sometime LOVE ain't enough to see you through, it wasn't enough for my TBD. Of course I know J ain't into all the violence and tormenting me like TBD, but still, I'm saying regardless of whatever, he is right he is really gonna have to use his head instead of trying to cloud these last few months by drinking and hustlin. I mean dang, he's being so stupid, let me repeat, STUPID. I am sure the feelings will start flowing out of me when i write him, but right now, as much as I was worried and tripping and angry and all that, I don't want to. But I do know 3 more months feels like a long long time.

[HasNAie]

Well Ladies...Im off on another adventure to Possibly see My Future BAby Daddy..and Husband....I love you all.

Lana.. I Only got 222222222222 Minutes..lol.....Ill Holla!!

Have a Good Weekend Ladies....

[Trini'slady]

OMG Lana Girl I'm sorry you are going through this. At least you know what the deal was though why you didn't hear from him. It perfectly understandable to stress about it and I'm sure you want to kick his a$$. Men don't ever think of the consequences......... I mean hello that's why they are locked up in the first place. I mean do they really think they can get away with all that s*&t, just proves that us wifeys are so much smarter. I think his last statement is definatly confirmation, because he feels so selfish that he senses you are feeling the same way about him and at this moment I wouldn't blame you if you thought he was the most selfish a$$ on the face of the earth. Because lord knows I cuss T out all the time to myself, alot of men are just selfish and don't think

[Trini'slady]

Enjoy your visit HAS !!! ((((HUGS))))

Originally Posted by HasNAie

Well Ladies...Im off on another adventure to Possibly see My Future BAby Daddy..and Husband....I love you all.

Lana.. I Only got 222222222222 Minutes..lol.....Ill Holla!!

Have a Good Weekend Ladies....

[moetbj]

i have to second trini - they don't think logically they think for the moment - poor lana - 3 months may seem like a long time but really honey it's not - gives him 90 more days to think how stupid he was being....

[LanaJo]

Thank you all so much guys for bearing with me, I third the opinion from Trini, they are not thinking about anything but what they can do right then, which is why men can lie and can cheat and can steal and can make wine in prison, they are STUPID!!!! Thankfully they can learn their lessons!! Goodnight ya'll, I love you guys, I'll be hollering!!

[Trini'slady]

OMG Speaking of selfish..... Mami I'm sorry I didn't welcome you. Welcome to the crazy farm, you'll like it here. We are a very caring, strong bunch of women and are always here for each other. So enjoy it here.

Who is the sexiest rapper?

[Trini'slady]

Ok ya'll think about it... That wine can't be that good, it's what fermented juice YUCK GAG,

Originally Posted by LanaJo

Thank you all so much guys for bearing with me, I third the opinion from Trini, they are not thinking about anything but what they can do right then, which is why men can lie and can cheat and can steal and can make wine in prison, they are STUPID!!!! Thankfully they can learn their lessons!! Goodnight ya'll, I love you guys, I'll be hollering!!

[moetbj]

WOO HOO! Lockdown is lifted at Forrest City - it was in the Low but you never know like MsPiggy said they can lock down the whole complex! YES! Smooches tomorrow!

[Trini'slady]

YEAH Moet !!!! **Does a dance for Moet*** Shakes booty and all lol