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sblvsmb · #1 08-11-2006, 07:00 AM

OK ~ I've been to hell and back lately, but I'm making it and things are getting better. Well in the meantime I have been putting my resume out there. I love my job, but just make enough money to get by ya know. Anyways I have been offered a job making about $600+ more a month than I do now ( take home pay, not gross pay! ). My dilema is that since I have a 5 year old who is starting kindergarden, I'm afraid I won't have as much time for her. Where I am now there is never any overtime, and it's very lax. This new job, they do have some overtime, and is very fast paced. Now I know I can do the job, and would be fine. But I fear it will interfere with my daughter ~ like if I have to do overtime one day, I'll be juggling to find a sitter, etc. However, on the other hand, I could provide more for me and her and be able to send my husband money. Any suggestions or other points of view???

**LeBeau** · #2 08-11-2006, 07:36 AM

If you start NOW finding some sweet, reliable high school senior or nice older grandma type (You local senior center can probably help you find someone who loves kids and bakes cookies) that can be available on a moments notice after school and have her sit with your little one 1 or 2 afternoons a week every week, overtime or not, then your daughter will consider it part of the routine and never bat an eyelash... and by making it routine, you can have time to yourself when you're not pulling overtime.
Having child care provided in your own home is often easier on kids than a day care setting, and since she's starting kindergarten the social factor is a non-issue. Just a few random thoughts.

butchies_girl · #3 08-11-2006, 08:32 AM

I agree with LeBeau find a granny type and let them both spend time together it will give the granny something to do and she will feel like shes a part of life and your daughter will have someone to play with.

sblvsmb · #4 08-11-2006, 09:22 AM

I know ~ I have contemplated who I could talk to and say "hey if I call you one day cuz we have to work late ~ can you watch my daughter?" But I just hate being in that situation ~ period. I feel bad ~ I feel like I won't have a stable environment for her......I don't know..........maybe I'm just overreacting.

It will just be a huge change ~ right now no overtime ~ no real stress at work.

honeyg · #5 08-11-2006, 09:36 AM

If you can work out a decent sitter solution, I'd say take the job. If it turns out to be too much you can always cut back once your hubby is home and working. In the meantime you can be socking away some cash for your daughter's future or building up your savings in case of an emergency.

butchies_girl · #6 08-11-2006, 09:39 AM

if i lived near you sb id slap you silly for not doing that lol call the senior citizens center and ask

dwfighterva · #7 08-11-2006, 10:18 AM

Will the $600 a month be eaten up by child care and other things? Like, "Mommy has been so busy lately, let's go out to eat tonight and then I'll take you shopping?" Will the extra stress not make it worthwhile? Will you have the same vacation? If she gets sick, will you be able to take time off?

sblvsmb · #8 08-11-2006, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by butchies_girl

if i lived near you sb id slap you silly for not doing that lol call the senior citizens center and ask

LOL ~ Sometimes I need a good slap!

sblvsmb · #9 08-11-2006, 11:07 AM

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Originally Posted by dwfighterva

Will the $600 a month be eaten up by child care and other things? Like, "Mommy has been so busy lately, let's go out to eat tonight and then I'll take you shopping?" Will the extra stress not make it worthwhile? Will you have the same vacation? If she gets sick, will you be able to take time off?

These are a few of my thoughts too. I am not sure what child care is going to run me for after school. I was hoping to get a firend or someone to do it for next to nothing, but not sure if that will work or not. So I guess with either job I will have the child care. Just with the new job I may have more of it ~ like hey can you pick her up from the after school day care for me because I have to work late ~. THe vacation/time off schedule is the same as I have now, but I do worry that it would be a huge pain if she was to get sick and I had to take time off. But I don't know that for sure........maybe once I am in there and fully trained they won't be as busy and won't have as much OT as they do now??

neworleans85 · #10 08-11-2006, 02:42 PM

i think dwfighterva made a good point. it really will be counterproductive to take this new job but end up spending all your extra earnings on child care and other added expenses plus you'll be missing out on spending time with your daughter. maybe you could make a list of pro's and con's and include the financial repurcusions on both sides.

**LifeTraveler** · #11 08-11-2006, 05:08 PM

My suggestion would be to sit down with a blank piece of paper. Put a line down the middle. On one side put "Pros", on the other put, "Cons". Then start thinking of the pros and cons of taking the new job. If the pros outweigh the cons, take the job. If the cons outweigh the pros, don't take the job.

sblvsmb · #12 08-17-2006, 02:06 PM

HI All!!! I decided to go with the job. *SIGH* I started today. So far so good. And I think I got the day care sitch worked out. ( fingers crossed). Thank you all for listening and helping me once again!!!

carebear72 · #13 08-19-2006, 07:51 AM

you can always check into some after school activities, sometimes they have like a latch key program that allows kids to stay at school till 5 or 6. I recently also took a job change I was a CNA which I loved and moved to another city and a factory job. Better pay and around family but also work 3rd and don't want to count on family. Maybe offer a friend to stay with you in exchange for daycare?

joenash4lyf · #14 08-20-2006, 07:27 AM

I would invest in the background checks online for like 20.00 and put a ad in the paper for a nanny a older woman with experience.Not to replace YOU of course but to help you out.I would always put aside one day a week for just you time with your daughter and have every morning and every night with her so your the first person she see when she wakes up and the last person she sees when she falls asleep.You can work most of your hours when shes in school and you can also talk to your daughtr first too..Let her know your little family needs a little more money to pay bills and a little extra for things for you and her to do together you know in a child way..Pray about it too..God bless