very confused, trust issues and other issues in the relationship

[questioning]

wow i thought i knew it all then, maybe i helped a lil but if ppl r by chance reading years later this thread, I say eventually if meant to be the guy w/baby mama drama will come around or live and learn. I feel like just went through sim situation in a way, the letters, really sounds like finnally learned from mistakes now that in jail etc. I believe is all true too and miraculously gained trust back. You have to listen to you and voice concerns for you and hope that someday can let go and appreciate or have faith that does if take chance. So how could I say anything of not to marry or not?! cuz I was contemplating same thing, now suddenly my new(known year just not the one fr 06)boys getting deported to Mexico and I'm thinking? Is it poss. i could go? I was going to prob. move wherever when out in few more months to year, sentenced 2. Then just few weeks ago was officially accepted into a rehab for alcohol related stuff. I was going to drive em down next week after much work to get in and 'just' 4months..begining of last week tells me the papers served mid last to get deported to Mexico are entitled 'Ur fd' A few dumb mistakes and ur whole 25 years in US can be taken away,no more ex problems or seeing kid, not that ever really could,no more stakeouts outside your house to arrest on a warrent of a text, and instead of rehab u r free to drink coronas on ur own time with a pass to new country/life..verry soon, or from posts maybe get to start jail time over in the real house with ICE..so there's a questionably crazy girl, me, needing to be on Dr.Phil. for you..really randomn long story off a random old post, just reviewing what i wrote on a random thing years ago..I hope things worked out with it all or you escaped b4 no return! Also if a person ever by chance got this far in reading! Stay away from the baby mamas if they sound manipulative etc.!Take back riding with her! Riding with any ex or current gf of a person had feelings for is never a good idea or really fun..would know haha! not helping my case at all...but maybe somethings do appear to happen for a reason..seems can always turn good or bad in a second..it's hard when you get deep! I dont know how to deal anymore with feelings either. Best advise is try to do what you think will make you happiest, if people treat wrong that should get u over it quicker don't take it, least you tried. Keep your head up! Now I felt everything was going to be great eventually and it's taken away by not my choice, again, this time with a straange lingering of good oppritunity feel that comes and goes w/ with the disadvantage sadness of not knowing spanish and harsh? reality. haha Not even much thinking about other things j/k kind of.

[Lovelylady07a]

Hey honni its so crazy cause our story is very similar I met my husband when I was 18 he was my first love we was together for two years we broke up he was still coming around than I realize I deserve better so we lost contact be he would always cross my mind I look him up on MySpace and he had a page I found out he was lock up so I wrote him just to say hello he wrote me back.

Saying how he was just asking someone if they knew me he was saying how he never stop loving me but we had a lot to work on from all the bad things he did to me in the past he had to earn back my trust we wrote for a year he also informed me that he had a son that live down south that he never meet.

So fast forward to this year he is the love of my life my husband so he tells me that his son moms wants to bring his son to see him but she don't want nobody else there so that mean I could not see my husband I felt threatened by her but my husband kept telling I love I just want to see my son I didn't know how long she was staying just every week she was suppose to leaving than she was staying.

So I just feel back I figure if it mint to be it will but she was suppose to take her son two times to see my husband she just left I think she had her own motives on getting him back but when she seen we are solid and im who my husband wants she went running back wherever she came from with her tail tuck between her legs.

If you really love this man relationship come with trails and tribulations and you have to figure out if he's worth you fighting for at the end of the day.

Good luck honni

Pooda wife

[Miss_A]

Just so everyone knows, this thread is FIVE YEARS OLD. The OP doesn't need advice anymore.