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Fellaswifey · #**151** 07-20-2007, 04:15 PM

i want you all to know that it can be done!! with GOD one your side all things are possible. AI have been at this for 15 years off and on, I left for a little while, but i had to come back to the Love of my life. It does get hard but the loves will make it easier just concentrate on the love and you will turn around one day and He will be home.

Kids say the darnedest things, but the truth speaks volumes, You just have to be honest with yourself and with your man. communication is definetly the key to a successful relationship. i hope this helps somebody. it can be done....

vantexasgirl · #**152** 07-22-2007, 11:58 PM

hi..........im ashley and my hubby has been in and out of prison for about 7 years now..........he's only been gone twice since we've been together tho. I have 3 kiddos.....a six yr old girl--Breanna from my previous marriage, 17 mo old Gracey Ray and 3 month old Andi.(all girls!) the 2 youngest are his. It's really hard raising 3 kiddos all alone! We live alone but his parents help with bills some and mine do some...not as much tho. I write him everyday about the kids and he writes back at least twice a week........so thats good for him.lol I'm so scared that my 17 mo old is slowly forgetting him. I show her pics alot and have alot on the walls, but she hasnt seen him in about 2 months now. He's at the Hutchins unit in TX and thats not far.........im just trying to hold out and take her when its contact so he can help keep her satisfied.........not screaming to get down and run around....its just so hard on em at that age to be still. i always take the baby when i go. anyway....if anyone wants to talk........im here and i definitely know what your going thru! Ashley

MrS.OrTeGa · #**153** 07-23-2007, 12:40 AM

Yes Im Raising My Son Alone, His Dad Got Busted Wen I Was 2 Months Pregnant, Im In A New Relationship Now Though With Someone I Was With Before Him, But....my Soon To Be Husband Is Currently In Ironwood Servings 12 Years. So Either Way As Of Right Now Im Doing It On My Own

Newmama87 · #**154** 07-23-2007, 08:02 PM

I'm raising my daughter by myself and my dude he's in centinela state prison. And it's hard trying to raise a baby on your own when the other parent is in prison. And there are times when i'm mad ass hell at my babydaddy for leaving me like he did. Being hard headed not wanting to listen to me. But when i find myself getting that mad at him i just look into my baby's eye's and i see him looking back at me. i could never stay mad at him that long so ladies what's your stories?

daves wife · #**155** 08-28-2007, 12:49 PM

My husband went to prison the day after my daughter and i came home from the hospital, she was 5 days old. She looks so much like her daddy and even has all her birthmarks in the same place as her daddy. She has truly been my security while he is in there.

jaydonsmommy · #**156** 08-28-2007, 07:33 PM

my sons dad has been in jail since i was 8 mths. pregnant. hes almost 9 mths now,and his dad has never been able to touch him. but he knows who his dad is, that was actually his first word. but i havent taken him to see his dad since was transfered to garza west. i feel bad for that but its hard trying to hold him down when hes trying to get to him.

MissingPapa · #**157** 09-10-2007, 08:49 PM

I am so grateful that I have my daughter as I know all of you are grateful for your kids too. My daughter is 13, she was 12 when her father had to go and although I know she loves him very much, I can see that she tries to make herself numb when special things are happening in her life because her papa can't be there to share them with her and she doesn't want to be angry at him. I tell her it is okay to be angry but not okay to try and not feel anything and then the other day I noticed I had been doing the same thing b/c I didn't want to upset him or me and I felt like such a hypocrite but I just figure I will have plenty of time to share my feelings with him when he gets out and not put anymore on his plate then he is already dealing with plus, I am an adult and my daughter is only 13, please tell me this is the right thing to do?

Thumper81 · #**158** 09-17-2007, 09:26 PM

Hi I have 3 children Caden 4 Sadie almost 2 and Jaycen 2months. Caden and Sadie's father is my ex husband who is back in again for the same stuff as he was when Caden was first born he got out we got Ms Sadie lady and then we seperate and I get pregnant by Jaycen's father who just got violated so now he to is locked up I sure do know how to pick em huh all these babies 2 daddies and me....and guess who is raising all of them ME. But my youngest sons father wites me everyday and i spend time with his family who is a big support Caden and Sadie their father is lying everytime his mouth is moving so i try to keep a link to them for him but at the same time i dont want him playing headgames either. I told Caden his daddy was in time out bc he did something wrong. He told me that his dad was in jail and when he got out he would be ok. out of the mouths of babes

AllMine316 · #**159** 09-20-2007, 12:39 AM

I have three kids with the youngest being 2 months, and oldest 6. My oldest kid has only had his dad out for probably a total of a year. He is constantly going back to prison. Though my son loves his dad and prays for him each night, he also believes that his dad does not love him because he does not see him everyday. I have tried to explain over and over again tat it is not true. I have been honest with where he is but he thinks I am lying that he is at work and does not want to come home. Luckily my other two are not old enough to express their feelings, I only hope that this is truely the last time, for our kids sake.....as well as mine, seeing he missed all three births. Things get hard but leave it to the kids to say the darnest things. "MOM, I HOPE THAT DAD IS STRONG ENOUGH TO PLAY TACKLE FOOTBALL WITH ME, I DON'T WANT TO HURT HIM!!! "

ANTHONY'S WIFEY · #**160** 09-20-2007, 11:12 AM

I Have Three Kids With My Husband, 2 Boys And One Girl Ages 9,4 And 2, My Husband Has Been In Since I Was 7 Months Pregnant With Our Baby Girl, She Has Got To Be Held By Him For A Short While (3 Months He Bailed Out) But Our Daughter Has Missed Out On Time With Her Daddy But I Know He Will Make It Up To Her, He Love's His Kids With All His Heart, They Are His Life!!

ilovedavid · #**161** 09-21-2007, 03:23 PM

My husband was just arrested 10 days ago with 4 felonies, we are waiting for feds to decide what it is that's going to happen. My kids are 12, 9, 8, and 2. They are all taking it pretty hard. I had to tell them exactly what happened cuz it was all over the front page of the newspaper and I didn't want them to find out by someone else. I have put the 3 oldest ones in therapy to help them get thru this. Mu husband and I have been together for almost 11 years, and I've never had to do this on my own. I'm so scared if I'm going to be able to raise them ok on my own. The attorney told us yesterday that he's looking at a minimum of 18 years. The saddest part is that he's going to miss out on so many things. I just really wish he would have thout about us and the consequences before he started doing what he was doing. Cuz not only is he suffering them, so are my babies.

liliuj · #**162** 09-21-2007, 07:03 PM

My husband will be going in Nov 13 2007 here in North Mississippi, most likely Parchman. He has been in and out of trouble since his teen years. My daughter is two and by baby is 8 months. I'm so scared that I won't be able to take good care of my kids, give them everything and show both of them the attention they need. It's just hard to imagine how I will get through it. He will be in for 8 years, so looking at 2015. I guess all I can do is pray.

lareynangel · #**163** 09-28-2007, 09:56 AM

God Bless U. intro i am a singlmoma of 5 rangin from 19 to 8 yrs of age, wat touchd me was ur last statements, "i guess all i can do is pray" (and the scared part too

) Pray b4 everything u do and watch His hand move...after 13yrs. my 'baby daddy' has finally rcvd Christ and WOW!!!

i also finally gave my LIFE to HIM and both of us 3 yrs now. U can do all things thru Christ who strenthens u.....(Phil. 4:13) also Ephesian 3:16-19.
Have a wonderful day.....pm me personally if u like.... u r Blessed.
ur sis in Christ,
Abril

torn_apart · #**164** 10-04-2007, 05:35 AM

Hi i just joined this group. Im 24 and my fiance is 25, he has only been in 9 days so far but we are missing him heaps. We have a 9wk old baby together and i have a 4.5 yr old son who looks at him as another Daddy and doesnt understand where he is. My partner is finding it very hard being away from our new baby as he was a very hands on proud Father. I hope he is back with us soon so he doesnt miss out on too much of our baby boy's life.

Thumper81 · #**165** 10-04-2007, 08:58 AM

you know not to sound clicheish (sp) but it does get easier with time almost to the point that you get so used to doing everything by yourself that when they get out it seems that they only get in the way until you get used to them being out again. but it is so awesome when they do my babies 4,1,2 1/2 months are all waiting for their daddies as patiently as they can

ThatOneChick · #**166** 10-07-2007, 11:01 PM

I agree that it does get easier the longer time goes by. In the begining its so devastating, like omg what am i going to do now? Now it's just a way of life, you do what you have to do.

Donellsgirl · #**167** 10-10-2007, 11:18 AM

YES I AM RAISING A 2 YR OLD LITTLE BOY THAT WILL BE 3 YRS OLD ON THE 25TH. IT'S GETS VERY DIFFICULT AT TIMES RAISING A CHILD BY YOURSELF. BUT I KNOW THAT "WHAT DOESN'T KILL ME WILL ONLY MAKE ME STRONGER".

lahill · #**168** 10-10-2007, 02:46 PM

well i am a parent with 2 children. My daughter kaia is 7 years old and my son Saint is 2 years old. Their father (my fiancee) is locked up and believe me it is hard being a single parent. All of the responsibility is on me and it gets hard.

gibbyslady · #**169** 10-10-2007, 08:52 PM

i am a mother of 2 my olders daughter who is 17 is from a previous relationship and my 7 year old boy is from my husband who is incarcarated. My little boy was 1 when he went in and its very hard being mom and dad. not only are you supporting your kids but we all are also supporting our men on the inside.

DALEJR_WIFE · #**170** 10-15-2007, 10:26 PM

Hi Everyone My Name Is Tanya And I Have 4 Children And There Father Is Just Finishing Up A 2yr Bit So We Are Almost Finished My Youngest Son Was Born On 2-4-06 My Husband Went In 2-21-06 So They Dont Even Know Each Other I Tryed To Take Him To See His Father But All He Did Was Screamed So We Are Gonna Wait For My Husband To Get Home It Will Be Easier For Our Son To Get Ajusted..my Children Are Tyler Age 6..trevor Age 4..kayleigh Age 3 And Finally Kyle Age 2...

butterflygrl850 · #**171** 10-16-2007, 03:33 AM

hello everyone i am a mother of three 2 girls and a boy my fiance has been locked up since january 31 07 our son was born in may he is not going to be able to meet his father intill he is almost a year old it was very hard at first especially with being pregant with all the stress i was under i kept loosing weight and then my baby was born early but he was very healthy thank god our oldest is in kindergarten and some how i find time to voluntee in her class and my other daughter is two i work around 50 hours a week as a restraunt manger its alot easier now though im just goin with the flow even if i never do get to sit downand relax or sleep through the night i just hope it gets a lot more easier when he comes home hopefuuly ill have time to read a good book

bomblyric · #**172** 10-24-2007, 09:26 PM

My husband is in for lord only knows how long. We have 3 beautiful boys - my 2 his 1, and we going to ave a little girl until i had a misscarriage ater his first trial. I take the kids to see him on the regular and they are so excited to see him, but the aftermath when they get in the car is soo damn unbearable

nikki_z2007 · #**173** 10-31-2007, 11:52 AM

Yes I am. I have a 2 month old son & a 2yr old daughter. It's hard. I look @ my son everyday & miss him even more cause the little dude looks just like daddy. & my daughter asks me where daddy is sometimes especially when I look @ his myspace.

M_C · #**174** 11-06-2007, 06:11 PM

Hello to All -
I have an 8 year old whose dad has been in locked up for 3 years. Its been very hard but once I was able to tell my son the truth earlier this year, after he got over the expected reaction (lots of tears and hurt) we have worked through it together. His father and I reassured him that he (his dad) was ok, eating and sleeping in his own bed and that things would be ok. I have taken him to visit and thankfully (for real, thankfully) he is in a camp facility and its alot less restrictive than a normal prison so the visiting is great, we've been there a few hours in a row and the ride up is long but the scenic route is beautiful (rural PA). I try to talk to him alot and reassure him that its just temporary.

My hat goes off to ALL moms (and dads) doing the best we can under these difficult circumstances...and Lord knows the prison system is not family-friendly at all so that makes it even harder. Keep your heads up ladies (and gents), we can get through this with a little faith that things will get better.

Linaka · #**175** 11-06-2007, 08:29 PM

Hello Everyone,
I have a 20 month old daughter born in March and her father has been in prison since she was a month old, 2 weeks after my daughter was born i left her father because of a coccaine addiction and he went to prison in April. I have been raising my daughter on my own and as she gets older it gets even more difficult. Even though i have been taking her to visit him its hard to know if she really understands that he is her daddy. I have a girlfriend who is married with a daughter the same age and at one point my daughter was calling my girlfriends husband daddy which almost broke my heart. In a way i believe that she didnt understand why her little friend had a daddy at home and she didnt so she maybe thought that he must be her daddy as well... I try to show her pictures and let her talk on the phone with her daddy and i know as she gets older and he gets out she will understand better. Parole date is coming up in January and everything looks awesome, we are quite confident that he will be coming home!