Not sure if this is approiate (angry at my sister)

[JayJay's Boo]

Hi there. I'm not sure if this is an approiate forum to post a thread in but I'll try anyways. Here's my thing.. My man finally called today for the first time, ever. *My mom and I have been trying to get the block off the phone line and we found out the hard way we had to put up money for my man to call so my mom put up the money and it was successful, *YAY** Anyways, to begin with, I have 3 older sisters, I'm the baby of the family but um when jayjay called the first time, my 2nd oldest sister answered the phone.. now... I have to admit I have a problem with my 2nd oldest sister talking to my man ONLY because.. on the day jayjay got arrested, my sister had the NERVE to tell me, in her own words "he's never coming home, he's never coming home" I got p'od at her right there and told her off but anyways, I don't like my 2nd sister talking to my man at all. Even after what she said and after jayjay got arrested, I stopped hangin out with her, i stopped rollin' with her. Is this stupid to feel this way about your own sister and her talking to your own boyfriend? Should I tell Jayjay that I simply don't like him talking to my 2nd oldest sister? I don't know what to do in this situation. Can someone give me advice on how to deal with this? Thank you for your time.

[RedsMom]

i think you should be the bigger woman and besides if she was so happy that he is never coming home what could she possibly have to say to him ...just remember he loves you!!!! and she can be petty all she wants its your life just my Humble Opinion !!!

[JayJay's Boo]

You are definitely right, I totally agree. About all that. Its just that, we both live at my parents house. Ugh lol

Originally Posted by RedsMom

i think you should be the bigger woman and besides if she was so happy that he is never coming home what could she possibly have to say to him ...just remember he loves you!!!! and she can be petty all she wants its your life just my Humble Opinion !!!

[RedsMom]

honey be so sweet she will be on her toes wondering whats up..lol really just let her do her thing and go on it wont help making a big deal ..if you need to gripe PM me i will listen

[one_luv]

I don't like to share my man's phone time if I don't get to talk very often. I think your feelings are only normal. But don't let her get to you.

[big mama 69]

Do you love your sister? Do you love your man? Do you have plans of being with your man for awhile? If the answer to these questions is yes then,....I think it's gonna be kinda hard for your man and your sister to never talk throughout your relationship with your man. Like,...do you want to marry him someday? Wouldn't you want your sister there? What about holidays? Ok,so I might be jumping the gun but I'm just trying to make a point. I totally understand you not giving up any of your phone time to her but I would think that it would be a good thing in the long run if your family got along with your man.It makes life much more simple when everyone get's along ya know?

[JayJay's Boo]

Of course I love my sister and my man. I definitely have plans being with my man for a long long time. I even want to marry him and have kids with him. I mean, yeah you're right it will be but at least my feelings will be expressed and my man will understand. They can talk all for I care but it just still bothers me that my sister had the nerve to say that, u know? Holidays will be different, I know it. My man had spent christmas with me and my family and it went great. My family do get along with JayJay.. it's only me thats feeling like this. My family's on his side and all that but its hard for ME to like.. forgive my 2nd sister for even SAYING that. Its like this.. what if she were in my shoes and I said to her that her man is never coming home? How would she feel? Yanno? I just needed to vent this out. Thanks for ur thoughts tho.

Originally Posted by big mama 69

Do you love your sister? Do you love your man? Do you have plans of being with your man for awhile? If the answer to these questions is yes then,....I think it's gonna be kinda hard for your man and your sister to never talk throughout your relationship with your man. Like,...do you want to marry him someday? Wouldn't you want your sister there? What about holidays? Ok,so I might be jumping the gun but I'm just trying to make a point. I totally understand you not giving up any of your phone time to her but I would think that it would be a good thing in the long run if your family got along with your man.It makes life much more simple when everyone get's along ya know?

[Crone]

we all have bad moments and make "bad" decisions on occasion. Your man made a "bad" decision which is the reason he is now incarcerated (ASSUMING that he is guilty of the crime he is charged with). Your sister made a "bad" decision in saying what she stated. Why would you forgive your man for his bad decisions and not your sister? It may be still a raw and painful thing for you but if you can forgive her your wound will heal faster. I would try my best to just let it all go. Good luck!

[JayJay's Boo]

Originally Posted by Crone2004

we all have bad moments and make "bad" decisions on occasion. Your man made a "bad" decision which is the reason he is now incarcerated (ASSUMING that he is guilty of the crime he is charged with). Your sister made a "bad" decision in saying what she stated. Why would you forgive your man for his bad decisions and not your sister? It may be still a raw and painful thing for you but if you can forgive her your wound will heal faster. I would try my best to just let it all go. Good luck!

Actually... my man didnt make any decisions, nor bad nor good nor anything. He's charged with crimes HE DID not commit. I've gotten over it because I already know that me and my man will be moving when he gets out so I'm not 2 worried about anything. When it happened, I just got an uneasy feeling about it. That's all. Nothing to forgive my man for. He did not do anything wrong. I have forgiven my sister but it IS hard to forget what she said. Thats all