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redhaired_dolly · #26 10-15-2007, 01:58 PM

In a way I feel I have to do this bid. Not that I need to or am obligated, but because I'm miserable when we're not together. There's a space in my life and in my heart only he's ever going to fill. But I know I don't really have to. I just want to because I want him so badly.

jenlyn70 · #27 10-15-2007, 02:05 PM

These polls are sometimes difficult to answer. Of course when asked do I want to do this bid with him I can only answer NO. I don't want this to be happening at all. I love him and he got himself into this situation. I'm certainly not going to abandon him, but no, I'm not doing this bid with him cause I want to. Do y'all understand what I'm saying??

notlyte68 · #28 10-15-2007, 06:18 PM

I chose both. I started because I wanted to, then I promised him and God that I would be here through the good and the bad. Hopefully, we will have much more good than bad. I think we will.

eeniaLorr · #29 10-15-2007, 07:08 PM

I reconnected with him after many years apart. Our daughter is almost 20 and we broke up when she was 2. When we started talking again he was doing his bid alone. No family support. Just him. Long story short neither one of us had married, no ties. I have always loved him and he has always told anyone who would listen that I was the only woman he had ever really loved. On June 28, 2007 we married at Baldwin State Prison in Milledgeville, GA. So I guess my answer is I am doing this bid because I love him, always have and always will.

JohnBrandi4life · #30 10-15-2007, 08:23 PM

I married my baby in prison, and i chose that i wanted to do this time with him! God knows what I want!~~~Brandi

Wobabi · #31 10-15-2007, 08:42 PM

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Originally Posted by eeniaLorr

I reconnected with him after many years apart. Our daughter is almost 20 and we broke up when she was 2. When we started talking again he was doing his bid alone. No family support. Just him. Long story short neither one of us had married, no ties. I have always loved him and he has always told anyone who would listen that I was the only woman he had ever really loved. On June 28, 2007 we married at Baldwin State Prison in Milledgeville, GA. So I guess my answer is I am doing this bid because I love him, always have and always will.

wow life goes full circle doesn't it?

Amy Koch · #32 10-15-2007, 08:56 PM

I picked want to. He truly is the love of my life, and I now know that I was never truly in love in my past relationships, until I fell in love with him. I could not see myself doing this time with any of them. We are planning on getting married while he is still in, hopefully the beginning of 2008! Can't wait to call him hubby!!

mrsdjones · #33 10-16-2007, 10:07 AM

You are making a he77 of a lot of sense...
I am a wife but I dont feel like i have to do this time with him!
I chose to ride it out with him but i cant say that i want to be in this situation because it SUCKS!!!
I'm here because i love him enough and i feel that i am strong enough to do the time with him! i feel that god put this man here for me to spend the rest of my life with; so i'm willing to endure this time apart and pick up from where we left off and move forward when he come home to me.
i guess some feel that as married folks the "standing by your man" thing goes without saying. my husband never asked me to do this time with him but he did say that he'd understand if i couldnt.
he says doing time while in a relationship is harder on him because he worries so much about me and the kids. the first time he went away (7yrs all of age 22-29) it was only him.
I couldnt see myself as being one of those women who string their man along; ya know the ones that faithfully visit their man, write send money, phone calls the whole 9 yards but have another man in their life or sportcoat as the men in prison call the other man, so in short right now i'm here because i can do this time with him, its just another test of our love. if i couldnt do it i'd bounce!

j.d · #34 10-16-2007, 02:29 PM

I want to do this with him. I couldnt live with myself if i didnt.
I dont have to stay we had no real ties.
I want him too much to let go over this. not happening.

mel2020 · #35 10-16-2007, 02:38 PM

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Originally Posted by jenlyn70

These polls are sometimes difficult to answer. Of course when asked do I want to do this bid with him I can only answer NO. I don't want this to be happening at all. I love him and he got himself into this situation. I'm certainly not going to abandon him, but no, I'm not doing this bid with him cause I want to. Do y'all understand what I'm saying??

Yes, same thing I tried to say. I feel ya

Sinphany · #36 10-16-2007, 02:55 PM

Yes you make sense and I say both...Yes I had a choice and after being there...then going on to somewhat live..my spirit wouldn't let me be w/o him...so I found myself right back in his corner...10 does shitter than before....

My shirt today say: Love will make you do some crazy shit!X6

LadySin

mrs.battsiii · #37 10-16-2007, 06:15 PM

cuz he is the 1. my neo. although he looks just like morpheus! and i- a younger oracle! anyway. yeah, big matrix fan. well, i want to and have to. man, the have to is too long to explain. but it's mostly that soulmate thing so many have a strong opinion about. our backgrounds and our child. want to because after dating for a few years, i have NEVER found what we were able to build in our brief outside and longer inside time together.

it just bees that way.

NileMusiq · #38 10-23-2007, 03:05 PM

Well he asked me that exact same question and I kinda went off. I guess i have to give it more thought and address it with him later. I hate this mess so no I don't want to do it, but I love him so I will.

Now, I see why he asked. I just wonder where he's taking my answer.

13MmeHomard13 · #39 10-23-2007, 03:11 PM

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Originally Posted by dancinggal

To be honest, this question has been kicking around in my head for the last couple of days. Am I putting up with this because of some sense of obligation or am I putting up with it because this is the man that I really want to be with when he gets out? .......

Do I feel that because he was there to help me in one of my darkest times that I now feel that I HAVE to be there for him now even though our lives have been turned upside down because of this?

I'll let you know when I know what the answer to that is because I sure as s*** don't know anything right now!!

GAWD!!! I am SO glad I am not the only one rassling with this particular alligator....

JERRYSGIRL05 · #40 10-23-2007, 03:12 PM

because i love my man sooooo much i want to do this with him. what he have between the 2 of us and what we built, i could never leave him. you gotta take the bad just like you do the good. theres no way i could ever leave my husband. i waited 8+ years to have him back in my life, im not letting him go ever again and if it means going thru this lil bit of time apart, then so be it. time will pass no matter what. id rather it be with him.

Rah'sMommy · #41 10-23-2007, 03:18 PM

I'm here because I love him... and because when he got knocked I didn't want to be without him or this love... I'm not obligated by marriage, and Rah & I were only a few months into the relationship when he was arrested. But I knew he was someone I could ride with, and I didn't want circumstance to end what I'd found with him. So I'm here... Some days, I look up and say to myself... How'd I get here... So thanks for this thread. I guess I needed a reminder...

BTW... What's poppin with you Babi-Gurl...

G.Leyva · #42 10-23-2007, 03:29 PM

I am by his side because I chose to. I love My man to the fullest. and I will stick by him threw his hard times

g14classified · #43 10-23-2007, 03:32 PM

When they are in prison it is so easy to say out of sight out if mind. There is no reason that we should ever feel that we are obligated to stay with them while there in due to the fact that they are the ones who put them selves there. We chose to stay with these men because of love and loyalty and every one makes mistakes and they deserve to be forgiven because of the love they give in return only god can judge.... I chose to because I cant live with out my best friend.

andysbabygirl · #44 10-23-2007, 04:08 PM

Although Andy and I are married I don't feel at all that I HAVE to do his bid with him. I choose to. I do take my vows to him very seriously and he would have to do something extremely drastic for me to want to give up and walk away. I guess what I am saying is I am still here because I love him and want to be here for him no matter what. Ours is a union formed by God and he is the man I am meant to be with so it really doesn't matter. Married or not I am here because I choose to be not because I have to be.

nikki_z2007 · #45 10-23-2007, 04:25 PM

I want to stick through this w/him. The only thing he knows is people letting him down and telling him things and not doing it. I'm here through thick & thin. I'm gonna prove to him that not all people are all talk. We have beautiful kids together & our son reminds me of him everyday.

*~Missin'Him~* · #46 10-23-2007, 04:26 PM

Both.. I want to and he is worth it, plus I'm his wife and it's 'for better or for worse'.

tlo'sgirl · #47 10-23-2007, 06:34 PM

I want to do this bid when him. He is the father of my son and I want us to be together as a family when he gets home.

lilithinwaiting · #48 10-24-2007, 01:17 PM

He is my husband. I made a commitment and will follow through. I want to wait for him or I would not do so.

sunflower_nuts · #49 10-24-2007, 03:05 PM

I voted for "want to."

I've learned through all of this that despite any guilty feelings I have over my own screwed up actions toward our relationship in the past, I do not have to be here. I do not have to do this. Before he got locked up, I did what I could to help him avoid this fate, but he ultimately chose to keep using. Now he has to deal with the consequences. I want to because I know what lies under the addiction - the man I love

However, I know that if it gets to be too much for me to handle, I have to take care of myself first. Previous experience has taught me that making sure I'm OK is not a "want to" situation - it's a have to.

gapeachwifey · #50 10-24-2007, 05:59 PM

If anyone had asked me 9 months ago, I would have had a hard time answering this question. I think in the beginning I did it because I felt I had to, now I do this bid with him because I want to

Dang, I'm acting all brand new and stuff :love: