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Missing_My_Love · #**101** 11-12-2008, 10:48 AM

I CANNOT imagine my life without him. I def. don't HAVE to do anything. I WANT to do this with him. Not once have I EVER questioned standing right beside him for this entire thing. I love him with all my heart.

Titoswifey43v3r · #**102** 11-12-2008, 11:13 AM

i WANT to do this bid with him. It's my first time doing a BID with anyone.....I chose to be with him, falling inlove was inevitable and I WANT to be with him for the rest of our lives. I could of walked away when he was picked up but my love is stronger than that. I WANT HIM now here with me. Lol.

canthelpbutwait · #**103** 11-12-2008, 02:07 PM

Okay so, I may just get hated on for this post, hopefully not as it is just my opinion. Nobody HAS To do anything- unless you wanna include breathe eat and shit lol. But as far as holding someone down.. nobody has too, we arent obligated to.. married or not.. mother or father of the inmate.. you dont have too. You choose to or you choose not too. I chose too because I want to spend the rest of my life with my soulmate and that means being there for him through the bad and the good, which unfortunatley means during a bid you know?

-ride or die- · #**104** 11-12-2008, 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by canthelpbutwait

Okay so, I may just get hated on for this post, hopefully not as it is just my opinion. Nobody HAS To do anything- unless you wanna include breathe eat and shit lol. But as far as holding someone down.. nobody has too, we arent obligated to.. married or not.. mother or father of the inmate.. you dont have too. You choose to or you choose not too. I chose too because I want to spend the rest of my life with my soulmate and that means being there for him through the bad and the good, which unfortunatley means during a bid you know?

This is how I look at it. I am his wife. I tied my life to his. Unless I choose to divorce him, which isn't an option because he hasn't done anything to justify it, I HAVE to do this. I don't have a choice. I wouldn't do this if he wasn't my husband, it is really only my vows that keep me true to him. Of course I love him, of course I want to be with him... but it's my obligation to him and our marriage that makes me stand by him. What's wrong with that? Marriage is a lot of work and responsibility, it isn't just "I love you", ya know. Some, like when the man is in prison, is MORE work, some are less... but any marriage based ONLY on emotion is gonna fail. Sometimes you just have to suck it up and just DO IT. That's what I'm doing. I don't want to, I don't like it and I would never, ever choose this life for myself or ANYONE.

Mrs. Clarke · #**105** 11-12-2008, 04:13 PM

Well I can say for myself that I want to do this with him. I am not saying it's easy cuz right now there are more cons than pros in these situations. But I love him for him and I do not see my future with anyone else. Yeah there are so many lonely nights and everyone telling me what's wrong with me but you know my love for him overseas all of that.

Temeron0926 · #**106** 11-13-2008, 05:14 AM

My Mom used to say (one of her many sayings) "the only things in life I HAVE to do, is die and pay taxes!

I am here because I WANT to be.

cl1967 · #**107** 11-13-2008, 05:27 AM

I choose to walk this journey with him and he knows that. I won't ever abandon him, although sometimes I would like to thump him upside the head LOL!

Maya2007 · #**108** 11-13-2008, 09:04 AM

Im not married... yet. I really don't like to go through this but Im willing to go through this bid with him because I love him....

shadyslady · #**109** 11-13-2008, 11:14 AM

I certainly don't HAVE to do this and a big part of me doesn't want to either. I would not be doing this, with this much dedication, if it wasn't the man I truly love in there. I never thought I would be doing this in my life before all this began. I wish that the negative circumstances we are enduring were non existent but it is what it is. I do this because I love my man and I am here to support him as much as I can so we can see this through. I believe in him and we need eachother so that is why I am doing this bid.

krainium · #**110** 11-13-2008, 05:52 PM

Well for me I guess it's a mixure of wanting to and feeling an obligation. This is my husbands first bid and I've been married 17 years before he went in 1 1/2 yrs ago, it is unimaginable to forget all those years and turn my back on him, I look at it as this our life right now. And one thing I can say is I don't complain about the time anymore if ever I start to feel self pity, I go on the 'lifers' blog and it will give you a new appreciation for your situation.

Vanessa G. · #**111** 11-13-2008, 07:51 PM

Im choosing to stay while he does his time, the guy was put on this earth for me and only me so if he's doing time im doing it with him.

touchdiamonds · #**112** 11-13-2008, 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Wobabi

Asking,,do you have to do this bid,,,or do you do this because you want to? I mean are some really forced into being around or is it because of him that you stick around? I am sure some wives might say that they have to do this bid because they are married but do some do it because he is the man you want to be with too?
I don't think anyone wants to do a prison bid but do it because they just want to be with this man.
Am I making any sense?

You make perfect sense. No person "Wants" or "Asks" to be in this situation, but some of us Love our men enough that we WANT to do the bid with him. For me I definetely love my Fiancee enough to want to do this bid with him. He has asked me time and time again to just leave and let him bid alone, that it was easier if he was alone. Then he could just give up and do whatever time was handed to him. Everyone always left him when he was bidding before so why should this time be any different. I just told him. "I" am not everyone else. I am just me and I just love you enough to stick by your side through this. I know that he didnt intentionally get arrested and maybe had he known how I felt for him he would have thought twice about his actions. But this is the situation we are in now and I have to face that and deal with it becuase I love him. He NEVER once asked me for money I did that because I knew that he needed it to survive and that he needed it to keep in contact with me. aside from what he eats and putting clothes and sneakers on his feet all that money comes back to me one way or another. I love him and I WANT to be by his side. Right now aside from the issues with his ex girlfriend I am the only one by his side. Like we always say...Til death do us part...not Jail.

MrsFennell · #**113** 11-14-2008, 09:06 AM

I do this for both... I love him more than I ever thought anyone could possibly love someone else... I can't imagine my life without him in it. The thought devastates me!

xgot420issuesx · #**114** 11-14-2008, 09:10 AM

I have a saying I tell my husband,
"No one gets out of this marriage alive".
The only way one of us gets out, is if one of us dies, thats it.
We are in this for life, no matter where we spend that life.

LadyKisses · #**115** 11-14-2008, 09:56 AM

I personally want to do this ...Cause he has never had anyone on his side no one stuck by him and wanted to be thier and i want to be thier for him and myself.. I know I dont have to but I love this man with all my heart..And want to show him no matter how good or bad things get I am always going to be right here for you...

As my mama always said ..Behind every good man is a damn good woman!!!! I want to be his backbone and he be my backbone...if that makes any sence

good thread hunnn

**wizewifey** · #**116** 11-14-2008, 06:42 PM

It is something that I choose to do and not because we are married! I love him and it's unfortunate that he is where he is

matyrylgrl · #**117** 11-14-2008, 10:54 PM

We are not married and this is my 2nd bid with him. I could have walked away the second time but I did not - because I know he is the one I will grow old with. I could never turn my back on him when he needed me the most.

jcarrillo57 · #**118** 11-14-2008, 10:55 PM

I want to do this cuz i love him and promise to stay by his side thru thick and thin

sweetcheeks66 · #**119** 11-15-2008, 12:24 AM

I,m here for my man because I love him with all my heart, I know he's done some crazy shit, I know he's a real life gangster, but I also know he's a good man with a big heart who believes in god and knowes the bible too. He's always been good to me and treated me like a queen so I'll wait for him as long as I have to, I'll send him whatever he wants when he wants it, Thats my king!!!!

Savvy Sista · #**120** 11-17-2008, 08:08 PM

I guess for me, it's both. I want to be supportive of my husband and be the good wife that he deserves. I feel like I need to do this because he has also been the support system for his family and has never really had anyone to have his back, so I need to show him that not all women run when the going gets tough. My love for him is unconditional and this time apart has strengthened our bond in so many ways and taken our relationship to a whole other level. The love, trust and honesty that we have for each is very refreshing and reassuring

Fth8fulwife · #**121** 11-17-2008, 08:10 PM

I choose to do this Bid with my husband. Sometimes you have to think, if you needed him to be around and support you through hard times; wouldn't you like him to be there for you as well.

LadyChampion · #**122** 11-17-2008, 08:13 PM

for me it is both. I want to do this bid with him and i have to do this bid with him- i love him and will be with him wherever he is, no matter what he is going thru- we are gonna do it together! Its not just his bid, its our bid- we are definitely doin this together!

jeswannabhiswyf · #**123** 12-03-2008, 03:47 PM

Both for me. I am doing this bid because I have to stand by L in his time of need. But he is the only man for me so I want to stand by his side.

Miss Superwoman · #**124** 12-03-2008, 04:10 PM

I love this man and I am here because I want to be.

imissmybaby08 · #**125** 12-03-2008, 04:44 PM

Well u basically hit my answer right on....I dont want to do this bid with him.. But i will do it because thats the only way to have him in my life...So here i stand sticking by him as long as i can....I wont say forever...and he knows that...But i will ALWAYS be his friend...and i will love him forever...If my answer makes sense!!