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my2dannys · #1 04-28-2008, 12:39 AM

Well..I'm sure most can relate..Whose family you get most support from...
For me it is his...My family is not verysupportive at all..There are a few like my sis..but everyone else has their opinions and are very judgemental..Which is bull considering about 90% of them have been in prison at least once including my own mother who seems to think that it's okay if its her own in there but not if it is someone else....

I have always gotten more support from his family..Especially his mother ..Who I consider my own mama....It's very safe to say she knows me better than my own mama does...She doesnt cast judgement on people....She tries to help..

Even though it is HER son she is usually very fair and can see both sides of it and has been very helpfull to me during this time...

Does anyone else feel closer to his side????

24jf · #2 04-28-2008, 08:41 AM

HIS family, but then it's because most of my family doesn't know about us. Those who need to know and who support use know.. those who would be judgemental will know about us when he is home.

holdinghimdown · #3 04-28-2008, 01:06 PM

His family....of course...my mom may write every now and then...she wants to see what he is going to do when he comes home...my dad has been home for awhile and does not like the fact that he is holding my life up...his family loves that i am here to support their son...

kerlkaj77 · #4 04-28-2008, 01:13 PM

His family all the way. I met my fiance in high school and he has met my parents before but they don't remember him. We got together after he was already in, and my parents have no interest in even going up with me to meet him. They know we are getting married and STILL they won't have anything to do with him. His family on the other hand, have been SO wonderful and accepting of me & my kids. They even invited me to their family reunion even though he is in. I thought that was wonderful.

Isweoriswenot · #5 04-28-2008, 01:18 PM

My family shows more support than his does. His mom and family rarely even comes to visit him and my family does so I guess it's the other way around for us. It's sad that they playing it like they are, but I guess it's true what they say outta sight outta mind for some.

redhaired_dolly · #6 04-28-2008, 03:11 PM

His mother was my mother. I miss that woman. I don't know what I would have done without her. Back then we didn't have PTO. Just me and her. My family disowned me for awhile, even.

SexyChef1 · #7 04-29-2008, 10:24 AM

His family is way more supportive of us than mine...mine only deal with him for my sake.

G.Leyva · #8 04-29-2008, 12:35 PM

His is more supportive. My family only helps me and the kids, They dont really understand why i do what I do they just go with it.

mikesgurl · #9 04-29-2008, 02:42 PM

Both families are supportive in their own ways. My family gives me support that his doesn't, we are all pretty tight, but then again, my family consists of aunts and cousins because my immediate family (mother, grandmother) have passed away. His family is supportive of our relationship and they love having me over but nobody helps me support him. By that I mean that I am not just the only one sending him money/packages, I am the only one writing, accepting phone calls, calling his counselor when he was in receiving. I'm 7 months pregnant with his son and am a single mother to another son who's 10 so I've got my hands full. I can't wait until this is all over so that we can get on with our lives.

BabygirlNGary · #10 04-29-2008, 06:23 PM

My family is more supportive. His doesnt show support to him or me but that's ok all we need is each other.

bartonswifey · #11 04-29-2008, 06:24 PM

as far as emotional support his family but for financial support neither. it's all me. we barely got his dad to send 30 dollars after 4 months. it's sad. his mom writes him but when something goes wrong with his paperwork or something i have to call them to get on top of it since i am only his fiance.

silvergirl0007 · #12 04-30-2008, 12:37 PM

Mine is way more supportive than his. They aren't UNSUPPORTIVE ,they just pretend not to exist.

fyrenspyce · #13 04-30-2008, 07:39 PM

Well it's a bit of a mixture for us... he doesn't have many close family members, but his aunt is close and supportive. She writes to him and keeps in touch with me through email. His best friend supports us and our decision to marry and be together. My mother is my biggest support of all. She loves us both and writes to him some. She's ready to meet him when I go marry him!! They really have a great bond and respect for one another & it makes me extremely happy. He lost his mom 9 years ago so my mom is HIS mom. My other relatives are somewhat supportive but most just don't think/talk about it. I think it'll be different when he's here and they can meet him, see he's a good guy and means me no harm - then they'll warm up to the idea, I hope! Ha. But we have each other and that's MOST important... and the ones who matter to us most support us! SO we're good!

Fe*Fe · #14 04-30-2008, 08:55 PM

my family is kind of like bmarley's...they deal with him for my sake and my sake only! His family is pretty supportive though so I'm glad about that! Really... as long as his family keeps supporting him he doesnt need mine too...I just need my family to support me and we will be str8!

forever_ever_baby · #15 05-04-2008, 11:22 PM

his side for sure

lovelyladi · #16 05-05-2008, 01:36 AM

Family by blood? That is a mixture...His family loves me and us being together. Mine is completely unexcepting....at least the older generation is. My little sister and the est of the family that is around my age love him to death and actually call him family.
Friends that we consider family? Both... His best friend keeps in really god contact with us both. My friends are my safety net.

Foreverhis31907 · #17 05-05-2008, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by my2dannys

Well..I'm sure most can relate..Whose family you get most support from...
For me it is his...My family is not verysupportive at all..There are a few like my sis..but everyone else has their opinions and are very judgemental..Which is bull considering about 90% of them have been in prison at least once including my own mother who seems to think that it's okay if its her own in there but not if it is someone else....

I have always gotten more support from his family..Especially his mother ..Who I consider my own mama....It's very safe to say she knows me better than my own mama does...She doesnt cast judgement on people....She tries to help..

Even though it is HER son she is usually very fair and can see both sides of it and has been very helpfull to me during this time...

Does anyone else feel closer to his side????

Its a toss up there both good and bad in there own ways. I'm just glad that when one is being unsupportive the other family is.

sul'slady · #18 05-08-2008, 08:08 PM

I would have to say my family is much more supportive and understanding.

Seatrout · #19 05-09-2008, 03:55 PM

Both
His because they were so impressed with the amount of effort i was putting into helping him see through it.
Mine because they knew he was so important to me.

takenmomof3 · #20 05-10-2008, 06:36 PM

Both sides are supportive. My man was my older brothers friend growing up and he was always at our house, I've known him since I was 5 so my family already knew him. It was hard at first because they 'knew' all about him and didnt want me dating him when I started to. But they got over it. Both sides just want our happiness.

inmate_lover · #21 05-26-2008, 08:37 AM

Definately his family . My man got paroled on March 11th & we got married exactally 2 weeks later . Only 1 person in my so called family has met him , thats my niece and thats only because she was a witness at our wedding . Not 1 other person in my family has even made an effort to meet him . As a matter of fact one family member flat out told me that she was not ready to allow him in her house !!! I hate the judgement that they are laying on him . Im an adult and you would think that they would respect my intelect enough to look past all the bull$h!t lies that my ex told them about him and have some faith in me and my decisions. I try to act tough like it doesnt hurt but in all reality it hurts like hell . I havent seen anyone in my family (except for the ceremony day) since he has been home . My Mother is deceased so these ramblings do not include her , I know that everything would be different if she were still here . All she cared about was my happiness , she never judged a person a day in her life. His family is very supportive , they would do anything to help us out , its an honor to be part of his family .

LovingSoul4u2 · #22 05-27-2008, 06:40 AM

His as to him being there but they are definitely not supportive in all other ways.

jasonzwifey2011 · #23 05-27-2008, 10:38 AM

Neither, it's just me, myself, and I..

And the kids of course...

LostTime · #24 05-27-2008, 11:18 AM

Well I do get great support from both sides except my man's family is in Mexico now when they can they do try to be there for me but mostly my best friend and my sister in law and cousin are there for me. My mother and father forget it they have basically told me that when he gets out of prison that I'll be written off.

SIONEnMALIA · #25 06-07-2008, 02:59 AM

my family