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brokenhalo777 · #76 10-11-2008, 10:51 PM

I asked my husband this before he went in and he said "yes, I would be faithful, I really like j@cking off." But, I highly doubt he would be. He also like's to get down and dirty. lol

Vanessa G. · #77 10-31-2008, 01:43 AM

I know my husband would not be faithful, i have asked him and he did admit to me that he would not wait or keep his stuff in his pants. What a jerk.

JeromesBabyGirl · #78 10-31-2008, 07:16 AM

Yes I know he would be faithful to me. How do I know our love for eachother and our commitment to eachother is more important then anything out there. Plus hes not a cheater never was never will be.

MrsFennell · #79 10-31-2008, 09:46 AM

I have absolutely no doubt about this one... I know 100% that he would be true to me if the situation were reversed. I was a correction officer...it's how we met. I used to kid with him when we were in the early stages of friendship... he would make comments about how perfect we would be together as a couple and how it was a tragedy that we were unable to explore that option. I would laugh at him and tell him that all he had to do was wait for 11 years and then we could find out. He said it was a deal. Mind you... we were speaking in jest! Speaking as friends in a joking manner. But deep down I knew he was speaking seriously at the same time... I could see it in his eyes on occasion. Glad I was paying attention to detail! He was right too... we are perfect together

We will be married in 1 week and 1 day! SOOOOOOOO EXCITED to be progressing to the next level of this wonderful relationship with my soul mate and best friend in the whole world! To think... I could have let a lousy job get in the way of what has turned out to be the most fulfilling bond I've ever known!

JTsBabyGirl · #80 10-31-2008, 09:57 AM

I luv my baby with all my heart....and he is a great guy. I know that the road we are on right now, is leading us to a great future together when he is released.

HOWEVER....I'm not dumb....I know that if I was locked up, he would love...and do for me and "hold me down" but he would so be getting it on the side...

mandy0408 · #81 10-31-2008, 10:41 AM

I'd hold him to the same expectation of commitment he holds me to. What's with the double standard? It's not as if, just because their men, they can't exhibit some self control. I don't know if Ant would be faithful but I do know that if he wasn't I wouldn't just be okay with it. That's rediculous.

msholland1978 · #82 11-02-2008, 09:01 PM

I think it will depend on how much time I had.

KeithsWifeyxOx · #83 11-02-2008, 09:02 PM

If I was locked up, we probably wouldn't have even met in the first place since I doubt he'd want a girl in jail. =P To asnwer the question, I think he'd stay as loyal to me as he could. We can try to praise our men all we want, but when it comes down to it, men USUALLY have more desires that need to be met than women. I hope this doesn't strike a nerve in anyone, (I'm not trying to be sexist this is simply my own opinion) But I think women are very independent when it comes to relationships with someone who is locked up and we have a good sense of reasoning so we can brainstorm ideas to cope with it each day. However, men are a tad bit impulsive...They act without thinking at times and then later regret it. I think Keith would stick by my side, but I can't quite say I think he'd be faithful. But in my point of view, that goes for any man in this world.

lml4923 · #84 11-03-2008, 06:21 PM

I think about this all of the time and wonder if I'm being too perfect knowing how things would be if the shoe were on the other foot. I dont believe my hubby would be faithful sexually, or sit around waiting for my calls or write like I do. Good thing I'll be out here with him to keep him walking the chalk line!

lml4923 · #85 11-03-2008, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by faithfullone

Any Woman on here who thinks there man would be 100% faithfull to them if the tables were turn is dreaming. Hell it's hard for them to be faithfull when they are out here with us. It's like telling a child they could not have any candy right in frount of them when your not looking. Most men are not care givers and if they are out in the world all alone with no woman there to take care of them I would bet my life on them geting it from someone eles. It takes a certin kind of man who would be there and faithfull and they are few and far between. Like trying to find a neddle in a hay stack. This is my openion and none can convence me otherwize.

Thats preachin' right there girl! Amen!

ladyz1 · #86 11-03-2008, 09:35 PM

Every woman wish that their man would be faithful if the shoe was on the other foot. Me and my boyfriend talk about this all the time. And honestly i don't think so. He say that he would but with all reality a woman can go with out longer than a man..

mandy0408 · #87 11-03-2008, 09:54 PM

Sorry for saying so but my feet are firmly planted on the ground and I still do not believe any respectable worth-while man should go get "his needs met" elsewhere. WTF? Vows mean nothing to them given the circumstances? Bullsh*t! I'm not saying they'd all be faithful but this permissive attitude is so not what I'm about. I deserve the same level of respect and love as he or any man does. It's not "dreaming" that causes me to think this, it's my own knowledge of my WORTH as a human being. You know, a woman can get f*cked by a guard in prison, does that mean you'd do it? Futhermore, your MAN could be getting f*cked in prison right now. Is that to say they're all getting "their needs met" in there anyway? I think it's ludacris to just say "boys will be boys" about the whole thing. I'm out here waiting, it's hard for me but I'm not about to go disrespect the love I have for my man to satisfy an urge that can be kept at bay by using my hand and my own good sense.

lsustaita · #88 11-12-2008, 10:17 PM

Opinions are like a**holes....? Everyone has one and thinks everyone elses stinks...

Here again let me say EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. We're supposed to be.

My opinion regarding MY HUSBAND? He probably would've slipped away before I caught chain out of our county....I'm serious. Gone.

No doubt about it. And women like my little man. So.....Does it mean that I'm better? Or he's not as devoted? What does it all mean? Hell, I don't know. But I know that most men like having someone around...what's love got to do with it? Not much. I dont care for the hypocracy. I'd rather be alone than deal with someone I had no future with.

But my answer is that my husband and most of yours would not do what we have done. Not because they don't love or care about us. Because men and women are wired differently.

God Bless.

harryplat · #89 04-07-2011, 03:54 AM

He says it would, but I really do not think so. I know him as well and I know that if he was free and I was not he would "get some" elsewhere, but I know that once I got home would be just me and him.

Tina · #90 04-07-2011, 02:14 PM

I think he would be faithful. If not then I'd hope he'd just let me go because if I found out after the fact that he had been unfaithful I'd walk away. As far as I'm concerned expectations shouldnt be any different for men than they are for women. Faithful is faithful and unfaithful is unfaithful, period.

fabulouso1ne · #91 07-18-2011, 07:38 PM

I've just been thinking about me and my man, and reading other posts and stuff... and I think it is absolutely lovely that some ladies will wait over a year or 2 + for their man... but how many of you can TRULY admit to yourselves and others, that your man would wait for you and be faithful? I KNOW my man wouldn't. I've cheated on him once. I feel bad, yes... but it's done and over, a big mistake... Why is it ok for woman to wait for their men faithfully, but men wont?

His Girl 4 lyfe · #92 07-18-2011, 07:45 PM

BEYOND A SHADOW OF A DOUBT!!!

I know my babes would be right by my side, he would do anything for me he could, never, lie, cheat, or hurt me in any way. He is an older man, kids, been in bad relationship's. He is overwhelmingly happy with me and truly love's me, he would have no reason not stay by myside, or to stay faithful to me if i were locked up. We are happily engaged, and we couldn't be happier. This is just a little set back but we know we will be together again one day. He would stay by my side if i were ever locked up, wihtout a doubt.

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Originally Posted by fabulouso1ne

I've just been thinking about me and my man, and reading other posts and stuff... and I think it is absolutely lovely that some ladies will wait over a year or 2 + for their man... but how many of you can TRULY admit to yourselves and others, that your man would wait for you and be faithful? I KNOW my man wouldn't. I've cheated on him once. I feel bad, yes... but it's done and over, a big mistake... Why is it ok for woman to wait for their men faithfully, but men wont?

MrsField · #93 07-18-2011, 07:48 PM

Thankfully, I dont feel that way. I'm pretty positive my bf would be faithful as well. I'm not sure that I would put myself through this if I didn't believe he would. Hopefull, we will be married by proxy in a few days, and he and I share the same views on marriage. You do NOT commit adultery, it does not matter what the circumstances are. If you are unhappy enough to find someone else, leave. So yea..I do think he would be in my shoes if the situations were flipped.

HisFunSide · #94 07-18-2011, 07:51 PM

I asked if the tables were turned & I was the one down would he do as I am doing for him? He says without a doubt he would wait, I am the only one he wants to b with.

fabulouso1ne · #95 07-18-2011, 07:51 PM

I am VERY happy with my man. As I said just a mistake.. I just don't believe my man would wait for me.

**tee.dot.q** · #96 07-18-2011, 08:02 PM

I believe mine would visit faithfully, keep money on my books and on the phone. He would write and all that good stuff but I just don't believe he could make it past a year of no sex, should the roles be reversed.

Does it make me angry? Nope. I believe (for the most part) that men and women are just wired differently. Now, let's hope that I never end up there so we never have to find out

DP's Girl · #97 07-18-2011, 08:10 PM

Me and Dee talked about this at our last visit. I told him I know he would support me emotionally, take care of my kids, handle all my business, keep money on my books, visit me at every opportunity and always be available to take my calls. But I also believe with all my heart he would not be faithful. I think he would have sex and she would be aware of me and my situation. I told him I can see him talking to me on the phone and telling me how much he loves me with her sitting right there. I imagine her wrapped in a sheet and him saying you better not make a sound when the phone rings. He swears that wouldn't happen. He says that might have been true when he was younger but not now. He believes he would be faithful just as strongly as I believe he would not. But I don't worry about it because I know he loves me and we will never find out.

Hummingbird79 · #98 07-19-2011, 01:35 AM

Lets just say I know beyond a shadow of a doubt he would. He is tried, tested, & approved.

ceci · #99 07-19-2011, 07:37 AM

Im gonna ask him today when I write him to see what he says but i think he would send me money and pay for phone calls etc but he would also be out here doing him. But like the other poster said I think he would let any girl who came in the picture know about me.

LipsAreStillRed · #**100** 07-23-2011, 04:44 PM

I don't know if my man would be faithful or not. I know he'd do his damnedest if we were together, but I have my doubts that he'd succeed and, frankly, part of his failure would be thanks to any paranoia I'd have, too. He worries that I'm going to cheat and/or move on, anyway; I think it's a natural worry. Thankfully, I've gotten him to a point where he's not agonizing over the worry.

Personally, I wouldn't want to put him through waiting for me. I'll admit that I'm one of those people who would withdraw from family, friends, and loved ones if I was ever incarcerated. I'm not very close to my family as-is, so it'd be kind of easy for me to just shut everyone out. I know it'd hurt them, but I'd truly rather have them forget about me if I ever was incarcerated than have them struggling to deal with the day-to-day torment of having a loved one behind bars.

No money for me for niceties? I landed myself behind bars, I'll deal with it. No emotional support? Well, that does suck, but I'm sure I'd survive. Maybe I wouldn't be emotionally unscathed, but it's the choice I sincerely feel I'd make regardless of consequences.