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MsPrettiJackson · #**176** 04-18-2012, 12:21 AM

No they would do half of what we do for them. They may start off doing good in the beginning but in the end we would be alone and it's SAD. My husband says he would be down for me like 4 flat tires if the shoe was on the other foot and I look at him like he stupid every time and I tell him keep that lie & bullsh*t to yourself because don't nobody wanna here that lie but the lord...lol...

They say a lot of things when their locked up but at the end of the day WOMEN are UNIQUE!!! We love them, stand by them, support them, write them, visit them, except their calls etc., So PROPS to the men who does this for their wives/girlfriends and choose to stay. But most men WON'T!!

meaghandarnell · #**177** 04-18-2012, 12:26 AM

We've talked about it and this answer is probably not. He would try no doubt but the reason he respects what I do for him so much is because he knows he couldn't hold it down like me. That's just honesty even though some say they wouldn't be with him if he couldn't I walked into a relationship knowing I had a work in progress. We have been together before the incarceration and i know that my man would for sure send me money and come to visits I would hope but most likely not keep up with the phone and send letters. I don't think he would completely disrespect me by blatantly sleeping with every girl in town but I wouldn't doubt he'd have occasional slip ups. But I could live without sex forever it doesn't bother me but him? That's a different story lol.

MsPrettiJackson · #**178** 04-18-2012, 12:49 AM

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Originally Posted by meaghandarnell

We've talked about it and this answer is probably not. He would try no doubt but the reason he respects what I do for him so much is because he knows he couldn't hold it down like me. That's just honesty even though some say they wouldn't be with him if he couldn't I walked into a relationship knowing I had a work in progress. We have been together before the incarceration and i know that my man would for sure send me money and come to visits I would hope but most likely not keep up with the phone and send letters. I don't think he would completely disrespect me by blatantly sleeping with every girl in town but I wouldn't doubt he'd have occasional slip ups. But I could live without sex forever it doesn't bother me but him? That's a different story lol.

Well I can't live without sex forever, that's just NOT gone happen. June 10th is a year of Celibacy for me and it's been tough but doable. But now if imma wait til 2018(parole eligibility & review)-2026 (parole release date) absolutely not, but I'll go as long as I can.

Tbeaston · #**179** 04-18-2012, 06:24 AM

I don't think my hubby would be able to make it faithfully for any extended time if I were the one in prison. However, I wonder if all our men and husbands have a hard time being faithful because many women and wives (including myself) have basically made excuses for them and said "men are built different" "sex is just sex to men" "I wouldn't be mad, upset, break up or divorce my man or husband if he cheated". Aren't we as women basically giving them the "ok" that it's okay for them to cheat because we have given them "reasons" they can cheat and there will be no consequences? Maybe we should start sticking/standing up for ourselves and making our men be strong like they say they are. Cheating, IMO, is wrong no matter who is locked up but why wouldn't it be a deal breaker if my husband cheated but it would be a definite deal breaker if I cheated on my husband? Maybe I have been stupid all this time because I compare myself different (faithfully) than my husband and he is the smart one because he would get to "get his" if the role were reversed. This is all just my opinion.

ashley<3 · #**180** 04-18-2012, 09:37 AM

Hell no he wouldn't lol I just wrote him a letter with something about this too funny! But as in $ wise and a letter every now and then he would but i wouldn't put myself in that situation so no worries

broken01 · #**181** 04-18-2012, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by n016s

Ive made comments saying what would you do if i was in jail. His response was: i'd visit you every day i could and wait for you. I doubt he'd be able to do it faithfully though. It's sad but the statistics are there for a reason. When men go to prison, women move closer/bring the kids etc. men usually peace out! If i were to go to jail, i'd want to be single... It would cause me more stress worrying about what's going on.

So agreeing with you there!!!

hisfemale · #**182** 04-18-2012, 10:12 AM

I can easily say he would stick by me, in fact I have joked with him (I have a few speeding fines) I joked saying that if I ever go to jail it'll be from a driving offense and he got quiet and said he would be lost without me around and he'd have to visit me every possible day and he'd be waiting for me without a doubt, I trust that he would be faithful and wait but in reality you never know hey. Lol

samazing · #**183** 04-18-2012, 10:17 AM

First off, it's a good thing I don't plan on breaking the law (we all know sh*t happens, wrong place/time, involuntary manslaughter, etc.) because he'd be lost without me! So it's not something we really have to worry about, but if it did..

I believe he would, without a doubt. I'm sure he would have trouble writing to me all the time, but I know he'd be by my side & stay faithful. I guess we just have that kind of relationship (it was built on distance to begin with). It surprises me that so many on here say they think he'd have a slip-up. I could care less that he's a man with hormones... that is NO excuse to cheat on someone you supposedly love.

Today on the phone he actually mentioned a conversation he had with some of the other inmates the other day about this topic. I don't know their situations and if they do have someone at home, but he said most of them said they don't believe "their girl" is being faithful & what not, because if the shoe was on the other foot, they sure as hell would be out getting some. But really... I don't think any of them had anything serious as far as relationships go though, because you can't expect anything serious if you're not willing to reciprocate it. There obviously has to be more than just sex to have a prison relationship, lol.

fedup2018 · #**184** 04-18-2012, 10:19 AM

HELL NO! He will put money on my books but far as being faithful no way. I will tell him what he told me. Have your fun but do not let me have to go back to jail for life.

MsPrettiJackson · #**185** 04-19-2012, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by hisfemale

I can easily say he would stick by me, in fact I have joked with him (I have a few speeding fines) I joked saying that if I ever go to jail it'll be from a driving offense and he got quiet and said he would be lost without me around and he'd have to visit me every possible day and he'd be waiting for me without a doubt, I trust that he would be faithful and wait but in reality you never know hey. Lol

Yeah for a little while and soon as he get use to you being gone he soon would realize he has needs.

MsPrettiJackson · #**186** 04-19-2012, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by countryzgirl

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nuff said...

EXACTLY....they move on regardless of what we say are do. We support our husbands more than they support their wives..

snuggles37 · #**187** 04-19-2012, 03:41 PM

I know he would hold me down mentally but physically his ass would be all across NC... I just know it

imluvnmesumhim · #**188** 04-19-2012, 03:45 PM

No I.don't, he will keep money on my books, and be at visitations, taking calls, but I know he will use our son, to catch broads....

You should've known that I would stay by your side , You should've known your girl was gonna ride or die, And it just don't matter if ya rich or poor, Out or in doing 5 to10, You should've known better
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Babydoll818 · #**189** 04-28-2012, 12:17 AM

I believe if he got out and I ended up going in, he would wait for me. But, if we didnt know each other before i went in, he most definitely would not. I dont think most guys would, but for the ones that do- thats truly something special.

143forever · #**190** 04-28-2012, 10:40 AM

Im honestly not sure. I would hope he would but i definitely wouldn't hold my breath. Between holding down the house and taking care of our boy, that alone i don't feel he could do, so for the simple fact hes never done it yet. Thankfully i'll never have to find out but its definitely something to think about.

Actually, i plan on asking him this.

krystal1985 · #**191** 04-29-2012, 03:54 PM

To be honest I would say no... I really don't think he would

natemylove · #**192** 04-30-2012, 03:16 AM

We talk bout it, and he would

Zuweee · #**193** 05-01-2012, 08:15 PM

I think he would wait for me, if I got locked up after he got out. If it were just the other way around then I have no clue! I think he might flirt with a few ladies, but I don't think he'd full out cheat. He's more sentimental than I am

Southernsun · #**194** 05-01-2012, 08:47 PM

Funny I ask this in the letter I wrote today... he will prob say yes but to b honest I don't think I would ask him too. This is a difficult road to ride and I would ask him to endure it because I done something stupid and got caught.

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

Southernsun · #**195** 05-01-2012, 08:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Southernsun

Funny I ask this in the letter I wrote today... he will prob say yes but to b honest I don't think I would ask him too. This is a difficult road to ride and I would ask him to endure it because I done something stupid and got caught.

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

Wouldn't ....ugh I hate this phone

<3 Heart belongs to Droopy <3

jyjp · #**196** 05-03-2012, 07:13 AM

Thing is, females have emotional sex (more so then not) and males just have.. sex (everywhere anywhere anyone, more so then not) so it would be a LOT harder for bf's/husbands to wait on an incarcerated gf/wife. I applaud all those that DO wait though. It has got to be tough.

Scotties_Girl21 · #**197** 05-08-2012, 10:04 AM

Hmm.. interesting, I'd say he would write me and support me but his ass would be messing with other chicks I just know it. I'm gonna ask him this when he calls today lol I can't wait to hear his reaction.

Emms · #**198** 05-09-2012, 11:59 AM

Just curious, do you girl's ever wonder if he would do the same to u if we were the ones locked up?
Ie...stay loyal, the letters, money, support..etc.

verito7981 · #**199** 05-09-2012, 12:12 PM

I would tell him all the time when he would complaint about $$, letters, or anything id let him know if the shoe was on the other foot u wouldn't do even a 1/4 of what i do. His response would always be well we wouldn't have to worry because u won't be.in here.

No More Tears · #**200** 07-16-2012, 04:10 AM

With all of the shit that I have gone through with that damn man, I can honestly say shit no, he would not wait! Hell, he's probably looking for ways to get me locked up so that he can do a lot of shit. I can only tell you what I would do. I would not put anything pass a man!!