TEXAS marriage Q&A thread

[LanaJo]

Thanks mi, I did it in Gaines County which is West TX

[HiddenBlessings]

I got married to my husband while he was still in county jail. We got married may 28, 2010. We had planned on getting married but were not even officially engaged when all this happened. But when he asked me we actually thought he would be getting out of county relatively soon, but we didn't want to wait. After all it's not the ceremony, or where its done, or who is there, or what you wore thats important, it's the marriage, right? I thought that it would be awkward but it wasn't. It was certainly memorable! And it was sweet, and loving, and endearing, and the best decision I have ever made. And now that we found out august 26th that he has to go to prison for a year, we are both so glad that we followed our hearts and decided to do it then! I certainly dont think its a good idea to marry someone just so you can visit them, but if you know that he is The One, why wait? Love is love. And God doesnt care where you have the ceremony, as long as you do it for all the right reasons. The only hard part was not being able to touch, or kiss, as it was all done behind glass, and over the visitor telephone! Lol! We had a friend come in and perform the ceremony for us who is ordained, and my husbands best friend stood in as both his best man and my Man-Of-Honor! Some people didn't like it, but I wouldn't change it for anything. As my husband Nate likes to say, and everybody should take to heart, "THE PEOPLE THAT MIND DON'T MATTER AND THE PEOPLE THAT MATTER DON'T MIND!!!!!!"

[penfriend]

Originally Posted by ride_or_die

i am engaged to a prisoner in huntsville, tx. he wants me to try to find a way for us to finally get married. i dont know where to look or how to go about doing this. any advice, or suggestions on how to marry a prisoner. Anyone who has married a prisoner? SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!

yeah, I married one... only to find he was already married and scamming me... be careful !

[ggee]

Originally Posted by auntickynicky

Hey guys,
the love of my life is currently at holliday unit in huntsville, tx and since we didnt get married before he went in we had to get common law married so that we can have contact visits. im very happy we took the next step in our relationship. but i want to take it to the next level and have no idea on where to start. I was wondering if yall could help me with info on how to actually get married? ive looked up stuff on the internet but its all so confusing... ive tried looking on the forums but i didnt find really wat i was looking for and for some reason when i do searches it sais im not athorized idk... thanks so much!
thx, jimmys wife

Am new to ALL this,& shy,too, so pls bear with me..are there "rights" w/common law,is common law marriage even recognized by the system? My guy & I took 2 "Friends" to the Beach,the night b4 he went in, & WE had a ceremony between us & our Maker..WE are married in OUR Hearts..but doesn't seem to matter to the system,& We are both concerned about where he is going, & he has some health issues.. Meanwhile, the "friends" have been horrible to me, I don't think they'd even vouch for Our ceremony,at this point. Would appreciate any info about "common law" & "man's law".. I am also looking into marriage by proxy. Thanks,ALL!

[birdsgirl]

I have attempted to read through all the forums and I am 100% confused - I need a little help or guidance! I am in Williamson County - my boyfriend is in San Saba Unit in San Saba - if we are thinking about getting married by proxy - what is the first step that needs to be done. He mentioned something about papers that he needs to sign and I've got no idea -

Can anyone help me...
Please!

Thanks!!

[Waiting N TX]

Originally Posted by birdsgirl

I have attempted to read through all the forums and I am 100% confused - I need a little help or guidance! I am in Williamson County - my boyfriend is in San Saba Unit in San Saba - if we are thinking about getting married by proxy - what is the first step that needs to be done. He mentioned something about papers that he needs to sign and I've got no idea -

Can anyone help me...
Please!

Thanks!!

My husband and I just got married by proxy on 12/28 and for us it was fairly easy but you need to have patience. I actually found the paperwork online through the county clerks website. You have to look for absentee marriage paperwork or something like that. It gives you all the steps. You send it to him, he takes it to the law library and has it notarized but make sure everything is filled out completely or they wont take it. You need a copy of his offender ID & birth certificate. The go to the county clerk and get your license then in 72 hours take your proxy to any judge that does the marriages and your done in a matter of minutes. Its easy to do but just make sure he fills out everything on the paperwork, thats the most important thing......Hope this helps

[Lonzo's Lady..]

Originally Posted by birdsgirl

I have attempted to read through all the forums and I am 100% confused - I need a little help or guidance! I am in Williamson County - my boyfriend is in San Saba Unit in San Saba - if we are thinking about getting married by proxy - what is the first step that needs to be done. He mentioned something about papers that he needs to sign and I've got no idea -

Can anyone help me...
Please!

Thanks!!

The info you got above my post is correct; I got married by proxy last year and it wasn't all that hard and it didn't take long at all; a copy of his birth certificate and his prison I.D. was all I needed and I actually got the forms on-line; I'm in Dallas however. I posted to say you will get faster answers on PTO for any TDC related issue if you scroll down to the Texas Forums as opposed to posting here. We Texans are pretty territorial and pretty knowledgeable as well. Good Luck...Marcia

[lovin_banks]

hey, well i am trying to get married in bexar county texas(san antonio) i live in GA.. i plan on going to texas on february 6th. please someone help me out how to do this..i understand that i must get the proxy form and that i need to send it to him..and then what? do i need his birth certificate and ssn? wat do i need to do? pm me plz

[Lonzo's Lady..]

Originally Posted by lovin_banks

hey, well i am trying to get married in bexar county texas(san antonio) i live in GA.. i plan on going to texas on february 6th. please someone help me out how to do this..i understand that i must get the proxy form and that i need to send it to him..and then what? do i need his birth certificate and ssn? wat do i need to do? pm me plz

Yes you need to get his birth certificate but not his S.S. card; just goggle and down load the Texas Absentee Marriage Form and follow the instructions there. Once you obtain the form it will tell you how to proceed. You need to do this NOW like yesterday b/c it took us about 2 months from start to finish and February 6th isn't that far away...Marcia

[lovin_banks]

Has anyone gotten married by proxy in Bexar County...i live in Georgia but i go back and forth to san antonio. I want to get married by proxy this february with my boifriend..i have an absentee form or what ever it is called but i need to know if it will be accepted in bexar county.. i was wondering if someone could "walk" me thru this process... I plan on going to san antonio in february and i want to do it then..i will only be in san antonio for about 10 days.. I was wondering what i need to do...i already have the form..now do i need to send it to him..and i understand that i need some form of i.d.... do i need a picture i.d. and a birth certificate??? does he need to get anything notarized in there or how does that work... im kind of new to the proxy thing.. help!!

[mrszrod]

Congratulations!!!!

[lovin_banks]

Ok well when i send him the form and he fills it out what does he need to do? does he need to get it notarized or does he just send it back to me?

[C.Ricks'sLadii]

Im in Falls county and my baby is in Scurry County(Snyder)...Ppl keep sayin Proxy is better but I wud prefer if he was ther..Idk CLM I heard takes longe then Proxy..I guess everyone is diff...But we wanna get married on his BDay in April...Im still researchin tho!

[erinann]

Originally Posted by outlawsdeb

Well now that we have the proxy paper all i have to do is figure out what to do next....any help??? I know I am going to go to Texas to get married....I can't wait!!!

u cant just come to tx and get married. u have to be a resident....this aint vegas baby (although i wish it was)

[Lorraine]

Originally Posted by erinann

u cant just come to tx and get married. u have to be a resident....this aint vegas baby (although i wish it was)

Actually, Texas has NO residency requirements. You can just go there and get married.

[bunnylover]

Originally Posted by tx_tornado

My husband got the proxy papers from the law library.... You can get them at www.co.galveston.tx.us

I went to galveston county proxy papers (not notorized by the way) his birth certificate (certified copy) and my TDL and SS card, and walked out within 10 minutes of arriving with marriage license in tote...-36.00 for the marriage license

Was married 2 weeks later by a wonderful judge in Galveston County - 50.00 did it at his home in a little gazebo...

7 months of marriage----PRICELESS

Couldnt help myself. Galveston County is the easiest county to get married in - So I have expierenced....

Also had a hard time finding a judge who believed prisoners had the right to marry.. I called 7 in Walker County - 10 in Harris, 5-in montgomery and 2 in galveston all REFUSED except this sweet little judge

If you need any more information PM me and Ill be happy to help......


For out of state marriage - they need the same thing as if you lived in the state of TX..... helped a friend of mine do it recently....

I am currently in the process of marrying the love of my life, but TDCJ seems to really drag their feet in these matters. Is there any infor you can give me to help out. PM if you can help. thanks

[antoine887]

As answered in another thread

To answer your question, I suggest you contact the warden’s office of the facility where he is being housed. They will tell you if marriage in that facility is allowed. If they say it is allowed, but you have to supply a chaplain, justice-of-the-peace or other officiator, then ask them supply you a copy of the policy. Your chaplain should then be able to assist you make the arrangement.

Congratulations and good Luck!!!!!

[bunnylover]

It has to go through the approval process there. We have been waiting for over a month for approval. good luck

[Lorraine]

Bunny, I'm a little confused. What are you waiting on approval of? You don't need approval by TDCJ to get married.

[anna1863]

So I plan on getting a proxy marriage to my fiance within the next 2-3months and I'm lost. I am in Virginia and he is in TDCJ. Which kinda makes things hard. How would I go about getting the proxy info? Would I need an "absentee" proxy form for both of us? Proxy marriage is not vaild in VA but is vaild in TX.
I'm lost and confused on this as everyone seems to be in different counties in TX, as I am out of state! Someone help?!?!?!? Please??? **whimper** **puppy dog eyes**

-Anna-

[MikeysGirl2010]

Okay, here's a stupid question. I have the Affidavit of absence for a TDC inmate so we can marry by proxy. One of the questions is if he is delinquent in child support. Well, he is since he has been locked up for four years, so the question is: can we still marry since he does owe child support? I have searched all over the internet and cannot find an answer. The county websites are not listing it as a reason to prohibit marriage but I don't know. Please help.

[LadyFinch1974]

Originally Posted by christal

It seems as tho TDCJ has struck again. I have a Power Of Attorney from my common-law-husband and they notorized it. Of course this was a few years ago, but what if they need something notorized that has to due with their case? Out of luck I guess.

I have my fiancee' power of attorney. What he was told by the clerk is the federal law has changed. It is a paper that he signs with the clerk. No imate has to get anything noterized anymore. But you have to have that paper.

[dirty]

my fiancee is in new braunfels,tx getting ready to be sentenced how do we get married

[patchouli]

I believe Texas is one a handful of states that allow marriage by proxy. I can't answer your questions, but there are otheres here that are familiar with that process. Welcome to PTO!

[EmmeMarie]

Anyone get married ay Domnguez recently or even maybe Texas?