Welcome EVERYONE to the Long Term Offender Forum!!

[HesMyForever]

Hi luvin and covingtons...welcome to PTO and the Long-Haul forum. Glad you found us....this is a wonderful site with a lot of supportive people.

[faithwalk12]

My husband is serving a 10 year sentence. I am on a roller coaster ride, just getting started on this journey. I just hope I can keep my faith through this experience. some days are hard to get through. glad you are here.

[Tina]

Welcome to the long haulers forum. I hope you will be very comfortable here!!

Mrs. D
Long-term Moderatorr

[Colleenm]

Hello, ok, so Im a long hauler (first time Iv heard that phrase) and now Im not sure whether I should laugh or cry.
I am now one and a half years into a 30 year stretch with my loved one and damn its not easy. Today Im on a high because I received my phonecall and on Saturday I get to see him for half an hour and that is my highlight of the week.
You know what is so sad? In the short time that I have been coming to prison, I have come across women who have been visiting their loved ones for years and they dont make it. One week they are sitting next to you and the next week you hear that they have died of a heart attack or cancer.
Then I wonder ' Oh my God, is that gonna be me one day'.

[Tina]

Hello Welcome to PTO and to the Long Haulers Forum. I hope you will be very comfortable. If you need anything please don't hesitate to ask.

Mrs. D
Long-term Mod

[WifeOfSFS]

I'm a "long hauler", too. My husband hasn't been sentenced yet, but will be facing a sentence of at least 30 years. Unfortunately we have several weeks yet until he is sentenced, and I'm not so good at being patient and waiting on the judicial system. I'm very grateful to have found people who understand what I am going through!

[Tina]

Welcome to PTO and the Long Haulers Forum.

Have a wonderful day,

Mrs D

NJ and Long-term Mod

[HesMyForever]

Pardon my absence for the past 8 or 9 days...I was on a trip to NM with some classmates.

Welcome to all the new people to the Long-Haulers forum.... This is a great place to be when you're in situations like ours....lots of supportive people and great info.

Colleen...yeah, I can understand how tough that must be. I have only had the pleasure of visiting m'love once in the past almost-4 years (our next visit won't be til Oct due to distance and cost), so I've never experienced what you have...but I know my fiance has worried about something happening to me while he's in, since I do have some health problems.

Wife...yeah, they like to play the "hurry up and wait" game; sometimes I think the waiting and not knowing is worse. At least once you have the trial and know an exact sentence, you can begin to deal with it.

[Jexxi]

Well, this is as good a thread as any to introduce myself.. Mines in for 29 years..just started, never thought I would be living this life again..and certainly not for this long..but I figured, time is going to pass regardless of what happens right?
..Anyways, here's to getting to know everyone one post at a time..Jex

[HesMyForever]

Hi Jexxi...welcome to PTO and to the Long-Haul forum. Sorry you have a need to be here, but sure glad you found us. You've come to a great place...there's a lot of wonderful, supportive people here.

[Tina]

Hello Jexxi Welcome to PTO and to the Long Haulers Forum. I hope you will be comfortable here. We are a good group! If you need anything please dont hesitate to ask.

Mrs. D
Long-term Moderator

[Brokenheart617]

Hi everyone my baby is serving a 26-33 yr sentence he's been in almost 10yrs now and its a struggle everyday. I love him and will see this through till the end! Look forward to making new friends and listening to the stories. Feel free to view my blogs and read a lil bit about my story. Take care ev1

[HesMyForever]

Welcome to the Long-Haul forum brokenheart. This is a great place to be...lots of wonderful people here.

[Aysha]

Hi everyone. I am new here. But not new to having loved ones incarcerated.
It started with my father when I was young. But now my man is loced up in Ashland FCI. He has been locked up since 2000 and at FCI since 05 I think.
My issue is that I met him about a year and a half before he went in. We had a casual relationship but we started to develop more for each other but I had moved out of state. So I didnt tal to him again until he was locked up 200. I have always stayed in contact with him over all these years ut I was lost in my own self destructive life but still managed to maintain contact with him every couple months through letters. I have always held him close to my heart. He is so understanding and forgiving and doesnt judge me for my mistakes and I dont his.
When we aere together he was caring and compassionate considering how we met and the life styles we were both living.
Recently when corrlinks became available we have gotten really close. Plus I have gotten my life together and have been doing good for almost a year now.
All those feelings we had back then are flooding back at full speed.
And especially for me since I am not poisoning myself slowly anymore.
We are bonding like we could have before he left had we both been in better places in our lives.
He has another 13 yrs on his sentence. But because of the drug law changes and he has over turned a couple of his cases and is working omn over turning 2 others that enhanced his sentencing for this last time. He did 8 or 10 yrs before I met him on another conviciton. He has been incarcerated since he was 17 got out for 2 yrs and thats when I met him and then back in again with a 25 yr sentence.
He is trying to get his sentence reduced and possibly the enhancement dropped.
Saying all this out loud sounds insane. Why would I even let myself get involved like this. Bceause I see who he is. Not what he has done. He is not a bad person. He just wanted to make up for lost time the fastest way he knew how by making fast money. And in that 2 yrs he did start his own business and accumulate assets. Not bad for someone locked up all their life. But he is a good man. He is well spoken, educated, caring, and ambitious. He takes care of his daughter from in there and his mother. And he never ever complains about his situation.
I am so in love with this man but it gets really hard some days. I havent seen him in 10 yrs. I plan on visiting him in the next couple months.
But I am missing that emotional and physical interaction. I get so frustrated.
Then I feel like I am chasing a fantasy. I am letting this consume me a little. But only because I am not woroking or doing much right now because I just moved back from Florida so I have alot fo time on my hands. It is alot easier when II keeo myself occupied.
Is it crazy for me to let myself get close to him like this? I am close to him anyway but I guess I mean by wanting to wait for him and be commited to him.
I know this was long but I need some advice. I am going to stay by his side no matter what or how long it takes. But I have trouble with the notion of being commited to only him for who knows how long.
Thanks for listening.

[HesMyForever]

Hi Aysha....welcome to PTO and to the Long-Haul forum. I don't think you are crazy for wanting to wait for him. There are many ladies in your shoes waiting many years for their loved one to come home. It is difficult and you will probably go through all kinds of emotions over the course of the years, but that is normal. Meanwhile, try to keep busy...it helps a little to take your mind off the amount of time ahead of you. No one said this life was easy, but we are here to listen and to lend support and give advice when asked for.

[Tina]

Hello

Welcome to PTO and the Long Haulers Forum. I hope you will be very comfortable here. If you need anything please don't hesitate to ask.

Have a wonderful evening,

Mrs. D
Long-term Moderator

[ckacy24]

Im completely in love with my boyfriend ... we have known eachother for over a year and started going together in May. I swear even if he's not here I am the happiest ever in my life and wouldn't trade him in for any free man cause when he comes home he will be someone and we will show them all

[Tina]

Hello Welcome to the long haulers forum. I hope you will be very comfortable here!

[HesMyForever]

Hi and welcome ckacy to PTO and the Long-Haulers forum. This is a great place...lots of supportive people.

[Southerngirl71]

thanks to all. It's great to know that have a places to go when im feeling down about the time we have. Loving him

[HesMyForever]

Hi and welcome to PTO and to the Long-Haul forum Southern. Hope you enjoy your stay here...there are a lot of wonderful ppl here.

[waiiting4him]

I have been on PTO for alil while now but my boyfriend just currently got sentanced to 17 years. Hes already served 2yrs. But I figured I should pop into this forum and say Hello because we are just now starting on this journey.

So... Hello

[HesMyForever]

Hi Waiting...welcome to the Long-Haul forum!

[Tina]

Originally Posted by waiiting4him

I have been on PTO for alil while now but my boyfriend just currently got sentanced to 17 years. Hes already served 2yrs. But I figured I should pop into this forum and say Hello because we are just now starting on this journey.

So... Hello

Hello Waiting4him

Welcome to the Long Haulers Forum. I am glad you decided to join us.

[gitfresh]

Hello I am 2yrs into a 22yr federal bid...so I will be using this a lot..we have been together for 8yrs now and I will see him through this till the end...cant wait to read on how to keep myself sane..lol