Escape

[PineStraw]

Okay ladies, Ive been debating to post this or not. But finaly Im going to, because I need words of wisdom, wether they condem or condone me. I need the support of other women. I don't know how to start or decribe, but try to follow along.
Excape, its not worth it. I'll tell you that much. Its stupid and pointless and you'll only get caught. I wish my stupid brain would have figured that out before we tryed it.
My boyfriend was charged with 23 charges, 9 because I was 14 and he was 18, the rest for BnE and entering an auto. He went to court in january after being in jail for 20 months, and the judge droped ALL the statrape charges and left him with the BnE and entering an auto, 10 do 3 concurrent. he had a year and a half left, min security.
Once he got in prison he was on work detail, you know picking up trash of the side of highways. Well we concocted a "great" idea of picking him up and leaving.
I don't have a car though, so we used one of his friends before he got locked up. She picked him up, we got out. Everything seemed easy. They didn't even go looking for him for 3 hours. but when they did, they saw I was missing, put a warrent out for my arrest and searched my phone records. They got her number.
We live in georgia, she drove us to alabama rented us a hotel and left. when she got back the fed marshals were waiting. She told them everything. The next day as we were on our way to go get some lunch we got picked up.
That was the last I saw him. I was put in jail for a week, without bond, on the 8th day I finaly got bond and my parents bonded me out. But because of my charges I cant send or receive mail from him. I can't get phone calls. I can't know anything and its KILLING ME!
Ive been out of jail for a month now, his mom wont pick up my phone calls, I don't want to risk calling jails/prisons incase the "know" its me and put me back in jail. I don't know whats going on with him, he doesn't know whats going on with me.
I miss him and everyone is telling me its "wrong" to miss him, that HE convinced ME to do it, when it was more of a mutual thing. All of my family don't want me to have anything to do with him.
But ladies you know, I just can't give him up like that, I just can't get over him, not after all we've been through, and specially not after what we JUST went through.
I just know after not being able to hold him for 3 years, the 22 hours we had alone together felt, wonderful, perfect, amasing, awesome.
But not he has more prison time, and I might have prison time aswell. I dont know. I just wish I could talk to him.

thanks for taking the time out and reading. Just a word of wise, excapes NOT worth it.

[MizJohnson]

AW!

Honey, I'm sorry that this has happened. Yes, it was definitely stupid (sorry), but we are very blinded by love sometimes, and you are so young. Can you look his name up on his website to find out how long he has or anything like that?

Since you might have prison time, and he will probably have more prison time, my advice to you is to go through your life each day and do the best you can. Especially since you can't even write to him at this point, you are just going to have to take one step at a time and wait until you are both free to see if you both want to continue the relationship.

A lot can happen in a short amount of time, so you never know what will be going on in your life when he gets out. It hurts right now, I know that, but you will be ok. You can make it, and you have learned from this. Not only just to not try to escape, but you can also learn to think things through more in any given situation. You can learn to weigh possible consequences for any decision and if it's not worth it, don't go through with it. If you can learn that, you will be ahead of a lot of people

I wish you all the best.

[nimuay]

You're being given a time-out to try to learn how to think!!!!!! That's going to be a valuable tool, if you can only learn how to use it. Your life isn't about him. It's about how learning to respond to the world with the fewest nasty repercussions possible. Whatever you do, don't spend all the time that you're in and/or he's in to just pine about missing him. LEARN!

[Maggiemissing]

Wow that is quite the story. Have you been told you are not allowed contact with him? He didnt even have that long to go and he was in a minimum prison I could see maybe a lifer trying that because what do they have to loose. Anyways I agree take this time out to really think about things.
Good Luck
Maggie

[Wobabi]

Hunnie bunch you gotta think about this whole situation carefully. At 14 you had *boyfriend* who ran around breaking in people's shyte and stealing. Not once but many times. And now after getting off the first time for more serious charges involving you, he could not even wait 18 months to come home and do things right???
I hope and pray they only give you probation but that would more than likely hinge on you swearing to never deal with dude. Otherwise if the judge sees you are hell bent on dealing with him, he might try to* save* you by putting you on ice ,,there are too many women in prison behind thier *boy friend*.
I say this with love because I been here, done that and could write a book all about it.
Being charged with escape carries a jacket, they will be on him like white on rice from here on out, including his mail.

[Mauigirl]

Put it down to experience and learn from it
All said easily but hard to do. YOU CAN DO IT.

Write a letter every day to him and keep it in a safe place to give it to him later.

BUT for your other waking hours get involved in Life positively.
List some things you want achieve
You are a smart cookie you can do lots of things and you are only young.
Then when you do get to see him or speak to him imagine how proud he will be of you...and be proud of yourself...YOU CAN DO IT!!!

it may seem like the end of the world but it definitely is NOT you are still maturing and you all did something silly GET OVER IT!! and get out there
The world needs you! Pinestraw.
You are a caring kind and clever young gal have some fun and develop that smart mind you have!!

[DWsgirl]

When our house was raided my man and I went on the run. I was found after 6 months and luckly was not charged. He was on the run alone for another 2 years. We had no contact that whole time since they were watching me pretty hard. Waiting for me to lead them to him. Once he was found he spent 2 1/2 years in a state jail. After 2 1/2 years they decided to drop the state charges and he was handed a federal indictment. We still were not contacting eachother during this time. When the feds indicted him they released him and out him on pre-trial supervision. After he had been out for about a year we ran into eachother and got back together that night. At this point I already had tried to move on. I ended up with a real a** and had just left him. I had a son who was about to turn 1. My son and I had been thru hell and back with his father. My man and I picked up right where we had left off 5 1/2 years before. We spent the next 9 months as a family. He was amazing with my son. Then on March 4th he was sentenced to 55 months in federal prison. Now my son and I are picking up to move 12 hours from home so that we can visit him while he is inside.
The point I wanted to make is that you are so young, you need to live your life. And if it is meant to be you and your boy will find eachother again and have the rest of your lives. Dont try to contact him. You have enough on your plate right now. Consentrate on you and whatever will be will be. I am not even going to pretend that it will be easy. I cried for Dan for 5 1/2 years but, then GOD brought us back together at just the right time. He is my soulmate. Good luck with your charges and keep your chin up. You ever want to talk to someone who has been there PM me. I am on alot and always willing to talk.

[PineStraw]

thank you ladies.
I like to ssay, Im not really wallowing in self pitty, I am going out and doing things. Im hanging out with my friends, Im trying to find a new job, Im working on getting my GED so Im actually doing things. But I still miss him, but theres nothing I can do about that.
thats a good Idea to write him letters every day, even though Im not actually writing TO him. He'll be happy when he gets them.
It is a learning experience, and I hope I can help others learn from my mistake.

[his#1 bball fan]

PineStraw, it took a lot of courage for you to share your story with us and maybe someone here that's thinking of doing the same thing, will read it and learn from your experience. I know you are in a lot of pain right now because you miss him but if its meant to be you will find a way back to each other in the long run.
***hugs to you***

[caligirl07]

Wow, what a story. I think all of the advice that you got here on this site is really good advice. I especially agree with the person who said that if it's meant to be you will find each other when he is finally out of prison someday. In the meantime you should try and concentrate on your schooling and try to get as much education as you can. Which you mentioned that you were doing. So that is a positive thing. Please don't try and contact him while he is in prison, since they have made it very clear not too. It will only go badly for both of you if you do. He might get more time and you might be arrested too. You want him to finally get out of there. Hang in there and keep your chin up.

[Frezell]

We all have done something stupid in the name of love - OK you guys don't lie. Be it ignorant, stupied, crazy etc. The point is to learn from it and concertate on making better decisions. It is my feeling, if your love is meant to be, it will be. You will be together again if it is meant to be. I understand it's hard to not hear his voice or having the communication of a letter. If your love endures this then you have a powerful bond.

Now, that's something to look forward to!!

May GOD be with you,

Frezell

Originally Posted by PineStraw

Okay ladies, Ive been debating to post this or not. But finaly Im going to, because I need words of wisdom, wether they condem or condone me. I need the support of other women. I don't know how to start or decribe, but try to follow along.
Excape, its not worth it. I'll tell you that much. Its stupid and pointless and you'll only get caught. I wish my stupid brain would have figured that out before we tryed it.
My boyfriend was charged with 23 charges, 9 because I was 14 and he was 18, the rest for BnE and entering an auto. He went to court in january after being in jail for 20 months, and the judge droped ALL the statrape charges and left him with the BnE and entering an auto, 10 do 3 concurrent. he had a year and a half left, min security.
Once he got in prison he was on work detail, you know picking up trash of the side of highways. Well we concocted a "great" idea of picking him up and leaving.
I don't have a car though, so we used one of his friends before he got locked up. She picked him up, we got out. Everything seemed easy. They didn't even go looking for him for 3 hours. but when they did, they saw I was missing, put a warrent out for my arrest and searched my phone records. They got her number.
We live in georgia, she drove us to alabama rented us a hotel and left. when she got back the fed marshals were waiting. She told them everything. The next day as we were on our way to go get some lunch we got picked up.
That was the last I saw him. I was put in jail for a week, without bond, on the 8th day I finaly got bond and my parents bonded me out. But because of my charges I cant send or receive mail from him. I can't get phone calls. I can't know anything and its KILLING ME!
Ive been out of jail for a month now, his mom wont pick up my phone calls, I don't want to risk calling jails/prisons incase the "know" its me and put me back in jail. I don't know whats going on with him, he doesn't know whats going on with me.
I miss him and everyone is telling me its "wrong" to miss him, that HE convinced ME to do it, when it was more of a mutual thing. All of my family don't want me to have anything to do with him.
But ladies you know, I just can't give him up like that, I just can't get over him, not after all we've been through, and specially not after what we JUST went through.
I just know after not being able to hold him for 3 years, the 22 hours we had alone together felt, wonderful, perfect, amasing, awesome.
But not he has more prison time, and I might have prison time aswell. I dont know. I just wish I could talk to him.

thanks for taking the time out and reading. Just a word of wise, excapes NOT worth it.