How many are really riding with their man?

[frontlinelady]

I took my vows seriously and I meant what I told him the day he came to me telling me he was going to take the plea.....I love him and I will be faithful. God gave me this treasure and I will cherish him.
I have stepped out of the will of God too many times in the past and given my heart to men who were undeserving for the love and faithfulness I gave them...they cheated on me and I know how that feels.
I could never hurt someone the way I have been hurt....I wouldn't be able to live with myself knowing I was the cause of that much hurt and pain.

[JERRYSGIRL05]

its all or nothing so i chose all. ride or die till the wheels fall off.

[jonivea]

I know what I have, which is a Wonderful and Amazing Husband, and I'm riding this BID until the END......THROUGHOUT ETERNITY....

[sadinidaho]

HI. I have been without my husband for 15 months and I will admit I have cheated. I know I have done wrong and I feel terrible. When I did cheat on him it was not to find another man but to feel closeness to someone what I missed so much with my husband. I never became attached to the person and that person understands where i was coming from and he knows that I was not in love with him but I just needed him for closeness. I don't love my husband any less than before I cheated. Is this so wrong of me??

[nala08]

Originally Posted by JoseandJess

Well I didnt answer the question cause my option isnt there but its not cheating cause I am riding with him all the way. I do more than lots of people and more for him than anyone else has done for him. I am caring for him, writing, visiting, loving, mentally, emotionally taking care of him but physically he isnt taking care of me and we have an agreement if I get that feeling I am free to do what I want safely (as to not catch anything or get pregnant) and not to get emotionally attached. I am one of those girls who can do that, most can not but I can. So I am not cheating and just cause I may have my occassional fling or what-have-u I am no less riding with him than anyone else. Everyone has their own situations whether their man is locked up or not. Some people have open marriages/relationships and they work just as well for that couple. To each there own but If you choose to stay celibate more power to ya and you should make that clear to anyone who would try to hook u up with the next man. If he does another bid I am backing out. Also my personal opinion if a man gets himself locked up they hae no right (unless maybe they are married) to say you cant be with anyone while I am in prison for X amount of years because I couldnt do the right thing and stay out of trouble so now we both must "pay for" what I did. If he wants to move on that easily maybe he doesnt love you as much to move on to a new chick just cause she says she is "waiting" for him. Why is waiting not having sex. I am still waiting for him. Just my POV.

I totally agree with what you said. Being ther for him in all the ways that you listed is the best that you can in this kind of situaion. Right now, I dont feel like I want to be with anyone else, and it hasnt even crossed my mind. But at the same time, who knows what the future holds for any of us. We have never had a conversation about this, but I think that he woul dunderstaind, because he told me when he first got senteced, that he doesnt expext me to put my life on hold for him.

[lk5415]

Is a really good question...

I believe a lot of it comes down to how you and your man like relationships? Are you both traditional? Or newer?

Swingers? Open relationship? Do you believe that even if ur dating and not married your still considered "single?"

Like said before, everyone has their own distinct relationship with their partner..

If you can be with your man, have another man on the side with no feelings, and be honest and open about it with your main man, then do it.
If you want..

A lot of people would have a problem with that. No one can judge. Waiting is hard.

I, myself, am waiting and very faithful. That's just me, and I'm very traditional.

I guess what I'm trying to say is do what makes you happy. I have learned that sex is not everything. If you don't need it, and your man is in, and your truly in love, then wait.

But hey, if you're under different circumstances, then by all means do what makes YOU happy...because in the end...you are the only one that can make you happy.

[TEARS323]

Im his ride or die lady n forevr with him ill ride...

[Inmatez Wife]

Originally Posted by rodeointx

To honestly answer your question, this is my second bid and i wont ride another. its my goal to stay faithful and i pray for the power to do so. but if i fail then nothing can be said he was not faithful to me nor was he thinking of his family when he chose to start up dope again.

dont know how long he is down for yet but i can promise this, i will remain faithful as long as my body and mind will allow. if he gets a year should be no prob anything more cant swear to it and be honest.

Ditto. This is my 2nd bid also. Trying to do the right thing, and if I can't, then I guess we will need to talk. Thats all I can do, right?

[JMB1299]

I'm MWI so I do my own thing right now. We've made no commitment and we both agree we should not until we are in person and see how it goes.

[SSG]

I'm Riding. I can HONESTLY say that I wasn't always faithful. I got weak. BUT I can also honestly say that I broke it off with him before I dated anyone else. Even then I still wrote and sent pics ect. Fact of the matter is that I love him too much to walk away. I love him too much to ever be happy with anyone else....I know because I tried. When we got back together he asked me to marry him and ride this out with him. I said yes and I'm riding till one of us no longer walks this earth.

[zawjatufis]

I know

Originally Posted by Iuse2bhere

I wonder if anyone on this post would actually be honest enough to say they cheated?

[Brent's Babe]

I know
Quote:
Originally Posted by Iuse2bhere http://www.prisontalk.com/forums/ima...s/viewpost.gif
I wonder if anyone on this post would actually be honest enough to say they cheated

Uh yeah. Have you actually read any of these threads? There are several post were woman have been "honest" enough to say they cheated. But there are also a lot of women who are holding it down for their man and being faithful!

[Brent's Babe]

I don't know why that links there with my post....oops lol

[2nice]

Originally Posted by zawjatufis

I'm tired of people tryna hook me up with other men. I am riding with my husband because I love him and I don't have the desire to be with anyone else ever. I made the mistake of being with soemone else and almost lost him to another woman willing to wait for him but I will not let that happen again.

Oh how I feel you on this, except the part about others trying to set my up with other men.
I fell weak and went into the arms of another man, and the result almost lost me the man I love so dearly to another woman who was lurking in the background, waiting to call my man her own!! Thankfully, after a lot of communication, me and my man have decided to work through my weakness and show the world what foundation we are made of... So I am definately 'riding' with him now! Once biteen, twice shy!

[WillzWife4Life]

I don't know what you would classify this as...but here it goes...
My husband is spending 24 years of his life behind bars...We are young I'm 25-he's 26...and he's been locked up since 19.
Way back when he gave me permission to have sex with other men, just not to get emotionally attached.
I've done well so far...and I have slept with another man since he's been locked up, but that has come to an end.
As we get older...speaking for me...I'm growing closer to my husband emotionally, since that's all we really have. Even though he gave me his blessing, I know how much that must've hurt his heart to do so.
I choose to stop because I love him so much...there are no words to even explain how much...
He doesn't even know about my decision to stop...if he asks (which he doesn't often) I'll tell him, but other than in the beginning...I haven't slipped and I'm proud of it!

[thenderson]

I love him, I do, I have alwayz wanted him and Ihave him, Our love is beautiful and my man he completes me, when I do get lonely I read a letter to bounce me back there is no one out there for me , the only man that I have given my heart and soul too is Corey. I am devoted to us, I would not do this for no other man.

[UMMGHAZI]

I haven't cheated as of yet allah knows best insha allah i don't

[chiefsbaby72]

I am taking this ride with my fiance. I did mess up once but then felt like sh*t afterwards. I felt so bad that I told him myself what I did. He said he respected me cause I told him myself. Now we have worked through it. What makes this case weird is I cheated with someone his own brother fixed me up with.I learned from this experience that we really do love each other so I am gonna be 100% on this ride with him for here on out.

[Ms Nick Deere]

I am here now and forever. i love him to much am addict to his love he shows me....and he mines. with true love its never ending no matter what. Am a straight up rider.

[angelbaby67]

im riding all the way,,ive stood behind him thick n thin and gave to him when i couldnt myself,,but id have to say, if theres ever a next time he better think cuz hes riding alone

[Mrs.Official05]

Always have been and Always will be..

[Chellie]

I am ridin' for my man 100% this time. I am staying fathfull...allthough I don't know if being faithfull defins ridin' or not I guess it depends the individual relationship. I have to ride this time because I knew what I was getting myself into when I got with him. I knew the risks that come with the lifestyle he was living and I still choose to be there. However he knows that if he comes home and does the same shit that got him there in the first place i'm gone.

[IMissTom]

i havn't cheated i have 3 years left at of a 3 year 5 month sentence so i have done to much time but i wont leave or cheat on him but i dont judge people that have cheated this isn't easy

i will stay completely with him this time but i cant promise if this happens again but i believe it wont

[Chellie]

Originally Posted by WillzWife4Life

I don't know what you would classify this as...but here it goes...
My husband is spending 24 years of his life behind bars...We are young I'm 25-he's 26...and he's been locked up since 19.
Way back when he gave me permission to have sex with other men, just not to get emotionally attached.
I've done well so far...and I have slept with another man since he's been locked up, but that has come to an end.
As we get older...speaking for me...I'm growing closer to my husband emotionally, since that's all we really have. Even though he gave me his blessing, I know how much that must've hurt his heart to do so.
I choose to stop because I love him so much...there are no words to even explain how much...
He doesn't even know about my decision to stop...if he asks (which he doesn't often) I'll tell him, but other than in the beginning...I haven't slipped and I'm proud of it!

If you came to an aggrement with your man then it wasn't a slip. Be proud of yourself 24 yrs is a long time and the fact that your there makes you a rider and a very strong woman. Not many women can do this for that long...

[jusdiva]

I hope no one takes offense to my saying this, but I hate the term "ride", I just find it so ridiculous, as if I am in the middle of a hip-hop song!!! I call it being his "woman", which is exactly what I am...not to pass judgement on anyone, to each their own...I don't & would never cheat & if I did I would not have one problem admitting it b/c I am grown. I stand by him physically, emotionally, mentally, all of the above, b/c I know he does the same for me. I think "riding" is so far overrated, but like I said to each their own!!